Friday, January 31, 2025

Everything I Read in January


I am back with the book reviews! It seems like some of you enjoy reading these recaps, and if that is you, please comment. I like recapping books just for myself, but if there are things I can do to make my summaries and reviews better, I want to do that!

Overall, this has been a great month of reading! Unlike in years past, I am not setting parameters on what  I have to read (eg nonfiction, self-help, etc.). I am just reading because I enjoy it, and man, I have enjoyed some really good fiction books this month--to the extent that I have chosen to read more at night instead of doing my usual crosswords to wind down. The series I did not expect to enjoy, but devoured, was The Porter Family series by Becky Wade. I passed over the first book a few times because the Libby summary seemed tongue-in-cheek and trite. When I decided to read, what I found instead was a story rich in meaning, redemption, and plot. A small delight was the setting of these books in areas of Texas familiar to me because of where my family lives. The books are definitely for adults, as they cover some heavy topics of abuse, addiction, divorce, and more. With that caveat of audience, I would definitely recommend them!

The other books on this list are not too shabby, either. God gave me a lot of enjoyment in reading this month. Praise Him for that!

1)
Two Weeks by Karen Kingsbury—Cole Blake is ready to be there for the girl he loves. Elise Walker is not sure what to do, with her unplanned pregnancy, or her life. It is in an a state of upheaval after some unhealthy choices, an abusive romantic relationship, and a move in with her aunt and uncle to finish high school. This is the main story, but there are secondary stories about Alma and Theo and Lucy and Aaron. This story has a lot of goodness to it, but in my mind, a little too much pain. It also ends incompletely on a cliffhanger (maybe suggesting a sequel?). All that makes me me give this novel a pass, especially if it requires waiting for it on hold.

2)
What Matters Most by Courtney Walsh—Jameson Shaw shows up on Emma Woodson's doorstep just when she needs him. What she doesn't know is who he is or why he is there. Emma, meanwhile, is determined to keep her own secrets. This book keeps readers wondering what the main character's secrets are, giving them only bits and pieces right up until the secrets are revealed. Even then, the story is not over, as the characters have to decide what to do when their secrets are out. This is story of intrigue, love, romance, faith and redemption because in the end, the characters have to decide what matters most. I definitely recommend this one!

3)
Hooked on You by Kathleen Fuller—Riley McAllister and washed up baseball pitcher Hayden Price have their stories, as does their small town of Maple Falls. Their story is good, poignant at times, and laugh-out-loud funny at others. Still, crass humor and a little too much innuendo for a book billed as Christian fiction make this a pass for me. If I’m going to be hooked on a book or series, I need depth without the breadth of things that border on inappropriate.

4)
The Weary World Rejoices: A Devotional through Advent's Promises by Kate Bowler —Author Kate Bowler said this was a book, so I am counting it as one. This past year's advent devotional, it included lyrics from a Christmas tune, a daily reading, a daily prayer, and optional audio snippets. Sundays were meant to be done with the family. I especially appreciated the “Twelve Days of Christmas” section that expanded just a bit more on Christmas with a daily song, verse, and action to take. Bowler says this is an excerpt from Everything Happens, but it's a good one. I appreciate her sharing it as a resource this advent season.

5)
A Spacious Life: Trading Hustle and Hurry for the Goodness of Limits by Ashley Hales—This was a good book, though I felt like it got a little repetitive at the end. It focused how recognizing limits can expand and make room for our relationship to God. “Limits are...a part of God’s very good plan,” the author posits. “Our limits too are not strictures holding us back but doorways into intimacy with God,” she writes later. Ultimately, she concludes that making space is making space for God, who is spaciousness, and His Spirit who dwells within us. I cannot begin to confess that I have traded hustle for hurry, but this book did help change my perspective on limits. Perhaps they are a good thing to embrace rather than eschew. That gives me some thinking to do.

