Saturday, May 31, 2025

Everything I Read in May



I am back to reading! Our vacation helped me fit in a few books, and after that, I made steady progress, helped along by a second road trip we just ended. I am trying to read some different books, more life books than chick-flick romance. Don't get me wrong. I like the happily ever after stories, but they can tend to pull me in to the point that I might get too invested in fantasy and not as invested in real life. Some of the real life books I read this month were hard, but some were good. And I still wish I read more than I was on social media, again, not an entirely bad thing, but something that I would like to do less of. With that being said, here's what I read:

28) A Promise to Remember by Kathryn Cushman—Andie Phelps and Melanie Johnston both lost their sons in a tragic accident. They are currently losing so much more. This book follows both of their journeys through grief and recovery from it. There is a twist in the end that involves Andie’s friend Christi that doesn’t quite fit with the theme, but I will leave that to readers to assess. Although maybe not the most memorable books I’ve read, this is still a good one. The reminders about God’s forgiveness and salvation, however, are worthy promises they endure.

29) Finding Me by Kathryn Cushman—Kelli Huddleston starts a journal entitled “Finding Kelli” after losing her father and stepmother in a car crash. In the wake of their deaths, though, she discovers that all she knows of herself might be false. She takes a cross-country road trip to explore links to truth, renaming her journal, “Finding Me.” This book had me intrigued, near tears, and rejoicing. The gospel message is not quite as strong as in A Promise to Remember, but it is there, and let me tell you, this is a story to remember.

30) The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer—This is a good book, one about accepting and living within limits. The practices of silence and solitude, Sabbath, simplicity, and slowing are good ones—ones I don’t know I can fully practice, but as Comer states, they’re about practice, not arriving. The goal is Jesus, and apprenticeship under Him. Ultimately, that’s what eliminating hurry is about, living in the present with Jesus and who He made us to be. I can get behind that, and I also do see the cost, at least in a worldly sense.

31) Fading Starlight by Kathryn Cushman—Lauren Summers has an eye for fashion design, and an internship to help her get her foot in the door for a career, that is until a new starlet has a “wardrobe malfunction” that ruins everything. Lauren becomes the fall girl and hides to stay out of the limelight. Her new “job” designing costumes for a high school theater production is hard work, and her neighbor Charlotte Montgomery is even harder. Lauren keeps hearing the scripture, “Be careful not to make a treaty with those who live in the land,” and does not really know what it means, that is until the end of the story. This book has a little bit of mystery and intrigue, some history, a dash of romance, and a lot of perseverance and hard work and listening to the Lord. I liked this book!

32) Another Dawn by Kathryn Cushman—Readers return to Shoal Creek (also the setting for Waiting for Daybreak) as Grace Graham faces her family and an onslaught of health issues. Grace has always run from problems, but can she now stay put? Can she learn to trust God and others? The author's pharmacist past definitely informs the portrayal of a measles outbreak in this story, as well as the discussion of vaccines. All in all, though, it is a great story about facing fears, forgiveness, and learning to love others, especially when their viewpoints differ from one's own. I enjoyed this book!

33) Untangle Your Emotions: Naming What You Feel and Knowing What to Do About It by Jennie Allen—This is by far one of the best books about emotions by a lay person that I have read. In it, author, Bible teacher, and speaker Jennie Allen not only vulnerably shares her own struggles with emotions, but also makes a case for emotions not as good or bad, but as gifts from God to help people connect with God and with others. Allen presents practical and professional solutions for untangling emotions, and provides hope that this untangling is possible, maybe not completely, but in a way that can connect and enrich life. I highly recommend this book to lay people and professionals alike. It provides both a strong and accessible theology of emotions, one from which I think every person can benefit!

