Tuesday, November 10, 2026

Real Life Marriage: It Brings Out the Best...and the Worst


When dating, it is easy to see your partner as the best person on the planet, and they are, to you. But then you get married, and despite trying to keep on those rose colored glasses, you start seeing the other side of that person, their faults, flaws, and foibles. But you also start to see you own. Marriage can bring out the best of a person, and the worst.

From a Christian perspective, marriage is supposed to make you better."Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil" writes the author of Ecclesiastes (English Standard Version, 2001, Ecclesiastes 4:9). Marriage images the unity of God, and Christ and the church (Ephesians 5:22-33). But then there are the downsides of marriage: the worsts.

Marriage brings out the worst sides of a person, or at least it has for me. It's not that marriage made me a worse person. It just exposed my many, many sins with very clear lines. Timothy Keller (2013) writes in The Meaning of Marriage, 
"Marriage brings out the worst in you. It doesn't create your weaknesses....it reveals them." Just a few of the atrocities marriage has brought out in my heart are discontent, envy, jealousy, self-centeredness, and pride. I am sure I had these things before marriage, but living in close proximity with a man who is very intelligent, very talented, and walks a very close walk with Jesus has showed me just how much sin lives in my own heart. Keller goes on to write in his book, "Marriage does not so much bring you into confrontation with your spouse as confront you with yourself. Marriage shows you a realistic, unflattering picture of who you are and the takes you by the scruff of the neck and forces you to pay attention to it." Man does it ever! Marriage is a gift in that this bringing out of the worst in me gives me a chance to work on my sins. My husband is very kind in his shepherding of my heart to try to work on my faults and failures. Still, seeing all my flaws is difficult. Keller (2013) states, "The 'power of truth' that comes with marriage is a gift, but truly a hard gift to receive." I could not agree more. I hope, that with the Lord's help, my worse gets a little better. I hope that I become more empathetic, and kind, and caring. I hope that I celebrate my husband more than comparing myself to him. I hope that I get to give him the gift of seeing me become a better person through his guidance and the working of the Holy Spirit. My husband tells me all the time that I am stuck with him. Well, he's stuck with me, and according to Keller (2013), "The only way you're going to actually begin to see another person's glory self is to stick with him or her." In God's power, and to His praise, may this come true.

References: English Standard Version. (2001). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/versions/English-Standard-Version-ESV-Bible/#copy

Keller, T. (2013). The meaning of marriage: Facing the complexities of commitment with the wisdom of God. Penguin books

Monday, November 9, 2026

Yavapai Point Trail Adventure


It's been a while since we've been out for a hike, but our dating anniversary called for one. I had a few local hikes in mind, but then my husband suggested this one. Tell me there's a lookout and I am sold!


It took us about an hour to drive out to Lake Pleasant (with a side stop at Starbuck's so that we could get cash to get into the park. It now costs $10 for each park entry. That annual $140 pass is looking more and more appealing....). We saw the sun rise on the way.


Immediately upon parking we saw the lake. God blessed us with a clear, sunny day, and we had views all the way.


The Yavapai Point Trail is narrow, and a little rocky, but pretty accessible overall. I wore a pair of old running shoes and did wish for my thicker bottomed hiking shoes, but I still made it just fine.


The trail has a gradual grade, with about 400 feet of elevation gain total, with most of that near the top of the trail. Several benches line the trail, making it easy to stop for rest breaks.


We did rest a bit at the top and then made our way back down. We hit a total of about 5K, or 3.1 miles. We debated setting out on another trail, but decided not to. This was enough for the day: a bright spot in what has felt like a darker season.


The Sourdough Report: No sourdough for this adventure, but I did make another batch of sourdough discard protein bagels (This Jess Cooks) the day before.

What will our next Arizona adventure be? Well, we have a list of ideas, and not enough time!

Monday, November 2, 2026

Afghan 94


I had FUN making this afghan! The pattern was simple, which meant I didn't have to think about it much and could just get in the flow and crochet. With treble stitches, the blanket worked up pretty fast and easy. It did take a bit of yarn, but that's okay by me! I made this blanket in a neutral color for the next baby boy that comes along, but then realized all the holes might not make it very baby safe. I looked forward to adding the fringe detail, but then realized that makes the blanket very baby unsafe, so we will see where this blanket ends up. For now, I am just celebrating completion of a blanket that I really enjoyed!




