Tuesday, March 31, 2026

Everything I Read (and Listened To) in March


I went back to my old reading style this month. I had been trying to alternate reading fiction and non-fiction books, to keep myself from getting over-engrossed in the fiction books. That backfired in that I would blaze through the nonfiction books, just to get them done so that I could return back to reading the books I wanted to read. So, I went back to my old way of checking out one fiction and one nonfiction book at the same time. When I found myself getting too engrossed in the fiction book, I took a break and read a chapter or so from the nonfiction book, and back and forth I went. That allowed me to prolong my enjoyment of the fiction, and get through the nonfiction books at a little more sustainable of a pace. My system unraveled a bit when I got out of my alternating pattern (due to waiting for a fiction book to get off hold), but I still think it is better than what I was doing.

Also, I realized this month why I like audiobooks. Growing up, my mom read aloud to us every summer: everything from The Chronicles of Narnia to Les Miserables. We also listened to Adventures in Odyssey radio drama for many years. Audiobooks take me back to those days, or at least something similar. There is something different about hearing stories, and it is hands free, so easier to incorporate into life.

All in all, I enjoyed reading this month, and though I took Lent 2025 off reading, I am glad I kept it this year. It was an enjoyable pastime as I slowed down and tried to savor a bit more of life. So without further ado, here's my March reading list:

32. Once Upon a Summertime by Melody Carlson—Anna Gordon gets her "big break" when her hometown Value Lodge fires her. She never intended to stay in Springville. She just did so because of love for her grandmother. Now with the opportunity to work at the new Rothsberg hotel in New York, she thinks she has it made. There is only one problem: her former classmate Sean O'Neil. He becomes the general manager of the hotel. She is okay with that, until he starts to get too close to her heart. The plot of this novel is a bit underdeveloped, especially the end, but it is clean, sweet, and easy to read. I appreciated the value placed on friendship, and I think I will use a little more of (the weather feels like summer) time to read other books in this series.

33. The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own by Joshua Becker—This book was captivating and convicting. In it, pastor turned blogger and writer Joshua Becker shares about his family’s journey into minimalism. He writes about the excesses of American life and how minimalism can lead to more generosity. He’s not a one-size-fits-all minimalist, either. Rather, he encourages each family to downsize to the version of less that fits their calling in life. While I don’t think I will ever get to a state of true minimalism, this book contributes to my continued desire to sort, declutter, and downsize in order to have less and make room to live a more full life.

34. Wildflower by Drew Barrymore [Audio book]—Wow. What a book. It reminds me a little bit of Britney Spear’s autobiography in that it’s full of unhinged stories. It’s Barrymore’s book in its own right though, in that Barrymore has some clear values: like raising her children well and caring for the underprivileged in Africa. 
Barrymore is a great actress (as well as a voice actress), and man does she have a story—a story riddled with sadness and mental illness, but also grit, determination, and perseverance. Overall, this book is less cohesive memoir and more a series of short essays about different events in Barrymore’s life. It’s not linear, which can be confusing, and it’s filled with use the f word, which was disappointing because it had some good elements of audio drama. (It was more drama than audiobook). All in all, I can’t say I recommend this book at all. It’s too wild. It does give another sad window into the lives of childhood film stars, though (starting work at 11 months, not really going to school, being emancipated at age 14 and raising herself, lots of drinking and risk-taking, etc.). I think we as a society really need to do better with child actors. Children should be children raised by wise and kind adults, not just left to run wild a free, regardless of how appealing that may seem.

35. Once Upon a Summertime by Melody Carlson—Once again, this story felt a little underdeveloped, but I read through the author's book list, and it's pretty long, so she must write a lot. It also looks like she started writing books for teen girls, both of which would track with less intricate story lines. Anyway, in this book, Tia D'Amico goes to San Francisco to work as chef on her Aunt Julie and Uncle Roland's boat. There she meets boat captain Leo Parker, someone she knows from her teen sailing camp days. Once upon a time, she would have fallen for him, but now he is engaged to Natalie, another girl from sailing camp who desperately wants to be Tia's friend. Tia desperately tries to keep everything above board, but there are some secrets and some fallings out, and then (spoiler alert, but not really), Tia and Leo fall for each other. This book was good enough and easy enough to read that I put the last book in the series on hold at the library. 

36. 
Letter from Japan by Marie Kondo with Marie Iida —I read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up first in 2017. Last year, in 2025, Kondo wrote this book: an insight into her culture and how it informs her work. While I have never visited Japan (but my brother has), this book certainly made me more interested in it. As Kondo presents it, Japan is a place of more slower paced, seasonal, communal living. She writes about the many cultural rituals that focus on finding joy and how other cultures miss that in their hustle and bustle. She writes some of the Buddhist/Shinto religion, and though that is not for me as a Christian, there are other practices worth pondering. If nothing else, it helps me to read how extensively joy factors into Kondo’s tidying work and how that, not the resulting tidiness, should be the motivating factor.

37. The Life-Changing Manga of Tidying Up: A Magical Story by Marie Kondo, illustrated by Yuko Uramoto, translated from the Japanese by Cathy Hirano—This was a fun way to review the rules of the KonMari method. Written manga style, it is the story of Chiaki, a young woman in Toyko who cannot enjoy her life because of the mess of her apartment. She hires Marie Kondo to help, and as a result, reclaims her joy. Obviously, there is more to joy than tidying, and having just read Letter from Japan, I see the Shinto elements of the KonMari method. Still, I think there is something to say about detaching from stuff and attaching to joy, Jesus being the ultimate joy for Christians. While I would not say this book was life-changing, the manga style made it short and fun, and I enjoyed reading it.

38. The Art of Discarding by Nagoya Tatsumi—Marie Kondo credits this book with starting her decluttering process. It’s not bad, but I think the introduction pretty much sums it up. Stop keeping stuff. Discard. Stop amassing new stuff. Set limits for consumption. There are some strategies in the book towards these ends, but the ending admonition is pretty much the same: Stop delaying; start discarding. I read this book quickly, so it was not a waste, per se, but I think other books might be more helpful motivation, inspiration, and education for decluttering.

