Monday, November 17, 2025

Mindset and Running


Running has taught me a lot about life. One of those life lessons is that mindset matters, a lot more than I think! Although I do not believe that mindset matters to the extent that a person can "manifest" things into being, I do believe that mindset helps a person achieve full potential.

I think I read about the power of mindset in running first from Elizabeth Clor. She wrote a book about how her mindset held her back from qualifying for the Boston marathon, and how work with a sports psychologist helped her shift away from a cycle of failure (Clor, 2016). Clor has now run the Boston marathon at least four times (Clor, n.d.). Steph Bruce has a GRIT motto, which she uses to encourage herself to dig in deep physically, as well as mentally (Bruce, 2018). I never really thought about mindset and running until I wanted to get faster.

I practiced the GRIT mindset and dug in before I went further into mindset. I did that first in my third 10k, digging in for the second part of my 10K when I found things getting hard. I ended up with a personal record [PR]! I practiced mindset more than physical moxie in my Thanksgiving Turkey trot. I was not really in shape, but wanted to try hard...and I PR'ed again. Repeat for the marathon and my most recent half-marathon when I am pretty sure I PR'ed by giving it my all in that last tenth of a mile. Apparently this is a thing, as Olympian Aliphine Tuliamuk PR'ed at the New York Marathon after not much training, but going in with an attitude that she was going to give it her all. Mental toughness is a big part of running (van Sprundel, 2022). Running is a mind and body sport.

Running well requires presence in the current moment. Be tough in the moment, and I might be able to tough out a good race, or finish a less-than-good race. Take on the whole race, and I might not try my hardest. I might be done, and not even finish. I heard somewhere the phrase, "Why not today?" That is a good phrase for running in the moment, and living in the moment, too. Why not live fully, give my best now, today? I am not guaranteed tomorrow.

Thinking well is not only beneficial for running, but in line with Scripture. Paul encourages believes to "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" (New International Version, 2011, 2 Cor 10:5). In the famous Philippians 4 passage, Paul encourages readers to think about "whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable...excellent [and] praiseworthy" (v. 8). Having the right mindset requires taking captive anxious and fearful thoughts (Brooks, n.d.). It requires putting ego to death and thinking truth, about potential, but not in a prideful way. It seems having the right mindset is a discipline that takes practice.

I don't have mindset all figured out, but I am realizing that it matters a lot more than I thought, in running, and in life. Maybe it is a way my mind is growing wiser, even as my body ages. Maybe the former makes up for the latter? I don't know. Whatever the case, I hope with the Spirit's help, that I continue to improve my ability to practice a productive mindset so that I may do all things to my best, and to God's honor and glory.

References:

Brooks, A. (n.d.). Shut down the negative voice on your next run. Run to the Finish. https://www.runtothefinish.com/overcome-negative-thoughts-while-running/

Bruce, S. (2018, October 5). G-R-I-T. Steph Bruce. https://www.stephbruce.com/blog/2018/10/1/g-r-i-t

Clor, E. (n.d.) Race history. Racing Stripes. https://www.elizabethclor.com/p/marathons.html

Clor, E. (2016). Boston bound: A 7-Year Journey to Overcome Mental Barriers and Qualify for the Boston Marathon. Create Space Independent Publishing Platform

Feller, A. (Host). (2023, April 20). Live at the Boston Marathon with Sara Hall, Aliphine Tuliamuk, & Sara Vaughn. (No. 632). [Audio Podcast]. In Ali on the Run. https://aliontherunblog.com/2023/04/20/632-boston-marathon-live/

New International Version. (2011). BibleGateway.com. http://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-International-Version-NIV-Bible/

van Sprundel, M. (2022, April 26). Running and the science of mental toughness. The MIT Press Reader. https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/running-and-the-science-of-mental-toughness/


Saturday, November 15, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 46)


The Eats:

Butterscotch Pie (Sally's Baking Addiction)

Healthy pumpkin banana muffins (Mary's Whole Life)

Homemade healing chicken soup (Mary's Whole Life)

Homemade salted caramel (Sallys' Baking Addiction)

Instant Pot beef and cheddar ranch potatoes (365 Days of Slow Cooking)

Wild rice and mushroom soup (Meal Prep in an Instant)

The Empties:

Three pounds of baby bella mushrooms
Head of butter lettuce
Five pound bag of carrots
Three boxes of chicken broth
Carton of cocoa powder
Two pound bag of frozen broccoli
Tw0 boxes of chicken broth
Frozen chicken broth
Frozen easy buttermilk cornbread (Cafe Delites)
Dozen eggs
Favorite Day pumpkin spice trail mix
Old garlic
Fresh ginger
Container of Greek yogurt
Pound of hamburger
Carton of heavy whipping cream
Jar of mayonnaise
Instant oats
Five pound bag of potatoes
Rotini pasta
A pound of split peas
Airplane pretzels
Can of pumpkin
Head of romaine lettuce
Unsalted peanuts
Rotini pasta
Zucchini

What went to waste:
   

Nothing that I know of this week!

Monday, November 10, 2025

The Night Run 5K

How it started:


Versus how it's going: 


One of the first/last things my (now) husband and I did as friends was the 2018 Butterfly Run. The race was at best, awkward. He said he just wanted to be friends, and I was trying to honor that, but he kept showing up at all the things I wanted to do. I wanted to run this race, but then he said he wanted to try a 5K, so he signed up. I wasn't against him coming, but I was trying to create distance between us, because I liked him as more than a friend, but was trying to honor his wishes. Add to this race the awkwardness of my Oklahoma best friend being in town and wanting to meet this guy who wasn't my boyfriend.

The 2018 race started out hot. He kept up with me for about a mile, and then I sped up to drop him. I could tell he was struggling, and well, I wanted to run my race. Even though I took off, he still managed to place in his age group. I guess it was a small race.

A lot of my photos from that race had my husband in them, but I didn't post them. We had a long chat about that. I told him that I didn't want people making assumptions (which they were already doing), and I was not going to feed the fire. I told him that I valued his friendship, and was trying to honor that privately rather than publicly.

That race and conversation led to a weekend hike and a conversation about where we wanted our relationship to go. As of November 10, 2018, we were dating. Christmas Eve 2018, I told him I loved him. We got engaged March 10, 2019 and married June 10. The rest is history.

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I always try to do something a little extra special for our dating anniversary. My husband took up running during 75 Soft, and though he was not quite up to 5K in distance, I thought he was close. We both like sunsets, so when I found a sunset run the weekend of our date-i-versary, I asked my husband if he was interested. Given that it was the same weekend as the Scottsdale Canal Convergence, I thought we could run, grab dinner, and then go to the outdoor art show.

Since the race was small, bib pickup was the day of the race. That wasn't great, as we had to walk from the parking garage to the park, and then back to put away our shirts. While it was not a long walk, I wondered how it would affect me, as I had done a 12 mile training run with speed work in the morning. I seemed okay.

I used the outhouse at about 5 PM. At about 5:15 pm, we both ate a fruit strip. I was not planning to race, but I also wanted to fuel well since I had already run so much. The raspberry lemonade was tart, but I got it down.

We had decided ahead of time to go out at an 11:00/mile pace. While there were not a lot of people, we had to dodge a few, and then settled in. We only had to cross one main road, and they had that blocked off, so it was an easy course along the canal path overall. My husband's PR distance was 1.5 miles from an event we did in September. My goal was to help him PR that. We did, getting to 2.1 miles before he cramped. (This has been an ongoing issue that we have not quite figured out.) We walked, breathed, and stretched for 0.1 mile and then kept at it. I was cheering him on, and he said he wanted to quit about 3 miles, but on sheer determination, he finished, in 35:02.1. He was pretty proud that his bib number was 54, and he finished in 54th place. (Somehow my time was 35:01.2, even though I am pretty sure we came over the line together.) We knew we hadn't placed, so we grabbed some water, took a tunnel medal picture and headed for dinner.


As usual after a race, we did burgers. Shake Shack this time! We carried the meal over to Canal Convergence and I inhaled it. My husband was surprised when I finished before him, as that is not usually the case. I guess I was hungry?


We walked around and saw a few exhibits, and then lined up to watch the showtime fire show, which is the highlight of the night. We squeezed in a photo booth visit and then headed home.


Overall, it was a great experience. Running is for health, but also for community. It is to do hard things, but also to have fun. It is to chase PRs, but also to chase love, of each other, and of the sport. The night run was an example of this, and I hope for the chance to run more with my husband soon!