6)
A Time to Forgive by Marta Perry—Tory Marlowe has lost all of her loved ones. When an opportunity comes up for her to work and potentially make good on a promise to her dying mother, she jumps at it. Adam Caldwell is anything but happy to have her on his island. Harboring hurt and unforgiveness, he wants to keep giving Tory the cold shoulder, but slowly she warms up to him, thawing his hard heart, but not enough to forgive, at least until the stakes are extremely high. Parts of this story are a little underdeveloped, but overall, it is a good one, with a good message. The story is fairly short, and because of the message, worth taking the time to read.

7)
Promise Forever by Marta Perry—Reconciliation after divorce is not always possible, but I always hope for it, and in this sequel to A Time to Forgive, it happens! Miranda Caldwell and Tyler Winchester married, and divorced young. When Tyler finds out he has a son, he is forced to confront what he lost, and Miranda dares to hope for restoration. This is a sweet book, with a little unexpected suspense and drama included. It focuses on the strength of love and the value of learning to trust God and others. This is a shorter, but heartwarming piece of fiction with eternal values

8)
The Minister’s Wife: A Memoir of Faith, Doubt, Friendship, Loneliness, Forgiveness, and More by Karen Stiller—I put this book on my list last year when I was trying to understand more about exvangelicals and people deconstructing their faith. This book really was not about that, but rather a spiritual memoir depicting what it is like to be a minister's wife, specifically an Anglican minister's wife (which is a bit different, perhaps, than an evangelical minister's wife). It was a good book, that gave an inside look at the humanity of minister's wives. A few thoughts were poignant for me. I hope this gave me more empathy for minister's wives. Overall, though, it was just a book to read. It might be more meaningful for actual minister's wives who could more resonate with the author's personal experience.

9)
Is It Any Wonder by Courtney Walsh—Cody Boggs and Louisa Chambers made a birthday pact, but they their world disintegrated, leaving them both hurt and alone. They meet again Cody saves Louisa's life, but they are at an impasse. They can forgive neither themselves nor each other. Sweet family friend Maggie wants more for them, but not until Maggie dies do they begin to see the power of forgiveness. This book blends romance, mystery, intrigue, and a poignant message about the many facets of forgiveness. If there is a book I could recommend for immediate reading, it would be this wonderful one!

10)
Undeniably Yours by Becky Wade—This story really had it all: love, loss, intrigue, mystery, and suspense. I mean, it included a thoroughbred farm, cybercrime, and kidnapping, and I don't say that tongue in cheek. The story had all those elements and it was not in a cheesy or corny way. It was a very well written, intricately layered plot! The story had a lot to say about belonging to God and finding security and identity in him, too. Undeniably, this was a well written book!

Note: don't usually read books where the protagonist is divorced and looking for love again (or in this case, initially not), but by the time I recognized this was the case for heiress Meg Cole, I was into the story. I think that there were biblical grounds for Meg's divorce, too, so I kept reading.

11) 
Meant to be Mine by Becky Wade—Another book in the Porter Family series, and I could hardly put it down! Ty and Celia wed years ago in Las Vegas ceremony. They've been living separate lives, that is, until Ty decides to look Celia up and finds they have a daughter. Celia is determined to keep her heart closed to her former husband, that is until he sustains a career-ending injury. They both have a lot to learn about the love of God, forgiveness, and trust. Once again a multi-faceted story with some real world struggles, this is a beautiful book with, as the author notes in the discussion questions, at least three allegories, several of which I would argue are about the ultimate love of God expressed to those he predestines as His.

12) A Love Like Ours by Becky Wade—Lyndie James wants to teach her childhood friend Jake Porter to hope again. Jake, however, is deeply wounded. Physically, he has scars, but inwardly, he harbors guilt and traumatic flashbacks of what happened during his tour of duty in Iraq. Lyndie has to learn that only Jesus can heal and give eternal hope. Jake has to learn that one person can't give him everything, even if she can crack open his heart. The gospel could be made a little more clear in this book, but for a work of fiction, the story is a great purveyor of deeper spiritual truths. Mix in some thoroughbred horse racing and romance, and I was sold. Books like this don't come along everyday!