39. Adventures in Opting Out: A Field Guide to Leading an Intentional Life by Cait Flanders [Audiobook]—Cait Flanders has opted out many times: leaving a government job, quitting drugs and drinking, stopping shopping (see her first book, The Year of Less), and then pulling up her roots for a year of planned (and unplanned) travel. In this book, she writes about opting out of others’ expectations and choosing her own path. She uses the analogy of hiking, sharing about the base, valley, slope, and summit of opting out. This is part “you do you,” but with a side of considering how personal choices affect others and the environment. I enjoyed listening to this on audiobook, as it helped me reflect on my own opting in (or out, as the case may be), and what is costs me, because all decisions have a cost.

40. Reinventing Rachel by Alison Strobel—Twenty-six year-old Rachel Westing is used to having reciprocal relationship with God. She does stuff for Him. He does stuff for her. When a storm of trials come her way, she loses her way, running from God, and refusing to talk to Him. She moves from California to Chicago, giving up church and Bible reading for alcohol and non-Christian relationships. Things get worse and worse and worse until she ends up hospitalized. There are some very redeeming parts of this book, but some flat development of non-primary characters. It was also hard for me to read a book where I was going, “No, no, no! Don't do that!” for much of it. I just do not know what to make of Strobel's books. I am also very curious why, for the second time, the book has included a character with bipolar disorder. Does Strobel know someone with it? Has she struggled? The mysteries are many. I would probably read a few more of Strobel's books out of curiosity, but it looks like those books are limited and she has now reinvented herself (with her husband) as a children's book author.

41. Stuck in the Middle by Virginia Smith—I did not love this book. It is not like I got stuck reading it—I read it pretty quickly. The messages middle sister Joan Sanderson learns about God's unconditional, fatherly love are valuable. She also learns about letting go, service to others, and genuineness. Even though it really wasn't, this story just felt trite and simple overall. While there are two more books in this series, I think I am going to try another series before coming back to this one.

42. Project 333: The Minimalist Fashion Challenge That Proves Less Really Is So Much More by Courtney Carver—As part of her move to simplify her life, Courtney Carver created the 333 challenge (wearing only 33 pieces of clothing and accessories for three months), and it went viral. I read about the challenge in Carver's first book, Soulful Simplicity, and again in Joshua Becker's book, The More of Less. I thought I understood the challenge, and so I tried it, for about a week and then failed, miserably. This book helped me understand the challenge in its entirety, especially the prep work that should go into it. In the end, while I appreciated the book, I don't think I will do the challenge. Boxing up clothes to reduce decision fatigue especially bothers me, as it seems like a waste. But maybe this is where my misunderstanding comes in. The 333 challenge is not so much decluttering as it is about minimalism. I think I am more about decluttering and simplifying than about minimalism. Still, this book gave me things to think about, and for that, I am grateful. And who knows? Maybe now that the seed is planted, I might change my mind and decide to do the challenge someday.

43. Uncommon Favor: Basketball, North Philly, My Mother, and the Lessons I Learned from All Three by Dawn Staley [Audio book] —This was a good book! I noticed it on the library’s Best Books of 2025 List and thought it would be interesting. It was, and an inspiring on at that! I had never heard of Dawn Staley, but let me tell you, after listening to her story, I am a fan. Her story of growing up in the projects, working up to collegiate, world, and then NBA and Olympic basketball, and now a winning NCAA coach is incredible. Her commitment to coaching as a relational process by which to build up the next generation is commendable. While she does not talk about it too much in the book (probably due to outcry from some of her media appearances in which she thanked God), she seems to be a woman of faith, and is motivated by that faith to do what she does. Apart from some language (not preferred by me, but understandable given her background, as well as her current coaching role), I found this a very enjoyable listen. With 13 lessons for life, I would say this book has something to offer everyone—basketball fan or not. While Staley believes she has received uncommon favor, she is not hoarding it. Instead, she is sharing it for all who will read (or listen)!

44. Messy Minimalism: Realistic Strategies for the Rest of Us by Rachelle Crawford [Audiobook]—I am starting to realize that minimalist authors must run in the same circles, as the author of this book quotes some of the others I have read: Joshua Becker, Courtney Carver, etc. Crawford was a labor and delivery nurse, a busy, messy, and cluttered mom, and now a minimalist. This book is a little different in that she encourages a grace-based approach to minimalism—putting a greater emphasis on mindset than on material goods. She does weave her Christian faith into some of the book (like Becker). I would say that the unique additions she adds to the movement are a chapter on decluttering the schedule (calendar space versus capacity space), a reminder that minimalism may require facing personal pains (because decluttering ends at some point, leaving empty time and space), and an acknowledgement that minimalism is not all fulfilling (because life is about more). I listened to this book on audio, and while it was not earth-shattering, it was good motivation to think about living a life with purpose, rather than just accepting (and adding to) the mess that naturally comes with life.

45. Age Before Beauty by Virginia Smith—I said I was not going to read any more in the Sanderson Sister-to-Sister series, but then I really did not want to get into any other character plots, so I slid into this book. I am glad I did! This book had a lot more depth, with a focus on the eldest sister, Allie. Allie is wrestling with all that comes with being a new mom: questions about her identity, shame over her appearance, guilt over leaving her baby to go to work, ghosts of the past that threaten her marriage, and estrangement from the faith she left when she got married. Her husband Eric, meanwhile, is wrestling with all the women in his life: his mother (who showed up on the doorstep estranged from his dad), his wife, his daughter, and a woman at work who seems to want more than friendship. There are small subplots involving Joan and Tori, but overall, this is a story of love, loss, and finding a new perspective on what really matters. I read this book pretty quickly—and enjoyed it! Now onto the last book, because I am a sucker for series. (And what redemption story will beautiful little sister Tori have?)

46. Third Time’s a Charm by Virginia Smith—Tori Sanderson's job as a marketing research analyst is heating up, and it couldn't come at a worse time. She's trying to get ready for Joan's wedding, and deal with some newly uncovered information about her absent father. Enter farm boy Ryan Adams, who shows interest in her, adding another complication. This book mostly wraps up the Sanderson sisters' search for love, but I didn't like it as much as Age Before Beauty. Yes, the story had some depth, but the shopaholic, business woman meets farm boy trope seemed a bit forced. The whole story kind of did. It was not a bad book, but it was not a book that charmed me, either. With the end of this series, I am for sure looking for something different for my next read!