Real Life Marriage: Trying to Balance It All


I have been trying for a long time to figure out how to balance it all: his needs, my needs, our needs as a couple, our marriage. For the first part of our marriage, I leaned into trying to serve my husband and be everything to him. That kind of backfired, as I found myself basing my self-worth on whether or not I pleased my husband, dangerous for him, and for me. 

I experienced a strong recoil reaction and started to be more of a loner in our marriage. I was not trying to be selfish, per se, but rather trying to find myself as a married woman. I am sure I was selfish on many occasions in this pursuit.

It is really hard to find balance in marriage, to value my husband, to value myself, and to value us. As Jennie Lusko writes in her devotional with her husband, The Marriage Devotional, this balance "is not about disregarding your own thoughts, hopes, and dreams. It is elevating the person in your life to honor them, think well of them, and life them up. It's not diminishing you or tearing both them and yourself down....It's being able to life up someone else without pouring contempt on yourself or thinking of yourself as less-than" (p. 311). Tricky.

I don't think we balance it all well a lot of the time, most of the time, but by God's grace, sometimes we get it right. I think our fall trip to Utah was one of those times. We spent time together. We spent time apart. We both chased some of our goals. I came away feeling full, of love for my husband, love for God, and appreciation for my life. 

Will these times happen often? Maybe. I certainly pray for more of them. In the meantime, I am appreciating this one, treasuring it in my heart, and allowing God to remind me that all things, even seemingly impossible things, are possible in and through Him. To Him be the glory, amen!

Reference:

Lusko, L., & Lusko, J. (2022). The marriage devotional: 52 days to strengthen the soul of your marriage. W Publishing Group.

Saturday, November 8, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 45)

The Eats:

Chicken lettuce wraps (Meal Prep in an Instant)
Kung pao chicken (Meal Prep in an Instant)
Simple sesame rice (Budget Bytes)
Simple tuna salad (Life is But a Dish)
Sourdough coffee cake (Plum Branch Home)

The Empties:

Jar of applesauce
Fresh broccoli
Brown rice
Bag of baby carrots
Two pound bag of cheddar jack cheese
Bag of cheese sticks
Bag of clementines
Half gallon of milk
Fresh ginger
Green onions
Green pepper
Jar of Costco peanut butter
Frozen best sourdough protein pumpkin bread (Unexpected Gardener)
Frozen pumpkin protein muffins (The Clean Eating Couple)
Red pepper
Head of romaine lettuce
Brown rice
Bag of semisweet chocolate chips
Frozen sourdough discard pumpkin bagels (This Jess Cooks)
Frozen sourdough pumpkin muffins (Mel's Kitchen Cafe)
Bag of split peas
Frozen sweet potato lentil soup (From My Bowl)
Box of Trader Joe's Pumpkin O's
Can of tuna
Can of water chestnuts

What went to waste:
   

I am having a lot of issues with bruised bananas, but doing my best to use what I can of them!

I did forget that I made 
protein peanut butter (Nadia's Healthy Kitchen) and it molded, so the rest of that got tossed!

Monday, November 3, 2025

Half Marathon #5, State #4


Y'all, I ran my fifth half-marathon, and hit a total of three states I've run in this year. This was more of a run, than a race (more on that later), but I am still so, so, happy and grateful. So let's get into it, shall we?

How I Decided on the Race

My husband wanted to go to Salt Lake City, Utah for a concert with friends. He wasn't sure if he wanted to leave me behind, so I found a reason to go--a race! The Traverse Mountain Half-Marathon looked pretty and more low-key. It wasn't too expensive, so I signed up! I thought this race would be easy, one I could run while training for my next big hurrah. After the Nationwide Columbus Half-Marathon, though, I was not sure. I had some initial soreness and then felt depleted. I had a few good runs prior to this race, though, so I decided to go for it. I also carb-loaded like a boss (or at least I think I did)!

The Days Before the Race

I was really hungry the week of the race, so I just ate and ate and ate. Maybe I overate, but at this point, I just wanted my body to have what it needed for the race. Although I might not have needed a three day carb-load, I did one anyway. I hit way more than 400 grams of carbs a day (but I also ran seven miles Wednesday, eight Thursday, and one with a walk on Friday). I was curious what would happen with only one mile run on Friday (I usually run an easy 5K), but I was not really racing this race, so I still don't think I fully know.