34) Me Time: The Self-Care Guide That Transforms You from Surviving to Thriving by Jessica Sanders—Written by a social worker, this is an accessible book about self-care, and more than that, about self-awareness. Sanders writes in a gentle and kind way, encouraging readers to check in with themselves and ask what they need. She suggests carving out time for self-care, and offers idea about how to practice self care in 1, 5, 10, and 30 minutes; and 1, 2, and 4 hour plus hours. Some cute abstract art and cutes make this a fun, easy reference guide that could be good for healthcare lobbies, and maybe even the coffee table!

35) Leaving Yesterday by Kathryn Cushman—This book was a tough one for me to read. Alisa and Rick are separated. There are not one, but two violent crimes (not described in too much detail, but enough). The characters fight lots of temptations, giving into some and resisting others. This book was a good, real, true-to-life, book, but a bit too close to reality for me to really enjoy it. It is hopeful, though, and hopeful in a real-life, consequences-happen way. Read somberly, I guess is what I am saying.

36) 36) Tender Grace by Jackina Stark—I had a hard time getting into this book. Written in daily journal style, it was good, and rich, but slow, and maybe that’s the point. It is the story of new widow Audrey Eaton and the trip she takes from Missouri to the west coast to reclaim her life and learn more about God and his tender graces. With some exposition of the gospel of John, insights about grief, and even some laugh out loud moments, this book has gifts to offer, perhaps to those in new life stages such as Audrey’s most of all.

37) Fire on Ice: The Exclusive Inside Story of Tonya Harding by Abby Haight and J.E. Vance and the Staff of The Oregonian—Written in 1994 by the staff of The Oregonian, “the first to report almost every development in the [Tonya Harding] case,” this is an expose of Harding’s ups and downs, from her early life, to her on- and off-again marriage, to financial struggles, to crime. Ultimately, it shows how her “husband” (in quotation marks because they were officially divorced) paid his friend and a group of thugs (out of Phoenix, Arizona, no less!) to injure Harding’s competitor Nancy Kerrigan, and hopefully give Harding a competitive edge. Harding gave lots of excuses to try to cover up her knowledge of the operation, but it is pretty clear that she knew about it. As the authors concluded about her potential appearance at the Olympics that year:

“Tonya Harding will be there because the man she married, and loved, and lived with paid money to thugs so they would whack the current national champion in the leg. Harding will be there because her lawyers threatened to sue to the hilt anyone who tried to prevent her from going.

But most of all, she will be there because she doesn’t know any better, because she doesn’t know what else to do. Tonya Harding learned very early that life is unfair and she has been told, over and over, that life has been particularly unfair to her. She learned that winning is all-important, that it brings love and respect and, especially money. She learned that violence is a way to solve problems.”

This is a sad story all the way through, and a cautionary tale against letting winning become the be-all, end-all, because when it does, it’s a fire that consumes everything.

38) Have a Beautiful, Terrible Day: Daily Meditations for the Ups, Downs, and In-Betweens by Kate Bowler—Another beauty from the prolific Kate Bowler, this book focuses its devotionals around caring for self and others not in the good days, but in the terrible ones, and finding God in the midst of them. The book contains devotionals for everyday hard seasons, as well as for Lent and Advent. Each short meditation contains a preamble, poem, and reflection question. It can be read daily, or in sections. Not every meditation hit home, but many really did, making this book get a thumbs up recommendation from me.

39)
Stones for Bread by Christa Parrish—This is a bit of a heavy book. Part fiction, part sourdough cookbook, and part history of bread, it follows Wild Rise bakery owner Liesel as she navigates her past, present, and future. Liesl's mother passed on to her not only a history of baking, but stones for bread in terms of a history of mental illness that left Liesl motherless at an early age. The book covers difficult topics like self-harm, divorce, learning disabilities, and heaps of grief. It is good, but hard to read, and definitely emotional. The recipes, well, they look challenging, but delicious! All in all this was a good read, but one readers need to read when they are ready to take a big bite, because it is a mouthful!