47. The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Trauma and Adversity by Nadine Burke-Harris, M.D.—This book, albeit dated, is a great resource! In it, Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris uses story to share about her work in the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) movement. Spoiler alert (something not learned until the end of the book), she has them, too. They are, in part, her why for writing. This book is not so much about eliminating ACEs as it is about the need for comprehensive programs to address their effects. We aren’t to the 2040 vision Burke-Harris paints at the end of the book, but we are making progress. I hope more people read this book and get in the business of helping kids (and adults) recover from trauma. It isn’t just professionals that individuals who endure trauma need. Any secure, steady relationship can be a buffer that helps reduce the long term effects of the well of adversity.

48. The Stories We Tell: Every Piece of Your Story Matters by Joanna Gaines [Audiobook]—This is second time Joanna Gaines says she has written her life story. She wrote in first in her twenties, and now at age 44 (at the 2022 writing of this book), she is reconsidering life again—as she enters her “second act” of life. She writes that one of her values is vulnerability, and here she is baring it all, in hopes that her story will inspire others. This book is more philosophical than specifically gritty, but it is honest and real, which is what Joanna Gaines is. This story has a lot to say about setting aside perfect, accepting God's love, growing through pain, and having fun. It's not exactly a memoir and not self-help either. It's Joanna Gaines' own brand of sharing and inspiring which is fitting for a woman who actually did (with her husband Chip) build her own brand!

49.Why We Work by Barry Schwartz [Audiobook]—Psychologist Barry Schwartz has studied human behavior for decades, and he proposes that theories about human nature actually change human nature. In this book, he explores how the theory that people work for external incentives (eg money)has undermined the very meaning of work. He writes about how the current economy's promotion of pay actually undermines the social good that can come from work. He argues that meaning, challenge, autonomy, and engagement are actually what create meaning in work. He suggests that designing workplaces that value work and add meaning to work will conversely help employees value work and find meaning in it. This is both a practical and philosophical book—a little different from my norm, but worth listening to for a few hours while I did, you guessed it, cooking and housework. I might have gotten more from it had I been actually reading and not multi-tasking.

50. Under a Summer Sky by Melody Carlson—This last book in Melody Carlson's Follow Your Heart Series takes high school art teacher Nicole Anderson from Seattle, Washington to Savannah, Georgia. Tasked with managing an art gallery over the summer, she also assumes the task of semi-parenting Bernice, the teenage daughter of a friend of the family. Bernice's father, Alex, would like Nicole to show some interest in him, but Nicole has none. She is interested instead in his brother Ryan, the man who had a crush on her as a kid, but now seems to be taken by another one of his childhood friends. While the plot of this book seems a bit trite, it is actually a deeper story, despite a lack of strong faith integration. (A few characters pray, and that is about it.) It is clean and sweet and good for a (pre-)Summer read. I enjoyed it!

51. If You Don’t Like This, I Will Die: An Influencer Memoir by Lee Tilghman [Audiobook]—This book was definitely NOT what I was expecting. I knew Lee Tilghman as an ex-wellness influencer who had quietly (or not so quietly) exited the influencer space, touting its harmful effects on her physical, mental, emotional, and relational health. What I found in this book was explicit retellings of her sexual exploits, hard drug use, and recountings of multiple abortions. Sure, there was stuff in there about how she started online as twelve year old, and went through multiple remakings to keep selling her brand, how she sold “authenticity,” but lacked integrity. (She writes of stealing from influencer brands through using gift card codes that were not hers.) Tilghman recognized how she’d lost herself after a mental breakdown, apartment flood, and stint at a treatment center for orthorexia. She writes in the epilogue that she isn’t against influencing now, but is against losing herself in it. That’s all good and well, but from what I can tell, Tilghman is back in the influencer space, having recreated herself as an influencer coach. While I always want to promote mental health and never want to disparage anyone outright, I do have to say that I didn’t like this book and cannot recommend it. Maybe read Tilghman’s Substack instead? But even that comes with a cost.

52. Homemade Cleaners by Mandy O’Brien and Dionna Ford—This was an interesting read, and honestly made me feel a little bit like a chemist! The authors obviously have an environmental agenda to push, but aside from that, they have some interesting (and science-backed) ideas about how to clean a house naturally, rather than with harsh commercial chemicals. (I acknowledge that cleaning commercial properties this way is probably untenable due to time and supplies. What I gathered, is that when I doubt, baking soda, vinegar, and water in some proportion will probably work!) While I already use vinegar for a lot of my cleaning, it would still require some effort to change to completely natural products in my home. With this being a year of less, that change isn’t making its way into my current priority list, but if it did, I might purchase this book as a home resource.

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And that, my friends, is my extensive reading (and listening) list for March. Have you read any of these books? What books have you read recently that you would recommend? Please share in the comments section!

Monday, March 30, 2026

LESS Hunger (Judgement)


My running nutrition coach told me to eat like a marathoner for a least two days after my race (Moore, n.d.). I guess I thought that meant my hunger would decrease significantly thereafter. That has not been the case. Rather, despite my rapidly reduce mileage, I have been very, very hungry.

I judged my hunger as "too much," which made me feel yucky eating "so much," but then again, I hate being hungry, so I ate to satiation anyway. And so I decided my LESS this month would be to judge my hunger less, to eat intuitively, and see what happened.

My running nutrition coach told me that I needed to fuel better, and I was (Moore, n.d.). I started implementing more of her suggestions post race (to make sure that they did not upset my stomach as I finished training). I expected that increasing my consumption of things like healthy fats and more whole foods would lead to increased satiety. Not so. Even with adding in all these thngs, I still felt very hungry. And so I ate, and ate some more.

My running nutrition coach warned me that I would gain weight as I fueled better. I had already gained a bit of weight by the time of my marathon. What I didn't expect was for it to continue, at a rather rapid pace. It was fine. I could stand to gain weight. It just didn't feel good.