The week of the race was fairly stressful. I tried to get to bed at a reasonable time each time, but struggled with that. I also felt like I had so much to do, and not as much down time, or time with my husband as I would have liked. We made up for that Friday with a bit of a busy morning, but then a complete rest after our flight. Our midday flight to Salt Lake City was only about an hour, and once we got to the hotel, we chilled with a Christmas movie (our Halloween tradition), ate carbs for dinner, and then I sat in the hotel bed scrolling my phone, planning for the race, reading, and eating more carbs.

Race Morning:

We got up at 5 am. I dawdled around the room doing PT, reading, etc. until 6 AM, and we left shortly thereafter. I made coffee and drank that (with my RNWY) in the car. I also ate a strawberry bagel. (Pretty much, I followed my Nationwide Columbus Half-Marathon fuel strategy.) It was dark and cold, but looked like it would be a nice day: with lows in the forties and highs in the sixties, with clear skies overall. The forecast was accurate, but man was a I glad for gloves, arm warmers, and long pants. Since the sun rose at 8 am, I only needed my sunglasses on the way back.

I had to pick up my packet race morning. That was not a bit deal, except that it was dark, and I did not necessarily know where at the park to go to pick up my bib. My husband found a parking lot, and we traipsed up a hill, across a road, and through some grass down into the park, at which we found closer parking spots. I suggested that we move the car, and we did, but it was a bit of a slippery walk to do so, with frost on the ground. 

I got really frustrated trying to clip my bib on my shirt. I couldn't get it even. My fingers did not want to work my bib boards. Thankfully my husband threw the shirt over the steering wheel and managed it for me. That is love right there, and saved me a lot of what would have been wasted stress and energy.

I stayed in the car until about 7:30 am, at which point I went and ran an 0.6 mile warm-up (since 13.1 plus 0.6 equals 13.7, and I am 37.) I went to the bathroom again and went out for the course briefing. Apparently I did not listen as well as I thought I did, which I will go into later.

Goals:

My training plan said to do a 12-14 mile aerobic run this day. I initially read that as "easy run, which would have been 9:10-10:30/mile. But I misread. It said aerobic, which was 8:40-9:55/mile. Whoops! I still thought I could do that, but it might be a little bit harder.

I had no official A, B, or C goals. My goals were to run the training pace if I could, and somehow run under two hours.

Strategy:

This race had some hills, and I knew those might be hard. Looking at aid stations, I decided to fuel at approximately 4 and 8 miles so that I would have fuel. That meant taking a gel right before the start, which I did.

Course:

Miles 1-2 The first mile was pretty easy. Then we hit a massive downhill. I am a flatlander, so going up or down hills is not my speciality. Lots of people passed me on this hill, but who cared? I was running, not racing (and that is what I repetitively told myself). Mile one came in at 8:31/mile and mile two at 8:40/mile. Right on the money.

Miles 3-4 The race followed the Murdoch Canal Trail and was a little up and down, but overall, a beautiful run. We could see mountains and trees with fall colors. A few people came out to cheer on their loved ones. One mom's kids were in this stretch. That was so sweet to see. I played cat-and-mouse with her the whole race (more on that later), and enjoyed seeing her fan club.

"This is awesome," I thought around mile three. "I should run more races in more places for fun." And then I hit mile four and thought, "Why am I doing this? This is long." I see that I broke down some around this point at Columbus, too, so maybe I need to gel at mile three, like in a marathon, instead of at mile 4 or 4.5, like I did here. Something to ponder. Mile three came in at 8:07/mile and mile four at 8:08/mile. Maybe I was also just going too fast....

Miles 5-10 We switched to the Utah Rail Trail somewhere in here. There was another long hill around mile five. I just told myself I could do it and kept running up it. Thankfully, I was not racing, so I could just go at my own pace. As things flattened out, I could see a hang glider training area. It was pretty awesome to watch the people soaring up, down, and around. We descended a little bit into Shadow Ridge Park, and there did a loop. This is where the catch came in. I heard, "Do a loop." My husband told me he heard that we were supposed to do two loops. Well, I did not see any indication of that, so I just did one and kept going. I felt like my effort was about 4/10 here and felt great!

I have decided that I really like out-and-back races, because of the ability to cheer people on coming the other way. Maybe I am that annoying positive person, but you know what? I like runners, and I think it is a way I can contribute to the community, so I did it.