40) Thin Ice: The Complete Uncensored Story of Tonya Harding, America's Bad Girl of Ice Skating by Frank Coffey and Joe Layden—Another book about Tonya Harding, though not really with anything new to offer. This expose was slightly shorter than Fire on Ice, and still implicates Tonya Harding as more involved with the attack on Nancy Kerrigan than she let on. It also shows just how unprofessional the attack ring was, dubbing them “The Gang That Couldn't Shoot Straight.” The whole tale really is what the author sets it out to be: a tragedy of misplaced aims, affections, and agreements. How much about the attack on Kerrigan Harding knew will probably never be known. What is true is that Harding and her companions skated on thin ice and feel through, to all of their demises.

41) Watch Over Me by Christa Parrish —Fostering an abandoned infant brings Abbi and Benjamin Patil together, at least for a time. Sharing a few interests, but also diametrically different, they each wrestle with their own demons. Abbi struggles with an eating disorder, infertility, and memories of past sexual abuse. Benjamin wrestles with PTSD after fighting in Afghanistan. Then there is sub character Matthew Savoie, who struggles with symptoms of Alport Syndrome. This wasn’t a bad book, but once again a heavy read, and one that seems to wrap up a dark night of the soul a bit too quickly after taking up most of the book. If you choose to ready this book, watch over yourself, because it may bring up some stuff.

Eats and Empties (Week 22)



The Eats:

No cooking for us this week! We were traveling and came home to eat food I thawed out of the freezer.

The Empties:

Frozen bacon
Bag of beef jerky
Luker chocolate squares
Bag of frozen green beans
Five pound bag of potatoes
Bag of pretzel rods
Frozen spicy enchilada casserole (Meal Prep in an Instant)
Bag of trail mix

What went to waste:
   

Thanks to the freezer, nothing that I know of!

Friday, May 30, 2025

Strong(er) in May


It's been back to the "rat race" after our first vacation, and now a second one. I hoped to carry some of the ease and joy of vacation back into real life, and at moments, it seems like I have. Other times, it seems like I have just fallen right back into the rut of rush, rush, rush, and fail to enjoy life.

Vacation itself was a victory for our marriage, though. By God's grace, I did not drive my husband nuts despite spending almost 24 hours straight with him for four days on end (and a lot of that in a car hurtling down the highway at high speeds). In fact, I missed him the first day we went back to work. Being apart just felt weird! I guess we still like each other. We survived an almost seven day road, trip, too. Praise the Lord!

God is growing us in our teamwork. We tend to do things pretty differently, but we have been able to tag-team a few things. I called the doctor and left a message. He was able to coordinate with the doctor. I ask a question. He gets the answer. I prep for the company. He cooks for and serves the company. We have failed many times in our collaboration, but I praise God for each and every success.

The Bay Bridge Half was a physical victory for me. Praise the Lord for my fastest half-marahton yet! I think I *might* be making progress in my pull-up program, but I also want to be careful. Several men I know have tendonitis/tendinopathy from doing too many pull-ups. I hope not to get that! I continue to do physical therapy exercises, too. I think I now need those for both my dystonia and my running career.

Spiritually, I don't think I am stagnating, but maybe I am just steady? At least I hope so. I can't name a whole lot of mountaintop moments, but I seek to continue in my spiritual disciplines of weekly prayer time and dedicated Bible reading. The Spirit is showing me how much I worry on a daily basis, and convicting me to pray more. That is a growth area, for sure!

All in all, I am thankful for this month. May God continue to grow me stronger in him, stronger in the body and life he has given me, and stronger in my marriage, for his glory and my good.

Saturday, May 24, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 21)



The Eats:

Instant Pot baked potatoes (Platings + Pairings)

Lamb and feta meatballs with tomato sauce (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)

The Empties:

Frozen easy sourdough bagels (Lion's Bread)
Frozen blueberries
Five pound bag of carrots
Two pound bag of cheese
Frozen cauliflower rice
Container of feta cheese
Two packages of frozen green beans
Green pepper
Package of sandwich ham
Container of Hershey's special dark cocoa powder
Ground lamb
Mom's pancakes
Raisins
Reese's bananas
Box of spaghetti
Can of crushed tomatoes
Can of tomato sauce
Frozen big-batch white beans (Epicurious)

What went to waste:  

Nothing that I know of!