Finished size: 43 x 43 inches

Saturday, October 31, 2026

What We Cooked and Ate (Week 44)

This Week's Eats:

Baked Irish chips and malt vinegar (God-Given Ingredients)

Instant Pot lentil soup with vegetables (Plated Cravings)

Irish coffee mocktail (Blue Pacific Flavors)

Irish grilled cheese (The Pioneer Woman) on whole wheat rye sourdough bread (The Pantry Mama)

Pumpkin roll baked oatmeal (Cooking with Carlee)

Sourdough breakfast gravy (The Rose Homestead)

Noteworthy Repeats:

Egg bake casserole (Food 52)

Freezer Pull-Outs
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Artisan pumpkin sourdough bread (The Pantry Mama)

Pumpkin brownie cookie balls (Once Upon a Pumpkin)

Soft pumpkin sourdough bread (Drive Me Hungry)

Sweet potato skillet (Budget Bytes) with sourdough meatballs (The Pantry Mama) and oven roasted corn on the cob (Simply Happy Foodie)

Everything I Read in October


It was an interesting month of reading: a long audiobook, a book with a quote that stuck with me, a bestseller, a great four book series, a short book, a productivity book, some more fiction, and an inspiring sports memoir. I ceased alternating fiction and non-fiction while reading the series. I got pretty caught up in it and again wondered if reading is too much of an escape for me. How I wish I was not so prone to extremes, as well as being an overthinker. I want to enjoy life and honor God, and sometimes those desires seem to be in opposition. But readers probably came here for the books, not me psychoanalyzing myself, so without further ado, here's my October list:

139. Finding Ultra: Rejecting Middle Age, Becoming One of the World’s Fittest Men, and Discovering Myself by Rich Roll [Audiobook]—This book got long, and maybe that was the point. It is about Rich Roll’s struggles with addiction, and then his re-making of himself into a vegan athlete. The chapters about his Epic Five Ironman triathlons in Hawaii were the longest. Maybe it’s that I am not a triathlete. Maybe the writing accurately reflects the endurance it takes to survive such attempts. Either way, I got tired. The chapters at the end of the book on plant-powered living did not cite actual research, and seemed biased towards Roll’s vegan lifestyle. Roll also cited weight loss as a reason for this way of eating several times. I almost did not finish listening to this audiobook, because of this, but pushed through to say I did. Unless you are a fan of Rich Roll or very big into one of his passions of ultramarathon or plant-powered eating, I don’t recommend it.

140. Eyes Up: How to Trust God’s Heart by Tracing His Hand by Alexandra V. Hoover—This book started slow. Hoover writes about "Ebenezer stones," and recording places where God has worked. Then she starts to preach, explaining how God works in and through hard times: “Rejections in this life as being used by God as holy redirections.” God is always present, she writes, giving His people strength to endure, as well as a testimony. That testimony is not just for us, but for others, and for God's glory. "For the love of God, multiply your story," Hoover exhorts. That is what she does in this book, by her own example first. I recommend this book!

141. Theo of Golden by Allen Levi—Theo (no surname) moves to Golden, Georgia for reasons no one knows. While there, he invests in the community through getting to know both its past and present history. Theo even starts a community service project of sorts, buying and gifting portraits drawn by a local artist. This is a philosophical book, written in a style reminiscent of John Steinbeck, Harper Lee, and F. Scott Fitzgerald. It is poignant, emotional, and rich with scriptural references. I read fairly slowly, letting the story sink in. There was some sense of mystery and unknown. And then tragedy struck, and the story took on new levels of meaning as previously unrevealed information came to light. This is truly a masterpiece of a novel, maybe written simply, but yet so artfully. It is what Theo was to Golden: a gift.

142. Lone Star Sanctuary by Colleen Coble—Widow Allie Siders escapes to Bluebird Ranch in hopes that it will be a safe haven for her and her daughter Betsy. She has already lost her husband to war, her parents to a plane crash, and her sister to a murder. Her daughter won’t speak, and now she has a stalker after her. Allie is loathe to trust ranch owner Elijah and his foreman Rick Hansen, but she has need to trust both, and quickly. This book galloped away with my attention, and I finished it in about a day. Although I found the conclusion a bit dramatic and I did guess the stalker before he was actually revealed, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I looked forward to reading the next installment in the series!

