Sunday, March 31, 2024

Everything I Read in March

I set a goal of reading at least 50 Libby pages each day this month. I did, and I still didn't make it through very many books. In fact, I think I may have made it through less books! My monthly book tally was definitely not helped by the fact that I chose to read very long books, and books that were often hard to digest, which meant I did not want to read any more after 50 pages. Oh well, as readers might know by now, I am just going to say, "Que sera, sera!"

12) Walking with God Through Pain and Suffering by Timothy Keller—Another tome, but a helpful one, the first part of this book covers philosophies of suffering; the second theologies of suffering; and the third, how to walk through suffering. Keller is truly a scholar, and it shows in this book. While I had trouble making it through some of the thicker passages, this book did encourage me to look at God as my highest good, and draw closer to Him, rather than try to ascertain reasons for suffering. God is God, and I am not. God can use all things for His good and His glory, even our suffering, and we must trust Him in that. As Keller writes, “[God] gives us what we would have asked for if we had known everything He knows.” This is hard, but true truth, as suffering also is.

13) Work Pause Thrive: How to Pause for Parenthood Without Killing Your Career by Lisen Stromberg — I got excited when I saw this book, because I thought it might validate the important role of caregivers and parents in society. It did, some, and then it took a turn. The author, Lisen Stromberg, worked in tech, took a pause with her high-risk pregnancies, and then came back to work as a very successful journalist, and now consultant. Stromberg does validate the importance of caregivers and parents. She advocates for the value of family. The end of the book takes kind of a political turn, however, and seems to infer that women should work outside the home. Yes, I come from a Christian complementarian view of the family, but I just don't agree. I would like to read more about the impact of involved, integrated families, and how work could fit into that, rather than why work is a necessity for women, or parents in general. This book isn't it, and it's long, so maybe pause before reading it.

14) Life Reimagined: The Science, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife by Barbara Bradley Hagerty—Part research, part social experiment, this book chronicles the adventures of NPR newswriter Barbara Bradley Hagerty as she explores the idea of what a midlife crisis really is, and whether or not such a thing even exists. In doing so, Hagerty learns about herself and shares valuable lessons about generativity, and the practice of it after the prime of life. After exploring topics like memory, marriage, purpose, and altruism, she ultimately concludes that generativity is like a muscle, and the more a person practices it, the more likely they are to find meaning in life. (They are also more likely to eat well, exercise, have better memory, tend to their relationships, and no surprise, live longer.) Thought I am not yet to the technical “midlife” phase, I found this book helpful.

15) The Common Thread-Mothers and Daughters: The Bond We Never Outgrow by Martha Manning—The mother-daughter relationship is a special one at that. I hoped that this book would explore the psychology of this important relationship. Instead, it read more like a literature review of mother-daughter relationships. The author explores and encourages empathy for mothers and daughters alike, but that is the greatest thing I got from this book. Hard pass on this one if readers want something sweet or informative. Although this book is about a common interest, it falls far below my threshold for recommending as a common read.

16) Spiritual Misfit: A Memoir of Uneasy Faith by Michelle DeRusha—Raised Catholic, turned agnostic/atheist, and returned to faith as a questioning convert, DeRusha is in many ways not like me, but in many ways, her words resonate with the every woman. She wrestles with questions, with trying to control God. She confronts her humanity and imperfections. She describes God's natural world beautifully, and notes her struggles to accept the fright of it. This is an honest, easy-to-read memoir with some points that really hit home. If we really think of it, we're all misfits in God's kingdom, redeemed by a great Savior who loves us, uneasy faith and all.

17) Loving My Actual Life: An Experiment in Relishing What’s Right in Front of Me by Alexandra Kuykendall—I had fun reading this book! Part Gretchen Rubin type experiment, part memoir, part action plan, this is a diary of the author’s attempt to make more of the life she has. She writes with humor, with honesty, and with a depth that prompts some deeper thought. With questions at the end of each chapter, this could be a great book for personal, or even group exploration of what God has given each person now, not yesterday or tomorrow, but right now, to do.

