Wednesday, January 31, 2024

Everything I Read in January 2024

Continuing the downward trend of number of books I have read, but sharing anyway since you readers seem to enjoy my book reviews:

1. Fire On the Track: Betty Robinson and the Triumph of the Early Olympic Women by Roseanne Montillo—I wanted to like this book. I didn't! Starting with a planet crash, and then working backward to tell the tale of two time Olympian gold medalist Betty Robinson (and the first US female track and field Olympian), parts of it read like a novel. I enjoyed learning about some of the other early Olympic women, including Babe Didrikson, Dee Boeckmann, Stella Walsh, and Helen Stephens. When the book started pushing ideological values, though, I started to lose interest. Reading the author’s assertion that sexual abuse led to one Olympian discovering that she was lesbian outraged me. I really wanted to read an inspiring book about female athletes! This book left me frustrated that the author was unable to let the powerful stories of these women stand alone, and instead, subverting their stories for her own agenda. Next!

2. Called for Life: How Loving Our Neighbor Led Us Into the Heart of the Ebola Epidemic by Kent and Amber Brantly with David Thomas—Kent Brantly went to Liberia because of compassion, and he served there with compassion. When despite precautions practiced, he contracted Ebola, he prayed to be faithful in life or in death. This is his story, as well as the story of his wife Amber. It is an inspiring story of a man determined to keep caring for others, before, during, and after his diagnosis and miraculous recovery. With details not just about why and how Brantly became a doctor, but also his continuing impact of the field of medicine, this is an inspiring, encouraging read. Warning, though: Brantly is a doctor, and as such, writes with medical details that may leave some squeamish. The book is still worth reading, but calls for that caveat.

3. Between Heaven & The Real World: My Story by Steven Curtis Chapman with Ken Abraham—What a powerful book from music powerhouse Steven Curtis Chapman! Chapman’s wife Mary Beth shared her story years ago, and now he shares his. He shares of growing up trying to fix things, of his whirlwind college romance with his wife, trying to find his way in the music world, losing his daughter Maria, and more. Through it all, he traces the adequacy and faithfulness of God in the real world. This is both an inspiring read, and one that can cause readers to consider their own lives in light of eternity. I highly recommend this book!

4. Choosing to See by Mary Beth Chapman with Ellen Vaughn—I thought maybe I had read this book, but maybe I have not. Whatever the case, it was a blessing to see Mary Beth Chapman's story of grief, and her awareness of God's presence in it. A musical book, with each chapter citing lyrics from her husband Steven Curtis Chapman's songs, this autobiography walks readers through the early days of Chapman's life, as well as the early days after the loss of her precious daughter Maria. Complete with blog posts from the years after Maria's death, this book if full of raw, honest vulnerability. Chapman testifies not to having things together, but rather to choosing to look for and see God in the mess. Truly, this is a beautiful read.

5. The Year of Living Happy: Finding Contentment and Connection in a Crazy World by Alli Worthington—This is a really great devotional! I started it last year after a friend gave it to me, and found the bite-sized daily readings and journal questions just right for me. While I am sure I could glean more from this book with more time and study, what I got from it was not a wordly sense of happiness, but a desire to get more rooted in God and live out his will for me. Connection to Him and His purpose is what ultimately brings not only happiness, but joy! The author gets this, and I appreciate her balanced look at this important topic.

6. For the Glory: The Untold Story of Eric Liddell, Hero of Chariots of Fire by Duncan Hamilton—This book took me a while to get into, and I was already interested in the story because of books my mom read to be growing up and the award-winning film Chariots of Fire. The Olympics training description seemed needlessly tedious. Reading about Liddell’s perseverance in difficult and often grisly circumstances during his stint as a Chinese missionary, and then in a Japanese concentration camp, however, kept my attention. Though the author of this biography does not seem to fully recognize it, it is clear to me that Liddell relied on his faith in the Lord in all of his doings. Liddell died of a brain tumor at age 43 years, 37 days. Though the author hints that he believes Liddell could have survived had he not been in the Japanese concentration camp, it is clear from the epilogue and interviews with Liddell’s wife and daughters, that they believe this, too, was for God’s glory. Both sobering and inspiring, this is a great book for anyone who can endure its first flagging pages.