143. Lonestar Secrets by Colleen Coble—Another damsel in distress in Texas, another marriage of convenience. I have to say that Coble does this trope well, though. She also adds some new angles to the “switched at birth” storyline. Single mom and veterinarian Shannon is such a strong woman, in spite of her traumatic upbringing and health issues. Mustang trainer Jack might be rich, but he has a good heart. And Allie and Rick Bailey from the first book on this series, Lonestar Sanctuary, also play key roles in the story as friends of Shannon and Jack. Mystery and conspiracy are afoot and there are beautiful horses and some suspense I could stand, to boot. I appreciate Coble’s emphasis on love as a choice. Although I think it’s a bit shallow to depict men as being easily won over by beautiful women, I think the struggle Shannon and Jack have in trusting one another shows a struggle many married people have, strangers or not. All in all, this is a good book, though I’m glad not the lone star of this series. I’m hoping books three and four will also live up to the hype!

144. Lonestar Homecoming by Colleen Coble—This book starts with a wedding, well, almost. Gracie is to be wed in an hour when violence strikes, causing she and her daughter Hope to hightail it home, only they really don’t have the money to make it there. Still in her wedding dress (now tattered and torn), Gracie passes out at the train straight and is caught by Lieutenant Michael Wayne, a man facing his own grief. Michael also needs someone to care for his kids while he works for Border Control. Both seeking safety, they enter into a marriage of convenience, only for their partnership and bond to be tested. Will they begin a real marriage or will it just be a sham? This book has it all, from drug cartels, personal vendettas, and murder attempts, to heartwarming prodigal stories. This book is about safety, security, and ultimately redemption. 

145. Lonestar Angel by Colleen Coble—No marriage of convenience here, just two people who divorced, only not fully. Clay Larson and Eden Davidson met young, had a child young, and then separated after someone kidnapped their baby. Now they have reason to believe that their daughter Brianna is alive at at Bluebird Ranch. Complexed and nuanced, this is a plot that I did not figure out ahead of time (even with trying to skim ahead). Although a few of the near-death escapes seemed a little unrealistic, the story as a whole and its lessons about faith and trust (in God and others) were invaluable. I think book two of this series was still my favorite, but what's a series without a wrap-up? This was a good one!

146. What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast: A Short Guide to Making Over Your Mornings—and Life by Laura Vanderkam (10/18/16)—More a pamphlet than a book, this was a quick 20 minute read for me. I would say it is a short recap of one of the greatest lessons from Vanderkam’s 168 Hours book—to make use of the morning. I think I do make use of the mornings, but I also try to fit too much into them. I do need to decide what things are priorities, and what things I could do other times, or let go.

147. Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women by Kate Northrup—I am glad I read this book, but I cannot really recommend it. It has too much “woo:” psychoanalyzing, talking about the universe and the moon, along with brief mentions of astrology and other things that do not fit with my faith orientation. She also writes with a distinct feminist lens, something with which I neither fully agree nor disagree. So what was good for me? The discussion about asking for help. Being able to outsource is probably a little bit beyond my current financial status, but I could ask for help more. I hate doing it, but I hate the results of not doing it, too. The thing is that I can't do it all, and if it is true that presence is a gift to others, I have to stop doing some stuff in order to be present. Basically, this book reminded me that I have life work to do, at a time in my life when I need to keep asking questions about how to live a better life, because this one life is all I've got.

148. 
The Summer of Me and You by Denise Hunter—Ethan Reynolds supposedly died six years ago at his military post in Pakistan. Then his wife Maggie thinks she sees him at an amusement park. She enlists his brother (and her friend Josh) to track him down, and in the process, they have to confront (and re-confront) a lot of what has happened in their lives, Ethan's death, and beyond. Maggie's cute little girl Zoey adds to the sweetness and poignancy of this story, and the resolving of the “mystery man” truly caught me by surprise. I can't fully get behind this story of unrequited love for a few reasons (divorce and the ways advanced fertility science plays into the plot), but I can say that Hunter is a skilled author who writes an artful story. For that reason, I look forward to reading some of her other books. Her portrayal of real life and clean romance in this book give me hope!

