Tuesday, October 31, 2023

Everything I Read in October

Hip, hip hooray! I passed 100 books again this year. I really think it's because I've been reading a lot of fiction, and because I have the library's Libby app on my phone, which allows me to read anywhere and everywhere. Anyway, onto the books:

95)
Sweet Caroline by Rachel Hauck—Caroline Sweeney has stayed in her hometown for far too long. She had longed to leave, and has opportunities to do so, yet always ended up staying. Now, with an overseas job offer on the line, she’s staying to manage Frogmore Cafe, a restaurant operating at a net loss, and somehow in her hands. Then her high school sweetheart, Mitch, a man she still loves, shows up. This book has lot of twists and unexpected turns. There is a fairly clear gospel proclamation, but one that includes depiction of charismatic gifts. Although this was a good read, the end was inconclusive, leaving me feeling a little more sour than sweet.

96)
Simply Tuesday: Small-Moment Living in a Fast Moment World by Emily P. FreemanWe live in a culture that does not celebrate smallness, but this book does. Author Emily P. Freeman writes about what it is to embrace ordinary Tuesdays, sit on benches, and commune with God, others, and self. She’s doesn’t write self-righteously, but rather honestly, as a fellow struggler. She gives readers prayers to pray and questions to ask as they consider their smallness and God’s greatness. This is a beautifully written book, showcasing strong writing skills throughout the themes woven through it. The book honestly probably has a lot more than I got out of out, but for now, I’ll say I’m simply grateful to have read it.

97) Love Starts with Elle
by Rachel Hauck—Another book in the Lowcountry Romance series, this follows Elle Garvey as she continues to search for love. She thinks she's found “the one,” and gives up everything, only to have her wedding fall through. As she works to process her pain, she becomes a woman of prayer and seeks to hear God's voice. Meanwhile, widower Heath McCord is trying to recover from the pain of losing his wife and becoming a single father. He calls on Elle more than once for help, and both begin to question if they are in the right places at the right times. This is a poignant read about love, and the ultimate truth in love that is only found in Jesus. There were some charismatic faith elements to this book that felt a little uncomfortable to me, but overall this was a book that left me with all the warm feelings and inspiration the real love should.

98)
Something Old, Something New by Amy Clipston—A delightful story about learning to leave the old behind and become something new, this book follows Christine Sawyer as she pursues her dream of owing an antique mall, and Brent Nicholson who is back in town to renovate his aunt's home,, but that is all, or so he says. Christine lives in the shadow of her twin sister, Britney. Brent lives in the shadow of his failed football career. The two become fast friends and are determined to be nothing more, but at the same time, there is something new happening. This book resolves just a few too many relationships all at once, but the redemption is beautiful, too. I enjoyed reading this little bit different romance for something new.

99) Praying for Your Husband from Head to Toe: A Daily Guide to Scripture-Based Prayer
by Sharon Jaynes—What a solid, scriptural resource! In this book, the author provides 30 days of prayer guides for husbands. Each prayer is based on a scripture, and each day contains prayers for 16 areas of the husband's life: mind, eyes, ears, mouth, neck, shoulder, heart, back, arms, hands, ring finger, side, sexuality, legs, knees, and feet. The prayers were convicting to me personally, as well as for how I need to pray for my husband. I think I might actually like to pray one prayer a day to focus more earnestly. The appendix contains prayers for additional areas of a husband's life as well (salvation, fatherhood, and healing). I definitely want to come back to this book!

100)
All Our Tomorrows by Irene Hannon—A shorter, but mostly well-paced read, this book has love, suspense, and gospel message. Caroline James is trying to recover after the tragic death of her fiancee Michael Sloan. Michael's brother, David, is trying to find meaning in life. It turns out that David needs Caroline's help, and Caroline, David's, but can they let the past go and move on? With a poignant quote from Mother Teresa about the value of faithfulness over success, and a meaningful ending sermon from David's friend, Reverend Steve Dempsky about seasons, this made for a great autumn weekend read.