Saturday, March 30, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 13)

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook) (some made into deviled eggs)
Oatmeal in various forms
Super simple granola 

Lunches:

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot) and salsa
Curried cabbage (Budget Bytes) with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot)
Potato with leftover smoked sausage
Smoked sausage salad with shredded cabbage (How Sweet Eats

Dinners:

Asian sloppy joes (How Sweet Eats) on light brioche buns (Lite Cravings)

Lemon grilled cheese (Food Network

Pear and muenster grilled cheese (Culture Cheese Mag)
Smoked gouda and roasted red pepper grilled cheese (The Food Network)

Snacks:

Apples
Bananas
Banana oatmeal muffins (Hungry Hobby)
Carrots
Cheese sticks
Kettlecorn
Leftover pancakes
Lemon cheesecake nice cream (Fit Foodie Finds)
Oatmeal in various forms
Peanuts
Pineapple-carrot cake muffins (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker)

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Cauliflower

2 bags of green beans

1 bag of mixed vegetables

Tomato sauce

Fridge:

Apples

Arugula

Cottage cheese

Lemon (but to be honest, I used half of it to sanitize the garbage disposal)

Crushed pineapple

Old carton of eggs

Old garlic

Gouda cheese

Small container of Greek yogurt

Roasted red pepper

Romaine lettuce

Smoked sausage

Pantry:

Chinese salad dressing (The Best 50 Salad Dressings)

Fruit cups

Old container of brown rice

Popcorn kernels (Thanks to hubby for this one!)

Dried red chiles

Ripe bananas

2 cans of tomato sauce

What went bad:

The milk soured, but I used it as buttermilk, so no waste!

What I Prepped for Next Week: 

Kung pao cauliflower (How Sweet Eats

Shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot)

Tomato soup with tomato sauce (Country Hill Cottage)


What I Froze for Future Me:





Mashed banana (because I had WAY more than I needed for the hummingbird cake)

Pineapple-carrot cake muffins (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker)

Lent 2024


I didn't write much about Lent this year. It's not because I didn't do it, but because I simplified. Intensive, well-thought out fasts are good, but I have a tendency to feel like I always need to go bigger and better. This year wasn't the year for that. I went simple and small, engaging in fasting from two things from which I have fasted before: chocolate and Instagram. At first it was hard, as I usually indulged in both of these several times a day. Eventually, though, it just became force of habit.

The goal of fasting is supposed to be to focus on Christ. Honestly, I'm not sure I did that. I just simplified my life a little bit. Did that give me more time and space? Yes, and no. I still found myself wanting comfort food, and I sought it out. I still scrolled to zone out, albeit Facebook, news, and podcasts instead of Instagram. Basically, I am not sure fasting made much of an impact.

As I break that fast and introduce these things back into my life, though, can it increase my appreciation for Jesus? Will the joy of them remind me to joy in Jesus? I hope so, but we shall see....

Friday, March 29, 2024

The Simplified Life (Month 3 Update)

Y'all, life is anything but simple over here! Many people have told me to let more things go, but I just can't, or won't. Here's what I have been doing, though:

Continuing to pare down my food stores--

It taxes my executive functioning to constantly keep track of ingredients and try to keep them from going bad. Therefore, I keep trying to use more of them up. The more I use up, the more I can just cook from scratch, deciding once (a la The Lazy Genius), what to do with the next ingredients I buy. Though I value efficiency and saving money, I am also sometimes spending more to buy what I need, or closer to what I need, rather than the bulk version that is cheaper by unit. I am also trying to buy more multi-purpose than single use items (eg Greek yogurt that can work in several recipes versus sour cream that only works for one.) All of this means I can zero-sum budget by pantry more quickly, and keep things more fresh.

I am finding some joy return to cooking. If I have got to do it, might as well enjoy it! This month, I have made a lot of gourmet grilled cheese. It's been fun. It's been fresh, and it has used up more of my stashes. Win all around!

Simplifying dates--

I love a good adventure, and I love my husband and enjoy spending time with him. In this season, though, intense, complicated dates just aren't for us. Rather, our dates have be short, simple, and meaningful. We have to make use of the time that we have and make it quality, because quantity sure isn't here right now. Lately, that has looked like taking 20-30 minute walks around town, trying out a new pretzel shop, and even running errands together. As my husband says, time together is what counts!

And that's a wrap on this month. Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions? Please feel free to share in the comments section!

Wednesday, March 27, 2024

Jealousy Part 2

I have been jealous in my marriage. Yes, jealousy is a sin, and yes, I have committed it. At first, I was envious of the ideal marriage. As time has gone on, though, I have realized that I actually envy my husband.

My husband is very talented. He is very likable. He is very efficient. He knows oh, so many things. These are things I admire about him. These are also things I can envy, because I have fewer talents. I definitely have people who don't like me. I get distracted by many things. I know a few things, but am often incorrect, either totally and completely, or at least in the way I present them. Basically, my husband shows me up. He shows me that I am not perfect, and that hurts.