What could I do to read more? 

-Use social media less (a big one, and one that seems hard, as I use social media a lot when I have low brain power; I would need more bandwidth to actually engage in reading during this time, or at least I think so). 

-Walk more. (I often read while I walk.) 

-Stay at home more (so I have more time to read). 

-Read shorter, easier books.

Right now, I am not willing/able to make these changes. (Read that reading is not as big of a priority for me right now/what I want to read is meatier and harder to read.) Therefore, I am choosing to accept and even celebrate the few books that I have read!

Tuesday, January 30, 2024

The Simplified Life (An Update)


You know that word I chose for the year? (Simplify. Yes, it's also a form of my blog title.) I am realizing it has a lot more nuance than I thought. When I chose it, I imagined simplifying, paring down, doing less. I am realizing I don't really want to do that, or at least all of that. As of now, simplifying is looking more like prioritizing what is really important.

I like variety, really, I do! When I read about people eating the same breakfast every day, the inner me revolts (Becker, n.d.). Sure, I eat varieties of the same breakfast most of the time, but I also like to switch things up! When I read about minimalism and think about paring down, I get it, but I also don't want to do it. There are a lot of little used things that bring me great joy when I do use them (think bundt and doughnut pans in the kitchen), and I want to keep them. I have also come to the conclusion that some splurge buys are worth it, like random new flavors of things, which are totally a gimmick, but bring me joy, and little holidays things that just enhance the mood. [Thanks, Hungry Runner girl (2024) for reminding that "novelty can enhance our moods."] I guess, at least for right now, the minimalism version of simplifying is not for me.

So what am I doing? I am trying to prioritize. I'm trying to stop doing things that feel like have-tos, but really aren't. For example, I like doing a lesson of DuoLingo every day to keep my brain sharp, but why do I have to keep up with the quests? They just eat up my time and make me angsty. Next! I am also trying to reduce items in my fridge and pantry, not to get rid of variety, but to limit it so that it is less overwhelming. In terms of cooking, I am making larger batches of things and freezing them. This gives us variety, with a little less work. (Thank you, husband, for buying us a chest freezer and being willing to eat frozen and reheated food.) I am also trying to make less recipes that require me to buy unique ingredients. When I do buy those ingredients, I am trying to have a plan for using them up. Again, this results in less overwhelm and decision fatigue for me.

In terms of my closet, I am not trying to pare down to a capsule wardrobe. I have some single, or rarely used items that bring me great joy! I am trying to work through wearing everything in my closet, though. There are a lot of pieces that probably have neutral value and aren't needed (eg t-shirts), and when I find those, I am trying to set them aside so that I can consider getting rid of them. Things I have discovered? That though I have a lot of leggings and yoga pants, I have already worn them all, multiple times! Having less would just necessitate more frequent laundry. No thanks!

What will this journey towards a simplified life look like by year's end? I truly don't know. Whatever comes, may I be receptive to the Lord and what He has to teach me!

References:

Baron, J. (2024, January 26). Friday favorites! Hungry runner girl. https://hungryrunnergirl.com/2024/01/friday-favorites-259.html#

Becker, J. (n.d.). You eat less variety than you think. Embrace it. Becoming minimalist. https://www.becomingminimalist.com/meals/

Monday, January 29, 2024

Acceptable Over Optimal

As a perfectionist, I am all about optimizing. I really do want the best all of the time, or at least most of the time. I continue to realize, though, that this is not possible, not unless I really drop a lot of things, and even then, I cannot achieve perfection.

I have started to think, therefore, about what is acceptable, tolerable even. What is good enough? Can I learn to be satisfied with just okay? And if not, what needs to go so I can improve? For example, do I want dinner on the dot at the time I want? Or do I want the kitchen tidied and cleaned so that I can focus on making dinner and enjoying eating it? Do I want all homemade food and lots of time in the kitchen? Or do I want okay nutrition which includes some processed foods and time to do things other than cook? If optimal sleep is not available, what is acceptable? What will get me through?