101)
Am I Overthinking This? By Michelle Rial—A clever book of charts about overthinking, this book is worth reading for a chuckle, and for provoking some thought, too. The charts are unique, to say the least. Rather than overthinking how to describe it, I'll just say you have to see it to believe it.

102)
His Small-Town Girl by Arlene James—Tyler Aldrich drives to get away from his fast-paced, stressful corporate life. Running out of gas, he ends up in Eden, Oklahoma at Heavenly Arms Hotel. There isn't much to speak of in the town, but the hotel boasts the Jefford family, a family that welcomes him in, in ways he has never been welcomed in before, even with all of his money. As with many romances, this story line is a bit fast. Still, it has some real merits, specifically many true representations of the gospel. With elevated prose and a little bit different story line, this book gives readers room for thinking about love, wealth, family, faith and so much more.

103)
A Mommy in Mind by Arlene James—A few things bugged me about this book: First, the title is very trite and not fully reflective of the rich, nuanced story about adoption and foster care. Second, I had a really hard time getting over what seemed to a major ethical flaw of lawyer Ramon Estes getting involved with the opponent of one of his former clients, and potential adoptive mother, Lori Sumner. Besides that, this story is rich in redemptive, gospel message and learning that God’s will are not a person or a purpose, but rather, in Lori’s words: “to serve and obey [the] sovereign Lord God, Who would never abandon her, ignore her, or indeed, any of His children.” I wish I. I wish I could get over the things that bugged me about this book, but unfortunately, they stayed in mind, diminishing my enjoyment of the overall story.

104)
Everything All At Once by Steph Catudal—I wanted to read this book after hearing the author on the Ali on the Run show. Plus, I felt some affinity for its author, who once lived in the Flagstaff, Arizona running community. The book was both beautiful and brutal. The author has a gorgeous writing style and many profound things to say. Her forward and backward writing style [even chapters being stories about her upbringing and odd chapters being about her husband Tommy Rivers Puzey's (Riv's) fight against extranodal natural killer T-cell lymphoma] is creative. The topics she writes about, though, losing her father to lung cancer, and the details of how she coped with that grief through alcohol, drugs, and sex are awful! “The ECMO Diaries” chapter is a little hard to follow, as it is a collection of her Instagram posts. Add to all this that Catudal was raised Mormon, but no longer believes in God (using a lower case “g” when mentioning Him), and instead believes in love being a god, and I really cannot recommend this book. I do pray for the author, though, that one day she will know the true God, the God who loved us so much He sent His son to die for us; the only God who is big enough to handle the everything all at once that life throws at us.

105) 
Work Simply: Embracing The Power of Your Personal Productivity Style by Carson Tate—This was a good book, more business- than life-minded, but still helpful. In the book, Tate helps readers discover their productivity style (Prioritizer, Planner, Arranger, or Visualizer) and put it to use. She writes about apps that can help each productivity style, and most helpful to me, shares about how to work with those whose productivity styles differ from my own. With helpful acronyms and frequent reminders to “work simply to live fully,” this book is worth at least a simple skim read.

106) Connecting: Healing for Ourselves and Our Relationships by Larry Crabb—This is a very thought-provoking book! In in, Christian counselor Larry Crabb suggests a new paradigm for healing: everyday, common, Christ-infused relationships. Yes, there may be room for professional counselors for specific issues like ADHD, bipolar disorder, OCD, psychosis, etc., but there is more room for connecting. Crabb writes often of marriage being a healing relationship. He writes of working to so allow Christ to live in the self that the self brings out Christ in others. He details urges to be killed and energy of Christ to be released. I benefitted greatly from reading this book, especially since it relates to the work I do. I think I will need to read this book again in the future to see what else God might want to show me through it!