It hurts to envy my husband even more when I realize that I am sinning, breaking the Ten Commandments. Jealousy hurts me even more than that, too, because instead of celebrating my husband, I start competing with him. I stop cheering him on and try to start closing him out. Where we should be a team, I find myself keeping score. It's not pretty.

Jealousy leads me to resentment. Resentment further undermines our marriage. It's a nasty, ugly thing. The only way I have found (so far) to stop the jealousy is to start accepting myself. That hurts, because I don't like all of myself. This is who God made me to be, though. And my husband accepts me, so why shouldn't I accept myself?

My husband's talents benefit me, too. Can I not be grateful for them? I am proud of him! I hope and pray that can at least temper my jealousy as I work on myself.

Ah, jealousy. I definitely have work to do. Thank God for the relationship of marriage that shows that to me. May Jesus be glorified as I continue to confess my sin to the Lord and allow His Holy Spirit to work within my sinful heart.

Monday, March 25, 2024

Self-Control and Self-Care: Not Mutually Exclusive


I have heard several things about how self-control is punitive and that what we need instead is self-care. I don't think self-control and self-care have to be mutually exclusive, though. Sometimes I think that we have to practice self-control (a fruit of the Spirit) to have appropriate self-care. Maybe the issue lies within definition of the terms.

What is self-control? According to the Bible, it is part of the fruit of the Spirit, demonstration that the Holy Spirit lives within a person and controls the person (Gal 5:23). The Greek Word here refers to mastery of desires and passions, that is, saying , "No" to the wrong, and "Yes" to the right. (Blue Letter Bible, n.d.). Psychology defines self-control simply as "the ability to manage one's impulses, emotions, and behaviors to achieve long-term goals" (Psychology Today Staff, n.d.). There is less moral distinction here, stating that self-control just helps a person make choices that benefit him or her long-term. Either way, self-control requires decision and action.

What is self-care? The Bible does not reference self-care specifically. It does encourage believers to care for self and others, though (Faith Filled Food for Moms, n.d.). Self-care is more of a mental health term defined as "the practice of individuals looking after their own health using the knowledge and information available to them" (Global Self-Care Federation, 2023). In this way, self-care is self-tending.

The Interrelationship. The definitions of self-control and self-care overlap in the area of decision making. Some bloggers, podcasters, and writers disagree, though. Paige Schmidt (2017) does not say that the two are mutually exclusive, but portrays self-control in a pejorative sense, saying that "Self-care refuels you and gives you MORE energy and self-control drains you and takes AWAY your energy." Be the Change (2021) says something similar. Using self-control to do things that are not beneficial is negative for one's health. But using self-control to practice good things (eg sleep hygiene, good nutrition, etc.) might be necessary for self-care.

If we define self-control negatively, as in forcing oneself to do something the person does not want to do, that might not benefit the person's mental health. As Kris (n.d.) says, "When we force our bodies into a state that is unnatural and potentially even detrimental...our body [and I might add, soul and spirit] will retaliate." If self-control is done positively, as in saying, "No" to behaviors that drain the person, and "Yes" to filling and energizing behaviors, the two might go together. As Mistie (2017) writes in Simply Convivial, sometimes we need discipline, to "replace [old habits with new, better habits, and] redirect our minds to right ruts rather than bad ones." That self-discipline might include the decision-making of self-control.

Not Mutually Exclusive. Fueled by Holy Spirit wisdom, I believe that self-control and self-care go together. In fact, I think they need to go together. We need wisdom to practice appropriate self-control in ways that help, rather than hurt. We need wisdom to care of ourselves appropriately, in ways that equip us to live healthy lives rather than enable us to continue in unhealthy habits. Self-control and self-care. Let's pursue them both for the good of ourselves and the glory of God.

References:

Blue Letter Bible. (n.d.). Lexicon :: Strong's G1466 - egkrateia. https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/g1466/esv/mgnt/0-1/

Faith Filled Food for Moms. (n.d.). 22 awesome scriptures for practicing self-care -- Free printable. https://www.faithfilledfoodformoms.com/22-awesome-scriptures-to-know-for-practicing-self-care/

Global Self-Care Federation. (2023). What is self-care? https://www.selfcarefederation.org/what-is-self-care

Kris. (n.d.). Choosing self care over self control. Healthy Mama Kris. https://healthymamakris.com/choosing-self-care-over-self-control/

Mistie. (2017, December 13). Simple Convivial. Repent. Rejoice. Repeat. https://simplyconvivial.com/2017/self-control-self-care/

Psychology Today Staff. (n.d.). Self-control. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-control