149. Surrender Bay by Denise Hunter—Landon and Sam grew up in Nantucket as best friends, until Sam disappeared. Now she is back to flip the house that her stepfather left her. She doesn't want to face the memories of that time, but she is determined to do so for the sake of the future of her daughter Caden. Landon never left Nantucket. In fact, he still lives in his parents' old home a few doors down from Sam. He's determined to help Sam, to find out what happened to her, and to show her that “love isn't earned. It's a gift.” Sam, meanwhile, is terrified. Having lost her father and her mother ,and grown up with abuse rather than love, commitment terrifies her. She's already turned it down once, and she does everything in her power to push Landon away, including telling him the horrible reasons why she left Nantucket. She keeps up her walls, until nearly losing her life in the bay, the moment at which she chooses to surrender. This was a pretty intense book, reminding me in some ways of Redeeming Love, but with a little shorter plot development. Readers like me who actually skim the ending notes of the book will find out that this book, like Redeeming Love is allegorical. That honestly changed my perspective on the story (as I saw missed opportunities for faith integration) and raised it's ratings for me. The author says she based this Nantucket Love series on Zephaniah 3:17, and I am interested to see what she does with the rest of it.

150. Feel-Good Productivity: How to Do More of What Matters to You by Ali Abdaal—I didn't really want to read this book, because what I want at this stage of life is not necessarily to be more productive, but to be more efficient, so that I can get the “have-tos” done and enjoy more of life. Still, parts of this book really resonated with me. United Kingdom Doctor Ali Abdaal found himself burned out in the medical profession, and so he took a break to make his productivity business his main gig. From that emerged this book about finding motivation, aligning values with work, blocking barriers to productive work, and learning to approach life with curiosity and wonder. I found his writing about the different types of burnout (overexertion, depletion, and misalignment) particularly insightful. This is a good book and easy to read, if you're in a season of life where it make sense to do so.

151. Unstoppable From Underdog to Undefeated: How I Became a Champion by Anthony Robles with Austin Murphy [Audiobook]—Born to a 16 year-old unwed mother. Born without a leg. The odds were stacked against Anthony Robles from the start, but his mother told him that God had a purpose for him, and he lives that out. Overcoming insurmountable odds, Robles became an impressive athlete. He could crutch a mile in eight minutes. He did every workout his two-legged college wrestling team members did, even climbing Piestewa Peak. Facing problems at home and burnout, he nearly quit wrestling, but then cards from third graders got him back in the game to become a national champion during his senior year. This is a story not just of perseverance, though, but of a mother who believed in her son, of a son who tried to see the good in his abusive, unfaithful stepfather, of a Christian who tried to be upstanding in the sport. Though the Christian faith does not factor prominently into this book, it is apparent from the mentions Robles gives it that it does matter to him. I was definitely inspired listening to this. Who wouldn't be?

152. The Convenient Groom by Denise Hunter—A messy, widowed carpenter. A strait-laced and uptight, but famous marriage therapist, author, and advice columnist. They marry to save her from public shame and embarrassment when her fiancé jilts her at the altar. He knows her mother and his were best friends before her mother tried to wreck his parents’ wedding. She never knew that story, but she doesn’t want him to know what her growing up life was like, either. But here they are, living in the same house, her counting down the days until she can quietly divorce him in a year and move on, him knowing that he loves her and wants her to stay. Hunter writes a nuanced plot here, and I would say she does it well. I am still struggling with the nearly perfect male characters in this series—but that is how God loves us, not conveniently, but perfectly.

*Note: I recommend this book for adults only due to mature themes such as mental illness, suicidality, and substance use, among other things.

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And that's a wrap on this month. Who's read any of these?

Friday, October 30, 2026

LESS Worry



I would say that I tend to be a worried person, or an anxious person. (Is there a difference?) I used to say that I was just risk averse, or risk aware, that I was a realist. Maybe that is all true. But maybe I am also a worried, fearful, pessimistic person. This month, I set about to do something about this, to worry less.

My verse for this month was Matthew 6:24. In it, Jesus says, "Don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today" (New Living Translation, 2015). I didn't seek to do anything particular with the verse, other than the meditate on it and try to apply it. When I caught myself worrying, I tried to pray and take action instead of stewing. That looked like following my physical therapy plan instead of worrying and going down the Google rabbit hole trying to figure out if something was wrong. (Thankfully, as of my last appointment, everything seems well.). Honestly, I mostly did not think about the goal. Did that mean I worried less? I don't know. I was really emotional this month, so maybe not worrying came out sideways?