107) 
The Courage to Dream by Margaret Daley—Rachel Peters returns to Magnolia Blossom to care for her younger siblings Amy and Shaun. Her parents long ago left she and her siblings with their Aunt Flora, and now Aunt Flora has died. Rachel is loathe to return to this place, having big plans to start at restaurant in New York City. She knows the pain of parental abandonment, though, so has decided to step into the gap. The only problem is the man she left behind: Michael Hunter, who has his own pains of abandonment after the woman he married after Rachel left walked out on him and his son Garrett. This book contains some great truths about family and forgiveness, along with quite a lot of softening and sweetness. I wish divorce was not part of this story, but in today's society, it is, and it does require a lot of room for forgiveness before there is courage to dream again.

108) 
Good for a Girl: A Woman Running in a Man’s World by Lauren Fleshman—Lauren Fleshman, a decorated American runner, tried, at various points in her professional running career with Nike, to advocate for better understanding and treatment of women, but she writes that they shut her down. Now a coach in her own right, Fleshman bares her personal story in an attempt to show why there needs to be a different paradigm for women runners, one that respects and honors their unique physiology, and makes room for processes like becoming a mother without penalty. Part memoir, part expose, Fleshman weaves research into her personal story in an engaging way. I read this book in a weekend, the writing was that good! While the book does contains some socio-political ideology which which I do not agree, as well as some language, this book has very important things to say. Young female athletes, and more so, their parents and coaches should consider reading before immersing themselves in a pro running world that though better, is still not that good for girls.

109) 
The Dance by Dan Walsh and Gary Smalley (10/28/23)I like restoration stories, and this is one! After over 25 years of marriage, Jim and Marilyn Anderson have a relationship of prestige, but nothing more. Marilyn decides to leave, not permanently, but to get some perspective. Jim is angry, until dance mentor Audrey Windsor teaches him a thing or two about marriage. Then he starts to try to pursue his wife again, but is it too late?

This book has some plot holes. Rarely in marriage are things one sided. Marilyn seems a bit too “right” in this story. Some parts of the story made me really nervous, but never actually crossed my morality line. (Read to find out more.) Some of Gary Smalley’s DNA of Relationships material seems a bit forced into the story. Still, overall, this was a great story, with a helpful interview with Gary Smalley at the end to round it out.

Thursday, October 26, 2023

Celebrating National Pumpkin Day (Year Three)

I have done a pumpkin recipe round-up every year since 2017, I think. Only two others times have I done it on National Pumpkin Day (October 26, 2023), so here I am back again. Maybe I'll be consistent with posting on this day in the future? We'll see.

Fall harvest pumpkin bread muffins (From my Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker Cookbook)




Pumpkin cheesecake whip (Wholesome Recipe Box)



My own pumpkin pie baked oatmeal

And a host of pumpkin bowl and mug cakes to finish off the leftover pumpkin!





Saturday, October 21, 2023

Apple Recipe Round-Up (Year Three)

Yes! Yes! It's apple season again. While I have not cooked with apples quite as much this year as it past years, I have enjoyed quite a few of my new favorite apple variety, the pink lady! My favorite way to eat this apple is chopped up and sprinkled with a little pumpkin pie spice from Trader Joe's. Here are a few other recipes I have tried so far this year:

Apple banana baked oatmeal (Recipe to come!)

Cinnamon applesauce (From The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)


Mango apple chutney (From The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)


And a few I have pinned for future consumption:

Apple cinnamon oatmeal muffins (Marsha's Baking Addiction)

Green vitality smoothie (Rise and Run Cookbook)

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Friends, what are your favorite apple varieties?

Do you have any favorite apple recipes?

Please share below.

Wednesday, October 18, 2023

Pumpkin Pie Baked Oatmeal

I'm back into my baked oatmeal phase. This one is a blended oatmeal, one that tastes just like pumpkin pie and has a similar custardy texture. With no added sugar and four whole eggs, this is a great, protein-filled breakfast!