Instead of judging my hunger, I tried to be curious. I played around with timing of my meals, meal composition, etc. A few times, I experienced less hunger, but overall, it was high. Maybe my stomach was just used to being more full, and it needed some time to constrict back to its normal size? (How do you convince your body you no longer need as many calories after the marathon?, 2024). A few times, I tried to eat not quite to satiety, what I "used to" eat when I was running less, but that didn't feel good either. I was pretty terrified of getting an underfueling injury if I ate too little. I wanted to get back to training. So I just ate. 

I researched explanations for my hunger. I heard on a podcast (and then later read) that increased hunger, even when training less can be a result of underfueling (Alm, 2026, Senior-Runner, 2025). My nutrition coach did tell me that she thought I was underfueling, so maybe that was it. (I wasn't losing weight, so I thought I was okay. I guess not.) I read about post-race weight gain due to inflammation, but that didn't explain my hunger, or the fact that I seemed to be continuing to put on weight over a month post race (Krapcha, 2024). I saw on Reddit that weight gain is common in the back half of marathon training, and afterward (Becka_Swan, 2026). I even saw on one forum that it is normal for weight to go up for months post marathon, and then eventually stabilize (JRMischler, 2017). I assume hunger being higher would go along with that. I also saw the hypothesis that longer running efforts just made the body hang onto more to be "safe" (SpinorsSpin4, 2026). That all made sense.

In the end, I wanted to run more than I wanted to be back to my "old self," so I worked on hunger acceptance. This is not my old self. This is a new, two-marathon run body. Maybe I've gained muscle. (I did up my dumbbells to 15 pounds again, but I am still only training strength about twice a week.) (Hnatiuk, 2023; MankyPants, 2025). Maybe I've gained fat. Whichever, whatever the case, I need to honor hunger. While here at the end of the month, it has seemed to abate some, I am also returning to training more, which means I need to eat more. I said I was going to do the work to fuel better, and I guess this is all part of it. So here's not to less hunger, but to less judgement of it; to honoring it and seeing what it feeds.

References:

Alm, M. (Host). (2026, February 13). Q&A with Maddie - 24. (S2 E03) [Audio podcast episode]. Fueling forward. https://rss.com/podcasts/fuelingforwardpodcast/2545725/

[Becka_Swan]. (2026, February 26). Have done 2 marathons now - with both I lost a little bit as I started ramping up, but then when [Comment on the online forum post Have you gained or lost weight when marathon training?] Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/XXRunning/comments/1rf3225/have_you_gained_or_lost_weight_when_marathon/

Hnatiuk, S. (Host). (2023, November 11). Why you're gaining weight (despite so much running!). [Audio podcast episode]. The fuel run recover podcast. https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/stephanie-hnatiuk/episodes/Why-Youre-Gaining-Weight-despite-doing-so-much-running-e27kg16

How do you convince your body you no longer need as many calories after the marathon? (2024). [Online forum post]. Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/Marathon_Training/comments/1cncxa2/how_do_you_convince_your_body_you_no_longer_need/

[JRMischler]. (2017, February 10).  I normally gain about 5 to 8 lbs in the 3 to 4 months after a marathon.  During that time [Comment on the online forum post Post-Marathon Bloat/Weight Gain]. Running ahead. https://www.runningahead.com/forums/post/1009a4b2c6754233964e5ecc838cff81

Krapcha, K. (2024, February 26). Run tri mag. https://runtrimag.com/weight-gain-after-ultramarathon/

[MankyPants]. (2025). Ha! I gained 10kg, and I’m petite. It happens. On the upside I’ve run multiple PBs during my training and [Comment on the online forum post Feeling lost after my marathon, struggling with binge eating and unsure about London next year]. Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/Marathon_Training/comments/1omrj9c/feeling_lost_after_my_marathon_struggling_with/

Moore, E. (n.d.). The Dietitian Runner. https://thedietitianrunner.com/

[Senior-Running]. (2025). My initial reaction here is that you're overthinking this?
You mention a difference in mileage of 25 miles in a [Comment on the online forum post Struggling with hunger after a training block]. Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/Marathon_Training/comments/1njbwb6/comment/nep36rs/

[SpinorsSpin4]. (2026, February 16). I gain weight when my volume gets higher too. I think when I'm consistently doing longer efforts, my body just [Comment on the online forum post Does anyone else gain weight when running more?]. Reddit. https://www.reddit.com/r/Ultramarathon/comments/1r6fcte/does_anyone_else_gain_weight_when_running_more/

Saturday, March 28, 2026

The More of Less Update (March)



We are three months into the year now, so instead of individual posts, I'm moving to one update on my word of the year, and progress towards it.

January: Less scrolling. Well, thanks to Lent, I am mostly off social media. I log into Facebook daily to check birthdays (because I like sending greetings) and a few times a week to update my blog page. I occasionally find myself scrolling, but try to hold back. 

I am on Instagram only to check the Yogi See Yogi Do Crew pose and make sure no one has hacked my account. For some reason, I have not been as tempted to scroll there. Having the apps off my phone really does help!

I am accessing my pins on Pinterest, and still have that app on my phone so I can save things I find on the Internet, but otherwise, I am not scrolling there.

But what am I doing? I realized that scrolling Reddit might be breaking my (mostly) Lenten abstinence. I also have a problem saving way too many possible books to read in the library Libby app. And I like to scroll podcasts and read snippets, just to see what's up. It's like my brain is always looking for "that thing." I guess it's good to recognize that my brain wants little dopamine "snacks." I just need to have enough self-control to stop scrolling after I get that (or find otherwise to get that "high").

February: Less picking. I am really a sensory person, and I am realizing that a lot of things about my skin bug me. So for starters, I am trying to take better care of it. This month, that looked like breaking into my new (expensive to me) Avon face cream. While I didn't expect to see results, man, do I! Although I am still having some breakouts, my skin is smoother and seems glow-ier (if that's a word). Props to my amazing Avon lady for this recommendation.