I am not for giving everything the short end of the stick. There is some wisdom in the phrase my mom told me in college: "You have to cheat something." I'm not suggesting that I want to be dishonest. I'm just continuing to realize that there are only so many resources to go around (time, money, etc.). If I have many things I want to do, I have to lower the resources needed for each one. If I have a few things I want to invest in more, I have to let other things go. It's a balancing game, or maybe not even a balancing game. It's a choices game.

I definitely don't have all this figured out. I'm just trying to figure out what I can accept, what I can tolerate without it causing me so much distress. Optimal ain't happening much over here, so I've got to figure out how to accept and appreciate what is!

Saturday, January 27, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 4)

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Chocolate Cream of Wheat (Girl With The Spatula)

Healthy pumpkin muffins (Wholesome Recipe Box)

Low-fat pumpkin oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (Ambitious Kitchen)

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook)

Super simple granola

Oatmeal mug cakes

Lunches:

Canned Progresso soup

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken, salsa, and 
Italian buttermilk dressing 
(The Best 50 Salad Dressings)

Mixed vegetable minestrone (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Plain bagels with cream cheese, peanut butter and/or strawberry jam

Dinners:

Parsley pasta pesto with peas (Budget Bytes)

Mixed vegetable minestrone (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook) with grilled cheese monkey bread (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker)

Grilled macaroni and cheese sandwiches (Kirbie's Cravings)

Snacks:

Apples

Bananas

Cheese sticks

Granola bars

Healthy pumpkin muffins (Wholesome Recipe Box)

Hot chocolate

Low-fat pumpkin oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (Ambitious Kitchen)

No bake 3-ingredient peanut butter bites (The Real Food Dietitians)

Peanuts

Single serve baked oatmeal and oatmeal mug cakes

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Gingerbread pumpkin muffins (Chicago Jogger)
Green beans
Lentil stew with butternut squash (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Fridge:

Applesauce (But have another jar)
Big bag of shredded cheese (But pulled another out from the freezer)
Cream cheese
Eggs (but I have another carton)
Sliced cheese (but I have more)
Strawberries (the ones I did not freeze)

Pantry:

1 can Progresso soup (but I have ?? more)
Cream of Wheat
Protein powder (But have another bag)

What went bad:

Nothing that I know of

What I Replenished Before I Ran Out:

Apples
Baby carrots

What I Overbought and Now Need to Use Up:

Apples (Staple)
Baby carrots (Staple)
Lettuce (Staple)


What I Prepped for Next Week: 

Nothing but Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook). I took things out of the freezer this week!

What I Froze for Future Me:

See above.

Monday, January 22, 2024

Run the Distance 5K

I jumped into a 5K this past weekend! I would not have known about the race except for a little card my doctor's office sent me about a run to benefit Parkinson's research. I get treated for my focal dystonia at Barrow Neurological Institute, the same location as the Muhammad Ali Parkinson's Center. While I thankfully do not have Parkinson's at this time, there is some overlap between my condition and Parkinson's, and the medication I take to alleviate some of my worst symptoms is actually a medicine for Parkinson's, so needless to say, the Parkinson's cause is near and dear to my heart, and I wanted to run for it.

But, what to do about half-marathon training? I had 10 miles on deck the date of the 5K. Well, time to get creative! I realized that the 5K was about 7 miles from my house, so if Husband dropped me off and I fueled right, I could run home. So with that, I trialed a one day carb load [Thanks Meghann Featherstun (n.d.) for the how-to and calculator] and went to town, literally.

Race day conditions: Upper 40's and windy

Course: Flat, around a lake, and a little short (3.05 miles according to my Apple watch)

Goals: 

A: 2 hour half-marathon pace of 9:09/minute

B: 27:00 (8:41/minute)

C: PR (8:11/mile or under)

(Yes, these are in reverse order of difficulty, because my main goal was to not exhaust myself so I could complete the miles on my training plan.)

Before the race:

Week nine of the First Half Marathon Training plan from Run to the Finish (2023)

Day 5 of Metcon from Nourish Move Love (2024) (a mistake!)