Ingredients:


Directions:


1. Whisk together the eggs, pumpkin, water, and vanilla.
2. Stir in remaining ingredients.
3. Bake 60 minutes at 350 degrees.
4. Cool and refrigerate before cutting and eating

Monday, October 16, 2023

Having a Muffin Moment


It probably started with the Rise and Run cookbook (2021) and its 24 superhero muffin recipes. I made almost all of them. Then I got to ones for which I lacked ingredients, and I kind of quit. But then I found more muffins recipes, and they just tasted so good that I just kept looking for and making recipes. Here are some recent good ones:

Banana baked oatmeal (Fit Mitten Kitchen)

Banana bread muffins (Fit Foodie Finds)

Healthy bakery style banana muffins (Rachl Mansfield)

Healthy carrot cake muffins (Health Nut Nutrition)

Healthy muffins (Chocolate Covered Katie)

Healthy oatmeal muffins (Running on Real Food)

Oatmeal muffins (Chocolate Covered Katie)

Oatmeal muffins (Happy Herbivore)

One pan baked oatmeal (made into muffin cups) (Eating Bird Food)

References:

Kopecky, E., & Flanagan, S. (2021) Rise and Run: Recipes, rituals and runs to fuel your day: A cookbook. Rodale Books.

Tuesday, October 10, 2023

Real Life Marriage: Weekend Warrior Dating

My husband and I mostly dated on the weekends. We both had crazy busy jobs, and the only time we could reliably carve out was Friday/Saturday, so that was the time we spent. When we decided we wanted to get married, I looked forward to sharing a home and hopefully, more life together with him. Little did I know how God would use our dating style to prepare us for our next season.

Shortly after we got married, we decided for my husband to go back to school. He expressed interest. I supported him, and away we went! Then the hours got long and arduous. (He also worked part-time.) I also worked long hours, so we saw each other briefly in the morning, and briefly at night. Weekends were our only periods of quality time. 

We let weekends go for a while. Then, during COVID, I decided to prioritize date night, even if only at home. It helped, some. We had to actually focus on each other, and that was good.

Now, we are in yet another intense season as my husband has stepped up his work while finishing up his classes. While I am thankful that we do share a home together, and thus a little more time together than when we were dating, we are still weekend warriors. We text when we can during our work days, and we chat a little in the evenings. Other than that, weekends are our time, and we have learned to protect them as such. If we go out with individual friends, we try to do that apart from weekend time. If we have guests, we try to make them couple or family guests. We endeavor to be intentional.

I try to plan a date activity every weekend. It sometimes is not much, but it is something. Gary Thomas (2023) talked about using 100% of what is left in a summer podcast. That is what we are doing with our weekend warrior dating. Would we like to spend more time together during the week? Yes, but it is not our reality, so we do the best with what we had.

Our dating experience was good (or at least I think so). Our marriage is a blessing, too. Our time together might not look like what we expected, but we are together, and that is what we value.

Reference.

Smalley, G., Smalley, E., & Fuller, J. (Hosts). (2023, June 8). Giving 100% of what you have left. [Audio podcast episode]. In Focus on the Family marriage podcast. Focus on the Family. https://podcasts.focusonthefamily.com/show/focus-on-marriage-podcast/giving-100-of-what-you-have-left/


Monday, October 9, 2023

Our Bodies Are Meant to Change.



It's a fact of life: bodies change, but that's not something consumer culture wants to normalize. Instead, it wants to sell us stuff to prevent that. I am not against these products per se. I have used anti-aging face cream for a long, long time. But what if we started normalizing body change? What if we destigmatized it? What if we tried to start accepting, and maybe even loving these ever changing shells that hold our souls?

Diet culture is a big bucks industry. In 2021, diet culture raked in over $60 billion dollars (Streatfeild et. al). Diets are ten percent (or less!) effect at changing bodies permanently, though (Alexander, 2020). Statistically, we're almost batting zero when we try to fight out body change. So what if we accepted it? As Jennifer Rollin (2017) writes, "Our bodies are not 'slabs of marble' and they are meant to change as we age. Thus, putting our self-worth into our body and appearance is a recipe for life-long discontent." And who wants that? 