My husband did point out that I need to stop worrying about what other people think. While I no longer consider myself a people-pleaser, I guess I do often try to anticipate what other think, and I live in fear of that, and concern for how I will handle it. I definitely need work there.

Overall, I think it was good for me to consider the topic of worry this month. When I could stop worrying, I found myself more present. I enjoyed things more, even if they did not go as expected. I hope I trusted the Lord and found more joy. I'm not sure I will ever not worry, but I certainly need to work on doing it less!

References:

New Living Translation. (2015). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-Living-Translation-NLT-Bible/

Thursday, October 29, 2026

The More of Less Report (October)

Another month...gone. I'm not in the worst place, but neither am I in the place I want to be. I have had lots of tears this month. Life feels like too much. And yet, I don't want to pry my grubby hands off anything else. And we've added in a few things, too, like social time with friends, trying to restart small group at church, etc. While it feels like I can never win (What defines "winning" anyway?), here's what I have done:

January-LESS scrolling: I scrolled a lot some days/weeks, and less others. I find I scroll most when I feel really tired and just want "brain candy." I am trying to be better about closing scrolling apps when they no longer serve me, and finding something else to do instead, even if it is just a word game. 

I have kept Facebook off my phone. I don't find it useful, and I think the web interface is better overall (and less accessible). 
I did add the Threads app this month, however. (I gave in to prompts for things I wanted to see, but couldn't.) So far, I am not spending a lot of time there (and I hope to keep it that way!), but it is interesting. 


This month, I unfollowed a bunch of accounts on Instagram, but then I refollowed them a few of them. It is so easy to develop parasocial relationships on the social media apps, but I need less of those and more real friends. I probably need to be constantly culling my feed.

February-LESS picking:
I think I have been better with skincare and worse with haircare. I don't know why this is a thing, but it is, and I need to keep working on it.

March-LESS hunger (judgment): I am on such a roller coaster with this one. I want to trust my body, but quite frankly, I don't. And this month, I started taking creatine, which promotes water retention and can cause bloating, which further disrupts my experience of my body. But, it might help with bone geometry and muscle growth, both of which I need, so we proceed (Hnatiuk, 2026). I think this might just take a while.

April-LESS goals: I didn't really have any goals this month. I think that somewhat gave me license to overeat, go to bed late, etc. I am such a person of extremes. I didn't even focus much on my LESS word. I would like to find moderation, but that does not seem to be me.

May-LESS no: We did some stuff. I still felt tired. I think I feel tired whether I say, "Yes" or "No."

June-LESS lying to myself: I tried to give myself what I said I would, but that was most often "little treats" of things that were not the best for me (though maybe not the worst?) like caffeine, social media scrolling, etc. I wish I could just be honest with myself about my failings and suck it up and make myself better, but alas, no such luck this month!

July-LESS fear: I think the Lord did help me here. While I had some twinges of pain and wanted to worry (more on that in my LESS word for the month), I mostly stayed away from it. Praise the Lord, the pains went away and I have felt mostly fine since. 

On the flip side, I think I have realized that I do harbor a lot of inherent fears about what other people think of me, the future, if I will be able to handle hard things, etc. The need for work in this area continues.

August-LESS scarcity: Praise the Lord, we are done paying for our big trip! While that does give us more flexibility, I also want to be wise (and not just spend on those new travel credit cards to get the bonuses, which we want, but not at a cost of buying stuff we don't need). We do also have savings goals for our longer-term future.

September-LESS complaining: While I did not overtly practice this each day, I did catch myself trying to take a positive perspective a few times. The thing is that I need to keep practicing this mindset because it is not yet a habit for me.

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My life is very much a work in progress, and at the end of this month, I must say that overall, I feel discouraged. Goals and intentions don't even seem worth it if I will fail them every time. (For example, I said I needed to focus on holistic health this month. I missed two of my goals completely, and was not really healthy beyond that, either.) But I remind myself that the ultimate goal is progress, not perfection, until Jesus calls me home (Philippians 1:9).