Wednesday, May 21, 2025

Afghan 85


Another one done! This was not my favorite blanket to crochet. Something about it just seemed tedious. Despite not using bulky yarn as instructed, this blanket did work up pretty quickly, though. (Double crochet blankets tend to do that.) The ombre color effect was not intended, but rather a result of different dye lot yarns. (I have never had a dye lot difference be this apparent, but there is a first time for everything.) Overall, I am both pleased with this blanket and glad it is done!


Quick and easy blanket (Sierra's Crafty Creations)

Finished size: 31 x 40 inches (not standard, but that's pretty standard for me!)

Saturday, May 17, 2025

Eats and Empties (Week 20)

The Eats:

Bircher muesli (How Sweet Eats)

Egg scramble (Meal Prep in an Instant)


Lemon chicken with potatoes (Meal Prep in an Instant)

Orange sweet rolls (Sally's Baking Addiction)

The Empties:

Fresh asparagus
Package of bacon
Box of baking soda
Bag of beef jerky
Fresh broccoli
Two pound bag of frozen broccoli
Frozen chicken
Cilantro
Corn tortillas
Carton of 18 eggs
Dark Duo chocolate
Frozen garlic
Container of Greek yogurt
Old lentils
Half gallon of milk
Old onions
Orange
Pickles
Baby portobello mushrooms
Five pound bag of potatoes
Ten pound bag of potatoes
Head of romaine lettuce
Seventy-ounce jar of salsa
Sour cream

What went to waste:  

A few cilantro leaves, but I got what we needed out of the bunch and composted the rest, so only minor "waste," if any

Sunday, May 11, 2025

The Shaping Hands of Mothers


The older I get, the more I realize I have been shaped by my mom. Although I am not a mom, I have faith in Jesus because of my mom. I value homecooking because of my mom. My mom taught me to budget shop and save money. My mom continually models selfless service and sacrifice. My mom is a faithful prayer warrior and a steady encourager. My mom is a great nana to my brother's kids and so thoughtful in the way that she interacts with them. My mom is wise in all areas, and especially in health. My mom knows the Bible inside and out and models regular time in it. My mom walks daily, even though she has pain. My mom is a beautiful pianist and taught me how to play the piano. My mom can sing harmony with or without music, and knows hundreds of hymns. My mom works tirelessly, sometimes to her own detriment, but because she values excellence. I love my mom and I am so thankful for her!

Now that I am married, I am shaped by my mother-in-laws. I have spent less time with them than with my own mom, but I am shaped by the vast quantities of time I spend with their son, my husband. They value communication and joy. They like to celebrate holidays. They have shaped my husband into a flexible, empathetic, caring human who cares for me. They have taught him about food and travel and appreciating the little things. My life is enriched because of the ways that they enriched the life of my husband. 

I give thanks for the other mothers in my life, too: for my sister-in-law for the great wife she is to my brother, and the great mother she is to my adorable niece and nephew. She is so creative and caring! It gives me great joy to see the ways that she is raising them in the Lord. 

On the other side of my family, I have sisters-in-laws who share family recipes and teach me about the culture of my husband's family. They bring to me experiences that are meaningful to my husband, and enrich my life. Thank you, sisters-in-law!

I value my friends who are mothers, too. They give and sacrifice and give some more. What a delight to see them also raising their children to know Jesus!

So on this Mother's Day, I give thanks to God for all the mother's in my circle: my own mother, my husband's mothers, my sister-in-law, and my friends who are mothers. You are all doing a great job, and I send all of you my love.

Happy Mother's Day!