13) Her One and Only by Becky Wade—In this conclusion to The Porter Family Series, Executive Protective Agent Dru takes on the job of protecting football player Gray Fowler. There is a web of intrigue, near misses at death, a stalker to be found, and serious relationship issues that stem from Gray's history of childhood abuse. Once again, not a book for the faint of heart, but a good one that kept me at the edge of my seat. While not my favorite of the series (that honor goes to book two of the series), this book was still good and worth reading. After all, I couldn't just leave Dru as the only Porter whose story I didn't know!

Strong(er) in January


When I chose my word for 2025, I pictured myself focused, fierce, strong, brave. This month has not been that. Instead, I feel like it's been more of a grit-my-teeth, put-in-the-hard work kind of month. Everything has not been hard, but it has all taken effort. I think I always forget that. Good things take work. I need to put in some more before I really start to see gains. So here is the work I have been putting in for the three areas of my life that I want to strengthen:

Faith:

I continue with The Bible Recap reading plan. It has been a little bit of a switch to read my Bible every morning instead of in the evenings. I try to listen to The Bible Recap Podcast before I listen to anything else. I appreciate the fresh perspectives this practice is bringing to my faith walk. So far, I am really happy with this practice.

Marriage:

We did start a new marriage devotional from Jennie and Levi Lusko. That has been very good, with readings, discussion questions, and prayer to keep us focused on the Lord, which is where our ultimate strength lies.

I have listened to a few marriage podcasts. In my pride, sometimes I think, "I already know that," but then God humbles me and reminds me how much work I need to put into my marriage. Two specific podcast episode I would recommend are "From Conflict to Communication: How to Heal After a Fight" from A Purpose-Driven Marriage and "Tips for Planning Memorable Date Nights" from Focus on the Family

On that note, we have been slacking on official dates. We concluded our downtown scavenger hunt for the Gnome on the Roam. I proposed a year-long journey to visit all the public parks in our 138 square mile city. We started off strong, and have waned. Hopefully we get back to that pursuit. That is an area to strengthen for next month. 

Body:

I am keeping up with my physical therapy schedule. I have progressed at least two of the exercises in difficulty. Two out of my three ailments have gotten much better. Praise the Lord!

I completed the two week Perform 20 program with Nourish Move Love (NML) this month. It was the most accessible program from NML yet, but still a bit much with as much as I am running. A few times a week of strength work versus every day are better for my current schedule.

I am training for my next race. Overall, I have not getting back down to the paces I was running during marathon training, but oh well. This is where gritting my teeth comes in. Running is not agony for me. I like it, but it requires some strength of will to keep putting in work when not getting results right away. I keep trying, and we will see what happens.

I don't know if I will ever be able to do a pull-up, but my husband put back up his bar, and I bought pull-up assistance bands to start NML's pull-up program. I am far from progress, but am trying to grit my teeth and put in a few reps every other day or so. Will I gain strength? We will see.

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That's my recap for strong(er) January. May the Lord's strength carry me forward. To Him be all glory for any progress made.

Saturday, January 25, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 4)


The Eats:

Creamy white bean dumpling soup (Food by Maria)

Easy stovetop mac and cheese with jumbo shells (Great Value box recipe)-frozen for future use

Frances's low-iodine brownies (Truth about TC Recipes) (For a colleague at work on a low-iodine diet)

Hoisin stir-fry bowls with spicy peanut sauce (Budget Bytes)

Sourdough chocolate chip muffins (Living Well with Mandy)



Turkey chili smothered sweet potatoes (Budget Bytes)-frozen for future use

Turkey pot pie (From my mama's recipe vault)

The Empties:

Jar of applesauce
Old butter beans
Five pound bag of carrots
Cayenne pepper
Thirty-two ounce box of chicken broth
Two jars of frozen chicken broth
Old garlic
Two pound bag of frozen mixed vegetables
Old onions
Twelve ounce bag of shredded Parmesan Romano cheese
Two cans of Progresso soup
Can of pumpkin
Roasted pumpkin seeds
Red pepper
Frozen ricotta cheese mixture
Old rosemary
Sourdough discard
Frozen diced tomatoes
Can of tomato paste
Frozen tomato paste
Can of pumpkin
Two cans of tunafish
Frozen ricotta cheese
Twelve ounce bag of jumbo shells
Pound of ground turkey

What went to waste:

The end of the half gallon of milk soured, but I am still trying to find ways to use it up!

Wednesday, January 22, 2025

The Discipline of Running



People see runners and think, "Oh, they're so disciplined!" But as a runner, let me tell you, the discipline is not all about the running. It's about developing strength in all of the other things.

Running is about the disciplines of going to bed early and getting up early. Running is about the discipline of napping to help the body recover from the week's miles. Discipline is about turning off the phones, avoiding bright lights, and doing regular hygiene in order to get good sleep.

Running is about the discipline of sun protection. Running is about the discipline of wearing hats and sunscreen, especially when you don't enjoy them. Running is about the discipline of doing regular laundry in order to have clean running clothes that are appropriate for the weather.
Running is about the disciplines of nutrition and hydration, about eating and drinking before, during, and after. It is about taking in sugary gels because they are good for performance, not because I like them. It is about fueling regularly, even when it gets in the way of enjoying my run. It is about the discipline of running with a water pack because there are not water stops on the run. It is about eating within 90 minutes of finishing the run because my body needs it, not because I really feel like it.

Running is about the discipline of taking easy days easy and running hard days hard. It is about the disciplines of rest days because they allow the body to adapt and rebuild. It is about the disciplines of strength training and cross training because they make me a better runner. I like to run. Sometimes it is hard not to run.

Running is about the disciplines of stretching and foam rolling. It is about cold showers and icing. It is about taking Advil as needed to reduce inflammation. None of this stuff is fun. Sometimes, it is just needed.

I enjoy running, so running is not that hard for me anymore. It's all the other stuff that is hard, the stuff that keeps me healthy and running strong that takes discipline. The longer I run, the more I have to do of the other stuff, but because I enjoy running, I do it. The running is the reward, not the punishment, and that's why I keep doing it. That's also why I stay disciplined. The profit of discipline is the joy of running.

Saturday, January 18, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 3)


The Eats:

Cardamom butternut squash oatmeal (The Oatmeal Artist)

Chai spiced vegan muffins (Feel Good Foodie)

Chicken cauliflower patties (Little Bits of)

Spanish lentil stew (Tastes Better from Scratch)

Sweet 'n' spicy pull-apart chicken (The Conscious Cleanse)

The Empties:

Bacon
Frozen butternut squash
Five pound bag of carrots
Twelve ounce bag of sharp cheddar cheese
Carton of 18 eggs
Carton of Greek yogurt
Clementines
Twelve ounce bag of frozen green beans
Harvest blend herbal tea from Trader Joe's
Five pound bag of potatoes
Can of pumpkin
Frozen pizza
Frozen healthy sweet corn pudding with scallions (Feed Me Phoebe)
Marshmallows
Twelve ounce bag of mozzarella cheese
Can of pumpkin
Two heads of romaine lettuce

What went to waste:

Two carrot, chicken, and lettuce salads I prepped and left on the counter all day instead of refrigerating

Wednesday, January 15, 2025

Afghan 82


This blanket was NOT done in a day, but done over the course of several months. (That would be my fault for using regular, rather than chunky yarn.) It became a blanket of idiosyncrasies: I aimed to make the blanket crib-sized (36 x 54 inches), but it became smaller due to my gauge and running out of a color of yarn I did not know where to buy anymore. I chose to carry the yarn, rather than cutting each time I changed colors (rather than cutting it and rejoining each time), which cinched up the carrying side. Walmart apparently changed their white lot between my first and last purchases of yarn. All in all, though, I got the blanket done. Hopefully the idiosyncrasies will fade once a baby begins to use it.