A one-day carb load with about 450 grams of carbohydrates

Race morning:

I got up at my normal hour of 5 am, did a little bit of moving around the house, and then completed Day 19 of Flow from Yoga with Adriene (2024). I drank 8 ounces of water and ate a peanut butter and honey energy ball. Then out the door!

It was a short walk from parking to the start line. We arrived about 50 minutes early. I felt warm enough, and then cold. About 7:20 am, I ate my banana. Then at 7:30 am, I jogged for five minutes. I took off my windbreaker and lined up for the race at 7:45 am, and off to the races at 8 am!


Mile 1:

I started off near the front (it was a small race), and we started off fast. I felt good, but when I looked down at my watch and it said 7:43/mile, I backed off my pace. I knew that was too fast! At about half a mile in, I got to chatting with some girls as I passed them, and realizing that I could pass the talk test, realized I could probably push a bit harder. I finished with an average pace of 8:24/mile.

Mile 2:

This mile seemed to pass by quickly. Not too much to say here, other than that I saw my time dipping and told myself I could work a little harder. I worked to pass a few people. This was my slowest mile at 8:33/mile.

Mile 3:

At about 2.5, I told myself to push. Then at 2.8, I told myself to really push. Thinking, "Push off the ground" seemed to help increase my pace. I also told myself to smile, because I like running! (In my vanity, I also did not want to look like a grouch puss when the fact that I like running is true.) I finished at 8:12/mile.

Finish:

I kicked it up to 6:57/mile to finish. My watch said 3.05 miles with a time of 25:34. The official results said 5K (3.1 miles) with a time of 25:28 and a pace of 8:11/mile. Whatever, I'll take it!

After the Race:

This was a small race, and I expected that I could place, but honestly, I was not sure I wanted to place, because I just wanted to run home! When I checked the results list, though, I saw that I had placed, first in my age group! So of course I wanted to stay to get the added bling for my medal. I chatted with some really nice master's runners, and they even stayed to see me go on the podium and take my picture. Runners really are the best people!

I departed after the medal ceremony and ran 7.42 miles home. I felt good, except for some mild hamstring soreness (which had been with me since that Nourish Move Love workout-which is why I said it was a bad idea). Thankfully 20 oz of water, some fuel, a podcast, some determination, and all that glycogen in my muscles got me home. I honestly felt okay, except for my hamstrings which were oh, so tight. I stretched and foam rolled immediately, but had to keep doing so throughout the weekend.

Concluding Thoughts:

I am learning more and more to trust the training process. I really did not want to do that carb load, and I believed I needed to try it. I kept telling myself not to quit, to get through it, and then if it did not work or I did not like it, I could quit the next time. I felt some anxiety race day morning (a newer thing for me), but just told myself this race was for a cause, and it was okay not to PR. I had peace while running, for which I thank the Lord and my husband. Running home afterward brought me such pride! While I did not want to refuel again when I got home, I told myself not to be stupid and to do it. (My husband thought I was telling him not to be stupid for a second, because I said it out loud. Oops! No, those were words for me!). I am oh so thankful to God for this experience and pray for wisdom and good health to continue training and running for as long as the good Lord allows.

References:

Brooks, A. (2023, March 9). Half marathon training schedule: Transition from the 10K to half. Run to the Finish. https://www.runtothefinish.com/half-marathon-training-schedule/

Featherstun, M. (n.d.). Carb loading: What, why, and how-to. Featherstone Nutrition. https://www.featherstonenutrition.com/carb-loading/

Nourish Move Love. (2024, January 5). New year challenge day 5: 30-minute full body Metcon (Kettlebell swings). [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xp14nPaJfkU

Yoga with Adriene. (2024, January 20). Flow - Day 19 - Ride. [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Od_S1P0c40

 

Saturday, January 20, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 3)

Week Three!