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And in other news, I have been reading a lot of books about minimalism--probably too many at this point, as they are all starting to run together, and I now have, as Kendra Adachi (2026) puts it "big black trash bag energy." While I cannot throw everything away, I did make a goal to declutter at least one item a day this month. Sometimes that looks like shredding old documents. Sometimes it is contributing items to the big brown donation box in the corner of the bedroom. I am trying to declutter my own stuff and not drive my husband crazy. I don't know how much I am really simplifying, but I am looking at things with new eyes. If we have duplicates we are not using, or I have not used something in a while, it is going away! And hey, at least I can fit the potato masher in the bin on the counter now, instead of fighting with the drawer into which I'd wedged. That makes my weekly potato mashing easier. 

As Rachelle Crawford reminded me with her book, Messy Minimalism, the goal of less is to be more present. The goal of less is to live more of life, and not just fill it with more stuff. At some point, sorting ends and a person has to sit with some hard stuff. I am not sure I am there yet, as I think I overfilled myself this month by setting too many daily goals (declutter, do yoga, read, etc.) as I saw a little space opened up in this season of "less."  May God continue to guide and provide, and may my attempts at less always point to Him!

References:

Adachi, K. (Host). (2026, March 16). How to better channel your big black trash bag energy. (No. 460) [Audio podcast episode]. The lazy genius. https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/lazy/bbtbe

Crawford, R. (2021). Messy minimalism: Real life strategies for the rest of us. Broadleaf books.

What We Cooked and Ate (Week 13)

This Week's Eats:

Go big or go home! This week found us at the end of our bag of salmon burgers from Costco. In honor of that, I made twice-baked potatoes as the side dish. They're not too much effort the way I made them. I just baked the potatoes, hollowed out the insides, and mixed the cooked flesh with sour cream, parsley, salt, and pepper, then threw that back into the shells, and topped with cheese!

Monday, March 23, 2026

Afghan 91

Crocheting is kind of my "party trick" (enter meeting or other gathering where I need to keep my hands busy). In this case, it kind of backfired. I chose this afghan pattern while we had company over (I think for my husband's birthday in September 2025, but I'm not totally sure), so I really wasn't paying that much attention. The pattern is labeled as "intermediate" level, but it was really kind of complicated. I ran out of yarn a few times and let the afghan be. But finally, finally, it's done.

I don't think I want to do a pattern like this for a long time, or ever. The point of crocheting for me is to have a soothing activity I can do almost without thinking. This took a lot of thinking and counting and tallying. The texture is cool, but not worth it for me!

Hook: Size I placed into a Boye ergonomic crochet hook handle

Pattern: Hygge chic throw (Yarnspirations)

I chained 141 for 14 shells, and did around 25 rows. (The full blanket size was 128 rows. I cannot imagine doing that many!)

Finished size: 25 x 37 (approximating 30 x 35 stroller size)


Saturday, March 21, 2026

What We Cooked and Ate (Week 12)

This Week's Eats:

Same menu again, with a few tweaks to add variety. I have found sheet pan pancakes an extremely efficient way to make pancakes. Yes, round pancakes are pretty, but with a sheet pan, they all cook at once, hands off! Plus, I can add whatever mix-ins I want. This week, I added strawberries to all the pancakes, peanut butter chips to some (for a PBJ vibe), and chocolate chips to others (for a chocolate-covered strawberry vibe).

Wednesday, March 18, 2026

Afghan 90


This was a nice, pretty blanket that worked up easily with various skeins of yarn I had lying around. With just half-double crochet and slip stitches, it worked up pretty mindlessly-perfect for picking up and putting down without losing the pattern. It went to a very special little girl whom I haven't met in person, but already love very much!

Hook: Ergonomic crochet hook size J

Yarn: I Love This Yarn! turquoiseMainstays whiteRed Heart soft navy

Pattern: Pumpkin spice blanket (Beautiful Dawn Designs)

Finished size: 32 x 47


Monday, March 16, 2026

Project 333 (I Pretty Much Failed Before I Started)


I learned about Project 333 by reading Courtney Carver's (2017) book Soulful Simplicity. She designed Project 333 to help reduce nonessential items on her closet and pursue a life of simplicity. She would wear 33 items of clothing (including shoes and jewelry, but not her wedding ring, undergarments, socks, or workout clothes) and wear only those items for three months (Carver, n.d.). Her efforts went viral and thus the "official" challenge was born.

I read about Project 333 again in Joshua Becker's (2018) book The More of Less and figured, "Why not?" Originally, I thought that the challenge would coincide with Lent, and I would be good. Then I realized it was for three months, which would stretch into and over hopes for a weekend trip, and a family wedding. Still, I thought I might be able to do it.

I made some intentional choices to rewear clothes that first week. I tried to use the same accessories and to keep workout clothes for working out only (a rule of the challenge according to Carver, n.d.b.). I realized I would need to be resourceful to keep in my wedding clothes, as I thought I needed to dress up to be respectful. I was doing okay until I realized I had already worn three different pairs of sunglasses, plus added a hat. I could argue that I "needed" these for sun protection, and I did, but I didn't need all three pairs. One would have done.

As I read more about the challenge, I realized that I missed some key steps. I was supposed to box up all the clothes I wasn't going to wear (Carver, n.d.b.). So I basically set myself up for failure there. Carver also suggests doing a closet clean out and choosing only loved items for the capsule wardrobe. I didn't do that, either. I didn't categorize (Carver, n.d.a.). I didn't make a preemptory list of my capsule wardrobe (Carver, 2024). By failing to plan, I basically planned to fail.

I did put Carver's (2020) Project 333 book on hold at the library, and am currently reading it. That way I will know how to be successful at the challenge if I really decide to do it. I am not sure I will, though. Yes, I see its benefits: It can reduce decision fatigue (Carver, n.d.a.). It can reduce clothes in my closet. But is it practical? Would it benefit me, or just add more stress? I read that it is "not a project in suffering" (Carver, n.d.c.). I read that Carver did it in 15 to 95 degrees. I am not sure the challenge is for me, though. Sure, get rid of what I'm not wearing, but why not enjoy wearing what I have? Should I lose, or grow out of, or have to throw out all of my clothes, maybe I would build a capsule wardrobe and go from there. As it is, it just seems pointless, borderline wasteful, and definitely slightly stressful and guilt-inducing to try to do the challenge. Oh wait! I guess I already tried to do the challenge and failed.