References:

Hnatiuk, S. [Host]. (2026, September 29). What's new with creatine with Dr. Scott Forbes. [Audio podcast episode]. In Fuel. Run. Recover. https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/stephanie-hnatiuk/episodes/Whats-New-with-Creatine-with-Dr--Scott-Forbes-e3pbleg

New International Version. (2011). BibleGateway.com. http://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-International-Version-NIV-Bible/

Wednesday, October 21, 2026

Returning From Vacation (A Reprise)


Returning from vacation is always a little rough. There's the travel, the jet-lag, the laundry, and the let-down. I still stand by my original post-vacation practices, to try to abate these a bit, but as I have gotten older and God has allowed us to travel more, I have added some:

1) Turn down the air conditioning. We live in Arizona, and our house gets hot! Coming home to a hot, dank house after vacation is no bueno. Having a Nest thermostat allows us to control our air conditioning remotely, so when we remember, we adjust the temperature when we hit the airport, or a certain point out on the road.

2) Empty the suitcases right away. This is not for everyone. My husband prefers to lounge when we get home. I, on the other hand, play a game with myself to see how fast I can put things away. Life after vacation is overwhelming enough. Adding suitcases of stuff to put away just adds to the burden.

3) Start laundry. I try to move dirty clothes straight from my suitcase to the washer. Maybe I run the washer right away. Maybe not. Either way, I get a leg up on my chores.

4) Hydrate. I tend to get a little dehydrated when traveling, so replenishing fluid is vital. Dehydration is no good for the body, or the post-vacation blues.

5) Consider a vacation-inspired meal. Right away, we are (hopefully) eating food out of the freezer to ease the burden of post-vacation cooking. A little later, though, it is fun to try to find or recreate food from the vacation. That helps relive some of the memories, and adds some variety as well.

BONUS: Give thanks for the comforts of home. Vacations are great, but so is home. A familiar kitchen, bed, and shower are no small thing, and I like to celebrate them when I return from vacation.

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And that's a wrap on this installment of travel posts. Readers, any questions?

Monday, October 19, 2026

How in the World Did We Afford This Trip?

I think there is a part of me that believes I need to write this post to justify taking the trip of a lifetime. Another parts of me appreciates when people share the costs of their vacations. In hopes this post might help someone else (or at the least, remind me of my blessings), I am writing about how we afforded this trip.

First of all, I have to say that I firmly believe that all good things comes from God (James 1:17). This trip was one of them. We simply could not have afforded it nor gone on it without His provision.

Second, God has blessed us in many ways that allowed us to save for this time. We are married and have two incomes. We are blessed that we can mostly live on one of those. Though we really need to save the other for retirement (as one of us started very late to retirement savings), we have some funds we can redirect as needed. We had kind of forgotten about it, but we still had a chunk of money given to us by my parents for our wedding. Besides appliances we needed to replace and a motorcycle we bought for my husband to commute on (which saved us money, because he needed a car, which would have cost a lot more), we basically put all of this money towards vacation.

My mom taught me to budget and save. We learned to live very frugally while my husband was in school, and have mostly continued to live that way. I shop the grocery sales, often going to multiple stores to get the cheapest products. We mostly buy store brand items and cook from scratch, rather than buying prepared products. For the most part, we eat simply. All of this keeps grocery costs small. God provided our condo before the housing market spike. We have not been able to afford to buy a house now, which keeps our housing costs lower that the surrounding area. We keep our house warm in the summer to reduce utility costs. We still share a phone plan with limited data. We try to save whatever we don't spend. 

We skimped even more than usual this year, too. That meant eating out almost never (and we rarely do anyway), eschewing dates that cost very much money, and not going on any other vacations. Sure, we did a few things, but we really limited ourselves, even more than normal.

We bought our airplane tickets and paid for our hotel before the war in Iran. Though still a lot of money, I am certain that our costs were nothing close to what they would have been. Additionally, we worked with a travel agent who was able to help us get discounts on some of our travel and stays. We got the Delta credit card to avoid checked bag fees. All of this helped make the trip more affordable on the front side.

We saved for this trip all year. That meant eating out very little to none, eschewing dates that cost very much money, and not going on any other vacations. Sure, we did a few things, but we really limited ourselves.

On the vacation, the first hotel provided us with breakfast. We ate big and snacked for lunch, saving the cost of a noontime meal. When we ate out at dinner, we enjoyed ourselves, but by no means ordered the most expensive dishes on the menu. Occasionally, we got drinks and dessert, but not every time.