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Low-fat pumpkin oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (Ambitious Kitchen)

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook)

Brown sugar pop tarts

Super simple granola 

Fluffy pancakes (All Recipes)

Lunches:

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken, salsa, and Italian buttermilk dressing (The Best 50 Salad Dressings)

Plain bagels with strawberry jam

Southwestern black bean, quinoa, and mango salad (Skinny Taste)

Dinners:

BBQ beef grilled cheese (A Little and a Lot) 

Beef ragu with minted penne (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Lemon basil Pasta of the Prairie with potato alfredo sauce (Sinful Nutrition)

The Mempho (Grilled BBQ mac & cheese sandwich) (The Spiffy Cookie) on whole wheat bread (Sally’s Baking Addiction)

Parsley pasta pesto with peas (Budget Bytes)

Snacks:

Apples

Bananas

Brown sugar pop tarts

Flourless peanut butter protein brownies (Fit Foodie Finds)

Gingerbread pumpkin muffins (Chicago Jogger)

Fluffy pancakes (All Recipes)

Hot chocolate

Low-fat pumpkin oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (Ambitious Kitchen)

Peanuts

Plain bagels with strawberry jam

Strawberry banana muffins (Bucket List Tummy)

Single serve baked oatmeal and oatmeal mug cakes

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

BBQ beef
Black beans
1 package of frozen green beans
Quinoa

Fridge:

Canned pumpkin
Carrots
Lettuce
Mangoes
Parmesan cheese
Parsley
Red peppers

Pantry:

1 box of granola bars (Sent to work with Husband, but I still have more)
Diced tomatoes (2 cans)
Dry white beans
Salad pasta
Whole wheat macaroni

What went bad:

Part of the mango

What I Replenished Before I Ran Out:

Apples
Baby carrots

What I Overbought and Now Need to Use Up:

Brown sugar poptarts
Kale
Nesquick
Plain bagels


What I Prepped for Next Week: 







Mixed vegetable minestrone 
(Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

What I Froze for Future Me:

Beef ragu with minted penne (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Dijon lentil salad (Budget Bytes)

Not-from-a-box mac and oat chez (
Oatrageous Oatmeal)

Sliced strawberries

Strawberry banana muffins (Bucket List Tummy)

Whole wheat bread (Sally’s Baking Addiction)

(Yes, I am stocking the freezer, as I have quite a few weeks coming up where time for meal prep will be limited.)

Monday, January 15, 2024

Busyness

Brene Brown says that "crazy busy is an armor." But busyness is also a lot of other things. It is a pace of life, sometimes forced, sometimes chosen. It can be a cover-up. It can be an escape. It can be a badge of honor or a curse of culture. It can become an identity. I think it is always dangerous when we put our identity too much in any one things, so if you are a person, like me, who tends to be busy, maybe even who likes to be busy, here are a few questions to ponder:

Is my busyness stressful or purposeful? Is busyness happening to me, or am I choosing it? There is a big difference between letting our lives get overrun with needless to-dos, and actually choosing to do things because they matter to us.

Am I doing this because of anxiety or because of actual need or want? I can pursue busyness because I am anxious, because I need things to do to escape that anxiety (. (Spoiler alert, busyness just pushes off the anxiety and can make it come back stronger.) I can also end up busy because I have lots of great things to do, I have the energy to do them, and I want to do them.

"Whose house [am I] building and why?" (Frederick & Frederick, 2022) Who does this busyness serve? Does it serve my employer and "the man"? Does it serve me? Does it serve my family? Or is it doing the opposite. The dividends paid by my busyness matter.

Truth be told, I have not gotten my own busyness figured out. Sometimes I am crazy-busy. Sometimes I get close to crazy bored. Intent matters. Thinking about busyness a little more, maybe instead of busy work, might help us all!

References:

Frederick, R., & Frederick, S. (Hosts). (2022, April 19). Designing higher quality time. (no. 256) [Audio podcast episode]. In Fierce Marriage. https://fiercemarriage.com/designing-higher-quality-time

Marriot, S.,, & Kelley, A. (Hosts). (2018, July 19). Challenge Your “Busy” Identity – Gain Consciousness Over Your Pace. (no. 70). [Audio podcast episode]. In Therapist Uncensored. https://therapistuncensored.com/episodes/tu70-challenge-your-busy-identity-gain-consciousness-over-your-pace/

Saturday, January 13, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 2)

It's Use It Up Week Two!