References:

Becker, J. (2018). The more of less: Finding the life you want under everything you own. Waterbrook.

Carver, C. (n.d.a.). How to build a capsule wardrobe. Be more with less. https://bemorewithless.com/how-to-build-a-capsule-wardrobe/

Carver, C. (n.d.b.). Project 333 challenge. Be more with less. https://bemorewithless.com/project-333-challenge/

Carver, C. (n.d.c.). Project 333: Getting started (Without these 5 things). Be more with less. https://bemorewithless.com/project-333-enough-is-enough/

Carver, C. (2017). Soulful simplicity: How living with less can lead to so much more. Tarcher.

Carver, C. (2020). Project 333: The minimalist fashion challenge that moves less is really so much more. Tarcher.

Carver, C. (2024). How to start a capsule wardrobe (10 easy, practical steps). Be more with less. https://bemorewithless.com/start-a-capsule-wardrobe/

Tuesday, March 10, 2026

Real Life Marriage: Holy Not Happy (A Reprise)

When I first got married, I really railed against the idea that marriage is "to make you holy not happy"  (a paraphrase from Gary Thomas' (2015) book Sacred Marriage). It was really that word "not" that I railed against. Marriage was making me happy, and I wanted to enjoy it. I still do. Marriage is a gift from God, one I do not want to take for granted. Six plus years into marriage, though, I think I am starting to get it.

I love my husband. Really, I do! He is a gift. He is smart, kind, caring, compassionate, helpful, wise, and so much more-AND-we are very different. Six years in, those differences seem to be becoming more, not less pronounced. Or maybe they are just becoming more apparent as we experience more of life together. If marriage was all about happiness, I would argue that we would be out. Marriage is a lot more about sanctification, or at least overtly choosing that path.

Being married to a very different person forces me to confront my selfishness over and over again. If I am honest, most of the time I just want to make choices that benefit myself. I want to eat what and where I want to eat. I want to do chores on my schedule. I want to watch movies I like. I want to spend money on things for me. Sometimes I want to make choices that benefit and bless my husband, but most often, I don't. Marriage makes that very apparent. Marriage show me how much I need to grow.

I have plenty of happy times with my husband. We enjoy adventuring together. We travel. We play games. In this season, though, my need to grow is apparent. I have always needed the Lord's sanctifying work, but now more than ever, I see it. Marriage is an instrument God is using in my life. Man, it can be rough. Man it can be painful. Since marriage is God's will for me, though, I would not have it any other way. I need to be more holy and when God in His grace allowed me to get married, this was part of His plan.

Reference:

Thomas, G. (2015). Sacred marriage: What if God designed marriage to make us holy rather than to make us happy? Zondervan.

Monday, March 9, 2026

Butcher Jones Trail

I have been hiking a lot less since going on my endurance running journey, but for special occasions, I still make the effort. The special occasion this past weekend was nearing our engagement anniversary. Since we got engaged on a hike, I try to plan a special hike each year to remember it.


I don't remember exactly how I found Butcher Jones Trail. I think I found it one one of the "Best Hikes in Mesa" sites [maybe this one (The AZ Hikeaholics, 2024). Anyway, it is a ways from our house, but it looked beautiful; long enough to be worth the drive, but not too challenging, since neither my husband or I have been hiking that much lately.


We drove about 40 minutes from our house to get to Butcher Jones Recreation Area, down Bee Line Highway, onto Bush Highway, and then a few miles down the park road. We arrived early, about 7:45 AM, and found a parking spot in the main recreation area. (This had very much filled up by the time we left. We did see an overflow parking area on our way out, though.) The cost to use this recreation area in Tonto National Forest is $8, plus a $4 convenience fee, and the machine only accepts credit cards. The recreation area has several composting toilets (no water), multiple concrete picnic tables, and open beach access to Saguaro Lake. We did not see any trash receptacles, so pack out what you pack in!


Most of the trail sites say the trail starts on a concrete path (OhOh7, 2004). We saw the trail sign at the end of the parking lot and just headed off through the woods. The trail is narrow and rocky, but pretty easy to follow. It mostly followed the shape of the lake, revealing different coves and inlets, as well as revealing gorgeous view of the mountains. We did find the trail highly trafficked, which meant yielding to others. [Apparently uphill hikers should have the right of way (National Park Service, 2018)]. There were a few very steep drops or climbs (for which I needed to grab my husband's hand) to stay steady.


The trail ends with a fork: 0.25 miles to the end of the trail, or 0.25 miles to the shoreline. We chose to go to the end of the trail, which was basically a wide area with some rocks for sitting or looking out. We decided not to go to the shoreline, leaving that for another time, if we go again.


My watch registered about 5 miles total. (Maybe avoiding the sidewalk, which we saw on the way out, cut off some distance.) It took us a little over two hours total. We celebrated afterward with a picnic breakfast and then headed out.


I would recommend this trail, but with a few caveats. Start and finish hiking in the light (to avoid tripping over the rocks). Wear sturdy shoes. (I saw so many people hiking in tennis shoes. I was very thankful for my thick-soled hiking books with all those rocks.) Pack water in and out, as a lot of the trail is exposed to the sun. Have fun!

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P.S. I did some research to find out about the namesake of the trail. Apparently Butcher Jones was Dr. D.W.W. Jones, a surgeon, but not a very good one (Hiland, 2014). He ran a freighting business around the state of Arizona and had a ranch north of Saguaro Lake.