Hook: size J Boye ergonomic crochet hook

Yarn:

Red Heart light gray

I Love This Yarn! turquoise

Mainstays white

Pattern: 

Easy 'done in a day' crochet baby blanket (Dabbles and Babbles)

Finished size: 34 x 52 inches 

Saturday, January 11, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 2)


The Eats:

Grilled frozen pizza (The Kitchn)--Seriously, try this hack for restaurant worthy pizza

Instant Pot mac and cheese (Pinch of Yum)

King ranch chicken casserole (Budget Bytes)

Moist pumpkin muffins (Jo and Sue)

The Empties:

Jar of applesauce
Two bell pepper (one frozen for future use)
Frozen bread crumbs
Two, two pound bags of frozen broccoli
Block cheese
Two 36 ounce cartons of chicken broth
Classic southern pralines (The Spruce Eats)
Carton of 18 eggs
Head of iceberg lettuce
Macaroni noodles
Gallon of milk
Twelve ounce bag of Parmesan cheese
Pretzels
Five pound bag of red potatoes
Pumpkin pie PopTart
Ruby chocolate
Two pound bag of frozen peas
Can of pumpkin
Seventy ounce salsa jar
Two pound bag of shredded cheese
Tomato sauce
Pound of ground turkey

What went to waste:

Part of a clementine

Refrigerator pickles (They may have been fine, but they looked funny, and after the debacle explained below, I was not going to risk using them.)

Most of the king ranch chicken casserole. (I used old tortilla chips, and it tasted bad. My husband hypothesized that the oil on the chips went rancid. We live in Arizona, so it's entirely possible. This was a major bummer and resulted in a need to remake the menu plan. (We each at it once and then I took it away from my husband and tried to eat more of it myself. I was sort of able to salvage some of the cheese, chicken and vegetables out of it and ate on top of potatoes. I tossed the tortilla chip part. Thankfully I had the supplies to make the Instant Pot mac and cheese to feed my husband.)

Friday, January 10, 2025

Real Life Marriage: Conflict is Good.


We came up against the same old wall yet again. I felt stressed and was trying to control things. My husband was asking to help and I wouldn't let him. "Trust me," he said. "You'll never learn to trust me if you don't ever let me try." I had to admit that he had a point, yet I was still unwilling to cede, so we came to a stalemate in our discussion.

That conflict felt yucky. I wanted to resolve it, but I could not do so with any integrity or peace of mind. I wished that I trusted my husband more. I wished that I could be more chill and relaxed, but I wasn't, or at least in this setting at this time. Thankfully, by God's grace, we somehow came to a truce later in the day. It was not easy nor comfortable, though, and I still felt distant from my husband through much of the day. Eventually I apologized for my role in the conflict, as in my opinion, my lack of trust had caused it.

"You didn't cause the conflict," my husband said, "and conflict isn't bad. Conflict helps us grow."

"Yes, but it doesn't feel good," I replied.

"But growth is good," he said.

I couldn't disagree. Conflict feels awful to me. I hate the discord it causes within myself. I hate the distance it causes between my husband and I. I hate the prideful, sinful, mean words that can come out of my mouth during it. Ultimately, though, conflict in and of itself is not always bad. It is just due to differences. In this case, some of my sin was involved, but sometimes conflict in marriage is just about doing things differently, not right or wrong, but differently.

I am not sure that I am quite to the level of maturity that my husband is in believing that conflict is good. I can see that growth is good, however, and for that reason, I can work to correct my perception of conflict. While I still don't like conflict, God can use it for the growth of our marriage, and that is good, because He is good. May He continue to use conflict to mold us more into His image, for our good and His glory.