If we changed our tact, we might work at feeling at home in our body. To do that, we will first have to disconnect our worth and identity from our body's shape and size (Mitchell, 2017a). Yes, our body is our home, but it isn't us. Feeling at home in our bodies means owning them, embodying them (Mitchell, 2017b), being grateful for them, and buying clothes for them in appropriate sizes (Nohling, 2018), even if that means sizing up (Rebolini, 2016). It's about more than feeling at home, though, it's about being at home.

Being at home in our bodies means building a holistically meaningful life. It's about "identifying your values and being able to align your behaviors and thoughts with your values" (Nohling, 2018b). It's about connecting with others (Nohling, 2017). It's about "getting wiser and more confident," and our bodies showing the age associated with that (Hartley, 2018). It's about accepting that there is nothing wrong with aging.

My body is not what it used to be. I am over thirty, not recovering as fast as I used to, and noticing a few wrinkles and age spots start to pop up, even in spite of that face cream I use. But you know what? The older I get, the more I want to accept this body in all of its changes. This body is mine. It is changing with me. It is changing for me, allowing me to live this one great, incredible life, and I am grateful to God for that!

References:

Alexander, H. (2020, June). Does your body have a set point weight and can you change it? MD Anderson Cancer Center. https://www.mdanderson.org/publications/focused-on-health/what-is-your-body-s-set-point-weight-and-can-you-change-it-.h15-1593780.html

Hartley, R. (2018). Body image through stages of life. Rachael Hartley Nutrition. https://www.rachaelhartleynutrition.com/blog/body-image-through-stages-of-life

Mitchell, K. (2017a, October 13). Feeling at home in your body (<--I Adore This Phrase)  ImmaEatThat. https://immaeatthat.com/2017/10/13/feeling-at-home-in-your-body/

Mitchell, K. (2017b, October 17). Specific ideas for how to feel at home in your body. ImmaEatThat. http://immaeatthat.com/2017/10/17/specific-ideas-for-how-to-feel-at-home-in-your-body/

Nohling, R. (2017, December 7). I can't love my body at this weight. The Real-Life RD. https://www.thereallife-rd.com/2017/12/positive-body-image/

Nohling, R. (2018a, January 11). How to appreciate and care for your changing body. The Real-Life RD. https://www.thereallife-rd.com/2018/01/dealign-with-a-body-changes/

Nohling, R. (2018b, January 23). How to overcome fears around your body changing. The Real-Life RD. https://www.thereallife-rd.com/2018/01/fears-around-your-body-changing/

Rebolini, A. (2016, July 21). Getting rid of clothes I hated helped me love my body. Buzz Feed. https://www.buzzfeed.com/ariannarebolini/instead-of-losing-weight-i-just-lost-the-clothes-7vd?

Rollin, J. (2017, July 5). What going up in clothing size really means. Huff Post. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-going-up-in-clothing-size-really-means_b_595cdbf9e4b0326c0a8d13dc

Streatfeild, J., Hickson, J., Austin, S. B., Hutcheson, R., Kandel, J. S., Lampert, J. G., Myers, E. M., Richmond, T. K., Samnaliev, M., Velasquez, K., Weissman, R. S., & Pezzullo, L. (2021). Social and economic cost of eating disorders in the United States: Evidence to inform policy action. The International journal of eating disorders, 54(5), 851–868. https://doi.org/10.1002/eat.23486

Monday, October 2, 2023

Afghan 78


And close on the heels of afghan 77 comes afghan 78. (I really need to work on one blanket at a time, but alas, I usually have several going.) This one turned out small (preemie size) due to the yarn I have, but hopefully it will still benefit its recipient.

Hook: size J Boye ergonomic crochet hook

Yarn:

Caron simply softin pagoda

Impeccable solid by Loops & Threads in skylight

Red Heart light gray