References:

Arizona NA. (2024). Butcher Jones Trail at Saguaro Lake. https://arizona-na.org/events/flyers/20240224_hike.pdf
The AZ Hikeaholics. (2024, April 8). Best hikes in Mesa, Arizona: Saguaro Lake and Salt River. https://theazhikeaholics.com/mesa-arizona-hikes/

Hiland, A. (2014, April 30). Asked & answered: Who was Butcher Jones? Arizona Central. https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/2014/04/30/who-was-butcher-jones/8538709/

National Park Service. (2018, May 16). Hiking trail etiquette. https://www.nps.gov/articles/hikingetiquette.htm

OhOh7. (2024, June 13). Butcher Jones Trail #463, AZ. Hike Arizona. https://hikearizona.com/decoder.php?ZTN=685

Saturday, February 28, 2026

Everything I Read (and Listened To) in February

I read a little less this month, both audio and paper. One of my audiobooks (looking at you, Open Book) was really long, and my audiobook listening tapered off with my running. (I also wanted to catch up on some podcasts.) Still, what I read was mostly pretty good, and I am grateful for a great library system through which to get so many good books!

I think my favorite reads this month were from T.I. Lowe, an author whose first book was not that great for me. For some reason (maybe the compelling covers?), I gave her a second shot and really enjoyed her books. They are a bit heavy, but also SO redemptive, and that is my favorite kind of reading! With that, here's February's reading list:

17. Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make Room for Happiness by Gretchen Rubin—Gretchen Rubin has dubbed herself a “happiness expert,” and this is her treatise on decluttering and its benefits on mental health. The book itself is an example of outer order, beautifully laid out and easy to read. I would not say that the tenets of the book are earth-shattering, but they are accessible, easy-to-implement, and practical. Rubin encourages readers not only to tidy up, but to consider the “why” of keeping things, and “why” decluttering them might be of benefit. Purpose is paramount, she writes. While not all find calm through order (as Rubin, and admittedly I do), this is a good book, and a resource I have already recommended to others of similar personalities to mine.

18. Open Book by Jessica Simpson [Audiobook]—I liked this book less than some of the other memoirs to which I have listened. I do not want to discount Simpson's experience, but so much of her story just seemed so, well, superficial. She had hard stuff happen (like an early childhood accident that caused speech delays, childhood sex abuse, etc.), but she makes fun of herself for it. Maybe that is her way of processing, but it just was not for me. Her flippancy about adversity, choosing to be live what I would label a promiscuous life after her divorce, etc. frankly irritated me. I did like the song portion at the end of the audiobook. That was a fun treat to have music linked with the written/read content. All in all, this is not a memoir I would recommend, but I still wish Simpson all the best and hope she is having a better life than the 75% of the book that covered her life up until her second marriage and child rearing.

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Chasing Slow: Courage to Journey off the Beaten Path by Erin Loechner [Audiobook]—More memoir than self-help, this is the author’s story of never feeling enough, chasing more, and then deciding that she did not want more to define her. Loechner went from college girl, to LA resident with her film producer husband, to HGTV, to Mom. All the while, she tried to fight against a culture of more in order to live slowly. She calls the culture of “more” “the lion,” and she honestly depicts how it continued to call her back. In the end, she chooses a life of minimalism, but finds even that flat when lived without gratitude. Loechner shares some of her Christian faith, but weaves in quotes from other spiritual teachers, too. I would not call this book life-shattering, but it did have some good thoughts worth pondering, and if life is ever going to slow down, I am going to need to take some time to ponder lessons learned from those, like Loechner, who have been able to do that.

20.
The Secret to Happiness by Suzanne Woods Fisher—Just like the first book in the Cape Code Creamery series, this one is a winner! It continues the story of Dawn and Marnie Dixon as they work to build their Main Street Creamery Business. Kevin is back, and he and Dawn are re-engaged at trying to plan their wedding. Dawn's cousin and rival Callie Dixon comes to visit, but she is not the same, battling deep-seated fears and struggling to re-engage with her career as a chef, one from which she temporarily stepped away from due to a massive mistake. A lot of this book revolves around Chatham resident Bruno Bianco and his class and book about happiness, and I have to say, the tips shared are pretty good! This story is special because there is a little bit of a mystery about a certain someone. I thought I had it figured out, and I actually didn't read ahead to confirm this time, but turned out to be right! All in all, this was a very sweet book, and I am excited to read the next installment in the Chatham ice cream shop saga!

21. Grown-Up Faith: The Big Picture for a Bigger Life by Kevin Myers with Charlie Wetzel—At its onset, this book seems like it might be a prosperity gospel-informed invitation to a bigger faith and bigger life. It’s really not, though. It’s a call to love God with mind, heart, and will (or heart, soul, and mind as the Bible puts it). It’s part apologetic, part theology, and a lot of encouragement to know the Word and live by the Word (with encouraged passages to read as well). This is a solid book, even if the author’s Wesleyan theology about salvation differs from mine. I think we could all use some admonition to grow up in our faith and faith-walk, until we meet Jesus, or He calls us home.

22. The Connected Parent: Real Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment by Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls with Emmelie Pickett [Audiobook]—This was a GOOD book, at least in terms of the work that I do. In it, Dr. Karyn Purvis and Lisa Qualls focus on the parenting aspect of caring for children from hard places. A great partner to The Connected Child book, it focuses on what parents can do to build healthy dependence (the basis for healthy independence), grow attachment, and creatively connect. Lisa Qualls is an adoptive parent herself, so she does not mince words about how hard connected parenting is. What she does do is give parents a path forward, based on both the work of Dr. Purvis and herself, as well as on her personal story. She also encourages practical self-care strategies for the marathon work that is connected parenting. This book has a special section on connected parenting for teens/older adopted kids, and I think that is very useful. I would highly recommend this book to foster parents, adoptive parents, and lay people and professionals who help foster and adoptive parents. This is a real life resource that will benefit all the hands, hearts, ears, and eyes that pick it up.

23. A Simplified Life: Tactical Tools for Intentional Living by Emily Ley [Audio book]—This is another great book by Emily Ley, and a short and sweet one at that! In this book, Ley lays out 10 areas to simplify: from space to faith. In each chapter, she shares some of her own journey, along with practical tips about how to simplify one's own life. I appreciate her gentle approach and encouragement to do what works for the person, instead of trying to follow some program, for instance, a specific brand of minimalism. This is an accessible book, one that it might do me good to revisit in the future as stages of life change.