Schmidt, P. (2017, April 19). The difference between self-care and self-control. Live Brightly. https://www.paigeschmidt.com/the-difference-between-self-care-and-self-control/

Saturday, March 23, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 12)

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:



Oatmeal in various forms


Veggie oat taco mince (Oatrageoous Oatmeals) with soft-boiled eggs (Instant Pot)

Lunches:

Dinners:


Snacks:

Apples
Bananas
Banana oatmeal muffins (Hungry Hobby)
Carrots
Cheese sticks
Fruit cups
Leftover pancakes
Oatmeal in various forms
Peanuts
Protein banana muffins (Fit Foodie Finds)

What I Used Up--

Freezer:


Bag of broccoli

Green beans

Pears

1 jar of spiced lentils with carrots (Budget Bytes)

Fridge:

Jar of applesauce

Head of cabbage

Old bag of carrots

Carton of eggs

Green onions

Old bag of onions

2 red bell peppers

Pantry:

Almond extract

Can of green chiles

Canola oil spray

Grits

Ripe bananas

What went bad:

Nothing that I know of!


What I Prepped for Next Week:


Asian sloppy joes (How Sweet Eats

Curried cabbage (Budget Bytes)

Roasted red bell pepper

Shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot)


What I Froze for Future Me:



Chopped cauliflower



Sunday, March 17, 2024

All the Green!

I didn't get on my decoration game on for Saint Patrick's day quite like I did for Valentine's Day, but over the course of the weekend, we did enjoy all the green:


Green onion graced Cheddar grits breakfast bowl with sunny side up fried eggs (Budget Bytes) for breakfast


Green canned beverages with our meals


Spicy split pea soup (More with Less)

Green mint chocolate chip milkshake from Fruitlandia for dessert


And of course I had to wear green!

Our standby decorations for this time of year didn't let us down on green, either.

Cross garland for Lent (Desert Blossom Crafts)


Fabric wreath (A Mom's Impression) we made years ago for Saint Patrick's Day 

All in all, I'd say we did pretty green!


Saturday, March 16, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 11)


What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Chocolate chip scones (Handle the Heat)

Healthy snacking granola (Munching with Mariyah

Instant Pot hard-boiled eggs (Omnivore's Cookbook) made into deviled eggs

Stir-fried veggie oats (Oatrageous Oatmeals)

Super simple granola

Oatmeal (and versions thereof)

Fluffy pancakes (All Recipes)

Lunches:

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken and salsa (sometimes with edamame added)

Easy egg salad (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)

Root vegetable medley (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)shredded chicken and green beans

Spicy split pea soup (More with Less)

One pot creamy sun dried tomato pasta (Budget Bytes)

Dinners:

Chicken yakisoba (Carlsbad Cravings)


Mexican Pizza with custom-designed salsa and great guacamole (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker)

Sauerkraut grilled cheese with dijon (Umami Girl) 


Grilled cheese with charred scallions (Not Without Salt)

Snacks:

Baby carrots

Bananas


Cajun peanuts (Cajun Cooking Recipes) 

Cheese sticks

Chocolate chip scones (Handle the Heat)

Carrot Oatmeal Greek Yogurt Muffins (Running with Spoons)

Fruit cups

Healthy snacking granola (Munching with Mariyah

Leftover pancakes

Peanuts

Oatmeal of all kinds (baked oatmeal, mug, overnight oats, etc.)

Strawberry banana muffins (Bucket List Tummy)

What I Used Up-

Freezer:

Homemade whole wheat bread
Mixed vegetables
Rotel salsa (CD Kitchen)

Fridge:

Bacon aioli
Old cabbage
Big bag of colby jack cheese
Old carton of eggs
Greek yogurt (large container and small container)
Homemade salsa
Jalapenos (froze the rest for future use)
Old mayonnaise
Mixed vegetables
Big bag mozzarella cheese
No-fry refried beans (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)
1 bag of onions
Romaine lettuce
Tomatoes

Pantry:

All the ripe bananas

Cinnamon sugar

Coach's Oatmeal packet

Grapefruit

1 can of sauerkraut

Split peas

Sweet potato

What went bad:

A little bit of the onions (but I was able to cut that part off)

A sweet potato (It must have been a bad one, because over half of it rotted and molded in one week on the counter! Lesson learned to use up produce ASAP!)

What I Prepped for Next Week: 




Veggie oat taco mince (Oatrageous Oatmeals)




What I Froze for Future Me:


Chocolate protein mousse (Fit Foodie Finds)


Halved jalapenos

Half of the sweet potato crust quiche (Fit Foodie Finds)