We went down that big hill, and then up and down a bit more. I gelled again at eight miles. At ten, I passed a gentleman who was struggling at little bit. "Just 5K more," we told ourselves.

Mile five came in at 8:15. Mile six was 8:36/mile. Mile seven was 8:19/mile. Mile eight was 8:07, mile nine, 8:41/mile, and mile 10, 8:23/mile.

Miles 11-12 Things were going pretty well here, I ended up passing the mom who I saw with her kids earlier in the race. She appeared to be cramping up a big, as I saw her stop and stretch a few times. I thought I could pass her, and , I did. I felt a little bit bad, though, as I was not racing, and I wondered if she was. "Should I let her back past me?" I wondered. I yelled back that I was going to pull her along. She said I might need to.

Then came that big hill I had run down. I knew it was coming. I said, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" and went up it (Phil 4:13). I was not pushing. I didn't want to push. Strong mom passed me, which I expected she would do. I passed her again on the flat, but as we rounded the course into the finish line, so got ahead. I didn't try to keep up. I didn't want to hurt, and I wanted her to beat me, especially if awards were on the line, and I thought they might be. Mile 11 was 8:12, and mile 12, 7:53.

Mile 13-13.1 The race course was short, and I came over the line somewhere around 12.89, if I remember correctly. I threw my hands up as I went through the arch and yelled at my husband that I was going to keep running. I am that runner who wants the full distance. Mile 13 was 8:26/mile and mile 01.0 7:59/mile. My finish time was 1:49:11, 8:20/mile. 

After the race: 


I went back for my medal, which the person graciously gave me. The Happy Trails company makes all of their medals locally, and this was so cool: engraved tile on wood. I asked my husband to take some finish line photos and then went for the goodies. I had forgotten my water bottle, so had several Dixie cups of water, and then grabbed a banana, rice krispie treat, Bobo bar, and Great Harvest bread. I had my husband hold all of it while I checked my finish time. The race website said 1:47:24.

Sure enough, strong mom had placed--first in our age range. I had come in seven seconds behind her which sounded about right. I could see her, but not reach her. I high-fived her afterwards and told her what a great job she did. Hooray! I was stoked for her. I got second for my age range and other wooden medal. So cool! I chugged some more water, and having eaten my banana, I grabbed another one, plus some more snacks I hadn't seen, and we headed out.

I wanted to recover well from this race, since it was just supposed to be for training (but sure enough, I went out faster than that), so I had brought my protein shake powder with me. I asked my husband to stop at a coffee shop to get hot water, and we sat there while he had coffee and I had my shake. Then back to our hotel for stretching, foam rolling, and a shower. (Yes, I packed my small foam roller. It takes up half a carry-on suitcase, but it is so worth it!) We grabbed burgers for lunch (a post-race tradition) and then I napped and otherwise sat in the hotel bed the rest of the day. Rest and recovery make for gains, right?


Final thoughts: This was such a cool experience! I am thankful to God for a body to do it, grateful to have had the time, space, health, and monetary resources to do it, and appreciative of a husband who supports me in my sometimes crazy, off-the-wall ideas and pursuits. Running a race during training cycle, and I think I would like to do it again if we have funds to do so. Utah is also very beautiful and I think I want to come back again to visit! All in all, such a great experience!

Saturday, November 1, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 44)


The Eats:

Apple cider  sourdough with cider spice swirl (Crave the Good)

Crusty no-knead pizza bread (Sally's Baking Addiction)

Oatmeal pumpkin cookie muffins (Jenna Fischer Nutrition)-frozen for future me

The Empties:

Apples
Five pound bag of carrots
Frozen Asian chicken "stir fry" with ramen (Meal Prep in an Instant)
Frozen Instant Pot barley and vegetable risotto (Hot Rod's Recipes)
Two pound bag of frozen peas
Five pound bag of potatoes
A bag of Kettle Heroes aged white cheddar popcorn
Can of pumpkin
Queso fresco
The last of our loaf of regular sourdough bread
Sourdough discard rosemary salt bagels (This Jess Cooks)
Sourdough discard strawberry bagels (This Jess Cooks)
Sun dried tomatoes
Bag of flour tortillas
Mesquite smoked turkey breast

What went to waste:
   

Just a few bad spots of bananas