24. 
Love on a Whim by Suzanne Woods Fisher—Like her best friend Dawn Dixon, Brynn Haywood has always been a person of routine and reflection. Suddenly, however, she finds herself having impulsively married a stranger, and then run away from him. She comes to Chatham to hole up with Dawn, and finds herself drawn into baking, and then buying her own bakery. What is with her? She asks herself. This is a sweet story that ties up well the multiple strands of stories swirled throughout the Cape Cod Creamery series. As with the other books, there are many life truths worth pondering woven in as well. I highly recommend this final book, and again, the whole series!

25. Secrets of Adulthood by Gretchen Rubin—This was a short, and easy read. If I’m honest, I read it primarily because it was short, and because I have a thing about wanting to read all the books an author has written. While I still have three or four more of Rubin’s to read, this is one of her more recent ones. In each of its sections, Rubin gives a short introduction, and then a collection of aphorisms (often one-liners) on that topic. I didn’t find anything life-changing, but there were some thoughts worth pondering. For those who have not read any of Rubin’s other books, perhaps this “secrets” book is a good place to start to see if her work is for you.

26. Lowcountry Lost by T.I. Lowe—Avalee Elvis is back in South Carolina, overhauling a ghost town as part of her Lowcountry Lost renovation business. What she's not prepared for is the return of Rowan Murray, her one time love, and the breaker of her heart. This is a tale rich in complexity: from Avalee's story, to that of Sebastian, or “Bash,” to that of the old town itself. This is a story of love and loss and finding love and family, even if in non-traditional ways. I would not recommend this book to young readers, but for mature readers who have seen the pains and evils of life, this is a testimony to the ability to live and learn after loss, to experience restoration after grief. Gain can come after loss, as least according to this Lowcountry story, and powerful as it is, I believe it!

27. Be Kind to Yourself: Releasing Frustrations and Embracing Joy by Cindy Bunch—In this book, Spiritual Director Cindy Bunch reviews spiritual practices she used to get through hard times, and to continue to ground herself today. Bunch's primary practice encourages a “daily examen” of writing down what bugs a person, and what brings brings joy. This is a way to connect with oneself, and with God. While I am not sure I will do many of the practices, this is one I think I will try for a while. Part personal story, part workbook, this read made me think, and I could do to slow down and do more of that.

28. 
Indigo Isle by T.I. Lowe—Hudson Renfrow is a recluse who lives on his own island, literally and metaphorically. Location scout Sonny Bates doesn't know why she keeps being drawn to his island, but she does, and over time, she breaks down some of Hudson's walls and befriends him. Meanwhile, she is fighting battles of her own. Separated from her family, she has made a lot of poor decisions, and they just keep coming. This story has Francine Rivers (Bridge to Haven, The Masterpiece, etc.)/Phantom of the Opera vibes, and is definitely not one for the faint of heart, containing representations of sexual abuse and trauma, as well as death, divorce, and a lot of other hard things. What is beautiful is how God slowly redeems both Hudson and Sonny, drawing them back into community, and back to himself. There are even specific discussions of mercy and grace. Add to the story some fun southern references (eg Carowinds), and this was both a meaningful and enjoyable read. While Lowcountry Lost is still my favorite book by T.I. Lowe so farm this was one also worth my reading time.

29. The Year of Less: How I Stopped Shopping, Gave Away My Belongings, and Discovered Life Is Worth More Than Anything You Can Buy in a Store by Cait Flanders—Cait Flanders had some bad habits she wanted to kick. She kicked drugs and then drinking by quitting them cold turkey. She paid off a ton of debt by being accountable on her blog. She had a job and money, but realized that she was not saving as much as she wanted, so she decided to go on a year where she didn’t shop. It wasn’t that she couldn’t buy anything, but that she had some rules about what was and was not approved. What wasn’t “approved” was superfluous stuff like take-out coffee, clothes she didn’t need, books, decorations for her house, and electronics. She could buy groceries, and gifts; eat out; and even replace broken things (but only if she threw the old thing away). What emerged was a year not just of saving, but of living according to her values, of getting rid of a lot of junk, and of living more simply. I will admit that this book made me, too, want to throw everything in my house in a heap and start mercilessly going through it, but I know that is not the stress I need right now. So instead, I took away from this book the desire to clear out more clutter, and to continue to think carefully about what I buy and bring into my home. I especially need to work on throwing away old things (looking at you, running shoe collection) when I buy new.

Overall, this book, as written by Flanders in first person, is both interesting and inspirational. Flanders looks at her motivations for binge-buying, and even shows flexibility in changing the rules of her no shopping year in order to better live according to her value of creativity. The book is a pretty quick read, and worth the time if living a simple, values-centered life is a priority.

30. Composing Amelia by Alison Strobel—I had a little bit of a hard time reading this book, then it captivated me, and then the end seemed underdeveloped. There was a lot of conflict between newly married Amelia and Marcus. The potential for marital infidelity at almost every turn made me feel on edge, but not in a good way. The story was well written, and reminded me some of the plots of Heart of the Country by Rene Gutteridge and John Ward and The Song by Chris Fabry. I was on the edge of my seat waiting for Amelia’s illness to resolve. There were good truths about church and pastoring and faith. I wanted more development around Amelia’s faith struggles, though, and more about what walking out a faith tested by fire looks like. Maybe that would have made the book too long. The author writes in her interview that her developmental editor had her rewrite 90% of the story. Maybe the end just didn’t get recomposed. I will probably try reading another book by this author, because this one, although good in parts, just did not come together right.

31. Soulful Simplicity: How Living with Less Can Lead to So Much More by Courtney Carver—I think I idolize stuff (looking for safety, security, and comfort in it) more than I realize. That doesn’t mean I should throw everything away and become an ascetic, but I do need to lesson my attachment to things. This book encouraged me to do it. Courtney Carver is not a professed believer, but she does write about how a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis woke her up, teaching her to live in love, instead of in “stuff.” This book covers it all, from money stuff, to work stuff, to sentimental stuff. She encourages giving it away, selling it, or even hiding it (and then giving it away if forgotten.) The goal is to live in and enjoy the present, to slow down and savor everyday life. I would like more of that, which probably does mean I need to keep simplifying, doing with (and maybe even appreciating) less.

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Readers, what's been your favorite book recently? Please share in the comments section.