When it came to activities, my husband saved us big bucks! He figured out how to use the bus in Ireland, and that meant very few Uber or taxi rides. We walked as much as we could besides that, so we did not even use bus fares a lot of the time. Our Pohlberg Lighthouse and Glendalough treks provides days of activity with only transportation costs.

In Scotland, I ate in the room for breakfast, avoiding the hotel breakfast fee. (My husband ate downstairs on breakfast coupons his parents gifted him.) I also ate in the room for some dinners, not the best idea ever, but it worked.

We walked to Coatbridge for free. We did souvenir shopping mostly at Aldi. We splurged on airport transportation, but took Scotrail to Edinburgh. Basically, we could have spent a lot more, but we did not.

All in all, the "average" cost of a two week trip for both of us to go on this adventure. That was still quite a large cost, but God provided for it. I think it will be a while before we could possibly afford such a trip again, but we are also investigating more ways to save. Funds are never endless, and we want to stretch the ones God gives as far as possible!

Saturday, October 17, 2026

What We Cooked and Ate (Week 42)

This Week's Eats:

Chicken and chickpea soup (Kalyn's Kitchen)

Chocolate pumpkin muffins (Sally's Baking Addiction)

Relief society casserole (365 Days of Slow Cooking)

Sourdough granola bars (Sourdough oat bars) (Somebody Feed Seb)

Southwest spaghetti squash bowls (Budget Bytes)

Noteworthy Repeats:

Egg bake casserole (Food 52)

Freezer Pull-Outs
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Soft pumpkin sourdough bread (Drive Me Hungry)

Sourdough gravy (The Pantry Mama)

Ireland and Scotland Trip: Cultural Differences and Parting Thoughts

This was certainly the trip of a lifetime AND I am glad to be home. I am drinking my own water (albeit less nice than the fresh tasting tap water we had in Scotland), having ample access to toilets (ahem, bathrooms), sleeping in my own bed, and navigating my own shower with more ease. Adventurous as travel food is, I am thankful to be back home eating regular "normal" meals filled with fresh fruits and vegetables. Europe was not that different, but it was. Let me share some interesting things I noticed on our travels:

In Ireland

Ireland seemed to have a focus on sustainability. Many homes had solar panels on the roofs, but I thought it was rarely sunny? Most restaurants used bamboo silverweae and gave cardboard (instead of styrofoam) containers. There were a lot more cans than bottles. Bottles had a hinge built it to hold on the water bottle cap.

Kids were going to school after 8 AM. Most wore uniforms. Lots of people rode busses, but I also saw lots of foreign automobile brands: Peugeot, Renault, and Skoda, to name a few. People drove very close. (The streets are very narrow.) I saw no accidents, however.

Servers at restaurants did not really come back after taking orders and delivering food. We learned quickly to ask for pitchers of water for the table when we sat down. No one offered to split checks at the end of meals. Ever.

I saw sourdough twice in Ireland. Once it was the sourdough doughnut. The second was bread for our "toastie" sandwich.

Thought Ireland seems healthier than the US overall, many people in Ireland smoke and vape. I didn't think that the cigarettes smelled as bad, but still. Neither of those are good for you. Is this habit because it's cold there, or culturally accepted, or ?? I did not smell a lot of marijuana, as I do in the US, but I was told drugs are still an issue.

Walking paths are ample. I saw few e-bikes and scooters. I did see a few, though. Most bikers wore neon vests or shirts of some sort. Most walkers wore headphones, more over the ear than discreet like AirPods or earbuds. I saw lots of people running in Ireland. Most ran with their phone in their hands. I saw Asics shoes the most. Most people in Ireland do not wear sunglasses. Most dress warmly, and wear sturdy shoes (NOT tennis shoes, though I am glad we had our Hoka Cliftons).

Language was definitely different. "Biscuits" were crackers and cookies. Chips were fries. Takeout was "takeaway." Bathrooms were "toilets." Towing was "rescuing." Parking lots were "car parks."  The "f" word was common. The city was very multicultural, but in some parts of town, it was obvious who was out of place.


Overall, people were very nice, though!

In Scotland

What is it with smoking? Aer Lingus sold cigarettes on the flight there. Passengers were not allowed to bring hot drinks on board, I don't know why. 