Thursday, January 9, 2025

Yoga with Adriene Prana Review


There was no 30 day Yoga with Adriene challenge this year. (I guess I missed that last year's was the last.) Instead, she offered a short, seven day journey called Prana. In my opinion, that was just about right. 

The practices this year were all under 30 minutes in link, a little more approachable, if you ask me. The level was more intermediate than beginner, but still very accessible. All in all, I felt like this series was less about flow and more about just tuning into the body and moving.

Full disclosure, I did these yoga practices distracted. That's just me right now, with too many tabs open on my computer, on my phone, and in my brain. Still, this series gave me an excuse to quiet down just a little more, to make time for myself, or as Adriene says in Day 5, take "a quiet moment of being."

Was this practice. worth it? One-hundred percent! I may have had complaints about yoga journeys in the past, but this one was just right for me: a chance to catch a breath, which perhaps is just what Adriene intended given that the series name "Prana" means breath.

Saturday, January 4, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 1)

I'm simplifying my weekly eating wrap-ups this year and just sharing the eats (new recipes I made), empties (what I used up), and waste from the week. It is still my goal to throw away as a little food as possible, and listing this keeps me accountable. As for the rest of the wrap-up, I just enjoy sharing recipes and hope you, the readers, might get some new kitchen inspiration from my doing so.

(Caveat: We of course eat more that what is on the list each week, but for brevity's sake, I am just going to include the main new stuff we cooked.)

The Eats:

Creamy chicken and broccoli soup (How Sweet Eats) and homemade ciabatta bread (Sally's Baking Recipes)

King ranch chicken casserole (Budget Bytes)

Pumpkin pizza (Food Faith Fitness) (Using ultimate no-knead whole wheat pizza dough from Handle the Heat)

Spicy sausage pizza (Simply Recipes)

The Empties:

Apples
Two pound bag of frozen broccoli
Breakfast sausage
Cajun snack mix (The Cookin' Chicks)
Bag of baby carrots
Five pound bag of carrots
The last frozen sourdough pumpkin muffin (Everyday Homemade)
Twelve ounce bag of mozzarella cheese
Jar of mayonnaise
Can of rotel
Head of romaine lettuce
Frozen slow cooker creole red bean quinoa oats (Oatrageous Oatmeals)
Tortilla chips
Zucchini

What went to waste:

The last few pieces of our old sourdough bread (due to mold)

Friday, January 3, 2025

Strong(er)


Simplify was my word for 2024. Strong(er) is my word for 2025. To be honest, I wanted a different word for 2025, but as I thought and prayed about it, the words of Ephesians 6:10 kept coming to mind, "Finally, be strong in the Lord and the power of His might" (English Standard Version, ESV). This is a year I want to grow stronger, in my faith, in my marriage, and in my body (in that order).

How will I work towards my goals this year? I like Lindsey Bomgren's (of Nourish Move Love) of having rocks, that is specific things to do each month or quarter that contribute towards those goals. As of right now, those are starting The Bible Recap reading plan (for spiritual strength), doing a weekly marriage devotional with my husband, and keeping up with my physical therapy regimen. Is there more I can (and am trying) to do? Yes, but for now, these are my focus.

The Filter Question. Another strategy I am keeping in mind is that of a filter question. My husband came up with this idea while planning our wedding. The idea was to run every decision through a question. Using my word of the year, I can ask myself, "Does this make me/us/others stronger?" If the answer is, "Yes." I can ask myself, "How?" Everything I do does not have to make me stronger, but if it doesn't, I really need to ask myself if it is worth my time. Although I tried to simplify last year, I still had a lot of stuff on my plate. I still have a lot of stuff on my plate, and I think, in reality, a lot of it is going to stay there. I can choose where I focus, however. I can choose to prioritize.

So there you have it, my word, and what I hope to start to do with it. With God's help, hopefully I can grow stronger in 2025. Stronger in the Lord. Stronger in my marriage. Stronger in my marriage. To God be the glory!