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Blueberry protein doughnuts (Fit Foodie Finds)

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook)

Super simple granola 

Fluffy pancakes (All Recipes)

Lunches:

Big-batch Instant Pot white beans (Epicurious)

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken, salsa, and 
Italian buttermilk dressing  
(The Best 50 Salad Dressings)

Lentil stew with butternut squash (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)

Southwestern black bean, quinoa, and mango salad (Skinny Taste)

Tuna-macaroni salad (Betty Crocker)

Dinners:

Chicken and kale soup (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)

Florentine frittata (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook) and sweet potato sage biscuits (Rise and Run)

Beef ragu with minted penne (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Pasta e fagioli with sausage (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Snacks:

Bananas

Double chocolate banana bread (Handle the Heat)

Gingerbread pumpkin muffins (Chicago Jogger)

Hot chocolate

Low-fat pumpkin oatmeal chocolate chip muffins (Ambitious Kitchen)

Peanuts

Single serve baked oatmeal and oatmeal mug cakes

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Chicken broth
Chopped jalapenos
Green beans
Hamburger

Fridge:

Chicken broth
Kale (bought and used entire bag)

Pantry:

Baking soda
Fire roasted diced tomatoes
Pumpkin pie spice
White wine vinegar
Whole tomatoes

What went bad:

1/4 c Greek yogurt (only about 1/4 cup, but still frustrating!)

What I Replaced:

Baking soda
Chicken broth
Green beans
Pumpkin pie spice

What I Replenished Before I Ran Out:

Baking powder (hard to find an off brand, so when I did, I bought it!)
Butter
Coffee
Eggs
Lettuce
Milk (I never want to really run out, because that can mean an emergency grocery store trip)
Oats
Parmesan/Romano cheese 
Peanuts
Powdered milk

What I Overbought and Now Need to Use Up:

Great Northern beans
Italian flat leaf parsley (unintentionally bought instead of cilantro)
Mint leaves
Potatoes
Salad pasta
Whole wheat penne

What I Prepped for Next Week:

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken, salsa, and Italian buttermilk dressing  (The Best 50 Salad Dressings)

Flourless peanut butter protein brownies (Fit Foodie Finds)

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook)

Protein scotcheroos (Fit Foodie Finds)

Whole wheat bread (Sally’s Baking Addiction)

(Did I really need all these snacks? No. But Fit Foodie Finds has a protein dessert series going, and I want to cook through as many recipes as I can!)

What I Froze for Future Me:

Healthy pumpkin muffins (Wholesome Recipe Box)

Pasta e fagioli with sausage (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook

Protein cookie dough cup (Fit Foodie Finds)

Snickers protein bar (Fit Foodie Finds)

Wednesday, January 10, 2024

Real Life Marriage: Winners and Losers


I had a realization this past year. Winners and losers cannot coexist in marriage. We are both winners, or we are both losers.

When we communicate, or miscommunicate, sometimes I find myself trapped in a cycle of wanting to be right, of wanting my husband to understand. I don't necessarily need him to agree with me (or at least I don't think I do), but I want him to acknowledge my perspective, validate me. Sometimes he doesn't understand, or can't understand. It feels like we are both losers.

Other times, when we communicate, we learn from each other. We come to an understanding. We see something from the other's point of view. We are both winners, and it feels awesome!

I want to remember when we disagree that resolving our issues is about finding a solution where both of us win. It's not about me being right, or him being right, but about our marriage being in a better, stronger situation. 

We are both winners, or we are both losers. Instead of arguing, I hope we can continue to work towards understanding, instead of being right (Smith, 2021). I hope we can keep working towards solutions to our problems that we both feel good about (Focus on the Family, 2015). It's not easy, but there is a lot less conflict that when winning and losing divide us.

So here's to further work at communication. To vying for our marriage instead of competing for our own personal prizes. May God be glorified in our unified efforts.

References:

Focus on the Family. (2015, June 8). No losers. https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/no-losers/

Smith, D. (2021, July 26). Winners and losers in marriage. Dr. Debi Smith. https://drdebismith.com/winners-and-losers-in-marriage/