Our hotel, well, left something to be desired. It smelled a bit dank. We did not get a washcloth. There was only a furnace (with no temperature gauge) for heat. We had no refrigerator. The king bed was very firm and seemed to be made of two twin mattresses put together. The hotel was also far from most things we wanted to do, not the worst, but not the best. 

Every time I visited a website in Ireland or Scotland, I got a popup asking me if I wanted to reject cookies. The Walmart app worked, but not Safeway. Wordflower stopped working.

There were very few toilets, and those available required paying. The toilets we did visit mostly had hand dryers instead of paper towels. Many of the restrooms did have lotion with the soap. What does that say?

I saw sourdough twice here. Once, I saw it for sale in a gift shop on our Discover Scotland tour. The second was at lunch for my mother-in-law's tea. Both times, it had old grains and/or seeds and nuts in it.



Language was still different here. Everyone used the word, "wee" a lot. Potato chips were "crisps." Lines were "queues." Sweaters were "jumpers." Windshields were "wind screens." Semis were "lorries." Wide load was "abnormal load." I saw a little more aggressive driving, traffic, and honking here, but still no accidents.

We saw a lot of wind farms in Scotland. (I understood that more after our cold, wet day in Edinburg.) The history is very gruesome. The culture was very superstitious overall. The country as a whole seemed more melancholy than Ireland. Although I did not see it, our tour driver also told us drugs as a big problem, especially in Glasgow.

Parting Thoughts:

Given that I did get sick in Scotland, I think the travel time was a little too long (or at least for my stamina at the moment(. It is easy to hop from country to country in Europe, but is it worth it if I am exhausted? Many people in our family loved Scotland. I favored Ireland. Maybe it was the weather and my experience. I will only know if I go back.

Europe was cool, but I still want to visit all fifty states. That also seems like more accessible travel. My husband loved traveling internationally, however, so I would guess both will be in our future.

While I have lots of pictures and memories from our trip, now that I am back, I do wish I had picked up a few more little things to enjoy once we got home. Sure, the food and snacks are great, but those will run out. A few mugs or something might have been nice. Will I think that in a few years, though? Who knows. 
For now, we need to settle back into this life and figure out how to save for future adventures!

Friday, October 16, 2026

Churches (or Not!) of Scotland

I am used to identifying churches by their steeples. Well, in Scotland most of the buildings I identified as churches were not. 

This first one, Church of Scotland, Calder Parish church was.

And I spotted a church next to what we thought was a church (One Church):

But it turned out to be a funeral home, and we sort of crashed the funeral, jumping sidewalks just as the bagpiper started to play to release the hearse. We jumped sidewalks quickly and I didn't get a photo.

And then we saw these church-looking buildings housed apartment homes.

We didn't make it over to see if this spire was on a church, or something else.

We saw a few spired buildings on our Highlands tour.

Our tour bus parked near Sts Peter and Benedict Roman Catholic Chapel.


Edinburg had lots of spires, but I only identified some as churches:

St Giles Cathedral

St Columba’s Free Church

We saw a very small chapel (St Margaret's Chapel) up at Edinburg Castle.

And then a few churches walking home from our ride on ScotRail:

Bellshill St. Andrew’s United Free Church of Scotland

Bellshill and Bothwell Parish Church West Halls (but the actual church building was for sale?)

I stopped taking pictures of churches repurposed for other things [like The Hub in Edinburg-gorgeous, but no longer a church (Edinburg International Festival, n.d.).

Props to Scotland for repurposing famous buildings, but is this indicative of spiritual decline in the country? Because that would be even sadder than letting some church buildings go into disuse. Building won't last forever. Souls will!

Postscript: Indeed, the above is true. In 2022, the Census showed that 51% of Scotland's population claimed "no religion" (Carrell, 2024). Catholicism, Church of Scotland membership, and Christianity are all falling. Sad times for a nation with such a rich history of seeking after and following God-or is that what it was? Maybe it was religion, not relationship, which once again is very said in terms of eternity.

References:

Carrell, S. (2024, May 21). Majority of people in Scotland have no religion, census shows. The guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/may/21/majority-of-people-in-scotland-do-not-believe-in-any-religion-census-shows

Edinburg International Festival. (n.d.). History of The Hub. https://www.eif.co.uk/festival-guide-2/history-of-the-hub