Monday, August 31, 2026

Everything I Read in August

My goal was to read 10 books this month. I didn't think I was going to make it. And then I finished two audio books on the same day, and a reading book the next day. Phew! You know what, though? I'm noticing something. When life is really stressful, I struggle to read at night. My attention just flits from here to there to...everywhere! On that type of day, I don't even know that I enjoy reading, and maybe that is okay.

I also realized that I always want to go bigger and better. Ten books might be less than I read some months, but ten books is still a lot! I am blessed that I can read, and that I can read quickly. I am blessed that I have time and space to read. I am blessed that I can see to read. I am blessed that I have a library from which to get free books to read. I am blessed! I am blessed! I am blessed! And my featured book from this month really reminded me of that.

So, without further adieu, here's this month's book list:

112) Piece of Cake by Asher Paula Fogle and Mary Holly Huddleston—Dallas debutante Claire Sommers falls from grace and strikes out on her own. She ends up working for Piece of Cake wedding magazine in Nashville. The problem is, that in spite of all of her hard efforts, the magazine is about to go under. Enter New Yorker Dom Gravino, whose social media expertise is supposed to produce a following, along with a documentary-style show bound to save the magazine. Thrown together against the odds, Claire and Dom become friends, and then possibly more than friends, until Claire's past comes back to haunt her. Both Claire and Dom learn a lot about forgiveness, love, and finding their true identity in this book, which was sweet. Sadly, some crass humor and innuendo left a sour taste in my mouth. While I can't recommend this particular piece of fiction, like the authors, I believe in redemption and would be willing to give another book a second shot.

113) Unbreakable: Go Strong. Live Long. A Woman’s Guide to Aging with Power by Vonda Wright, MD—After my stress fracture, I was looking for anything and everything to figure out how to strengthen my bones, and that is how I came to Unbreakable. What I liked about the book: Wright’s personal, no-shame approach, and how she shares about the difference mindset makes on a person’s health. What I didn’t like: her giving diet advice (she is a physician, not a dietitian), and some of the focus on longevity. I am encouraged that I can still make positive changes to my health as I age, but I am also not about to spend my one life consumed with fighting aging. What is living longer if I’ve spent the majority of my time and resources on supplements and protocols? I would rather do what I can, reasonably, and enjoy my days on earth, even if they are a bit shorter. That said, read what you wish. Skip what you wish. Some of this book might be helpful. Some might not be. It’s not an unequivocal recommendation from me.

114) Love Forms by Claire Adam—Dawn Bishop is secreted away from Trinidad to Venezuela in the dark of the night. It seems like a kidnapping, until reader realize it isn't. It is her parents sending her away, at 16, to give birth to her baby and leave it there for adoption. The rest of the book goes back and forth between Dawn's present life, her recollections of that time of her life, and her struggles to put the pieces back together. She finds four possible matches for the woman who is her daughter. She reconciles some with her family, and she doesn't. The story is quite post-modern, without exact beginning or end. It is philosophical, in that Dawn has to find and make meaning of her own story. I appreciate the depiction of love in its various forms, but his was another book I found it hard to get into. (The beginning made me afraid to read at night). While interesting, if looking for entertainment, I would recommend seeking it out in other forms. If looking for stories about adoption, I I would recommend autobiography or memoir. Props to Adam for writing a clean story about such a sensitive topic, but this depiction just was not for me.

115) The Rules of Falling for You by Mollie Rushmeyer— This book was a keeper—seriously, so cute! Zoe Dufour’s search for true love at an older age was pretty relatable, which helped me get past the cheesy Regency romance podcast subplot. Zoe’s friendship with her podcast producer and best friend Eden’s brother Harrison Lundquist was real, raw, and sweet. Themes of perfectionism and control hit home. I liked the twist at the end that tested true love and extended the story. (A romance between secondary characters budded as well.) This book was just what I needed—lightness in an otherwise full and heavy week. (It also proved to me that I can get through a book fast if it’s the right one.) This book busted through the ceiling of what I would expect from a rom-com, and I am so sad that my library does not have more from this author!

116) 
Start with Your People: The Daily Decision That Changes Everything by Brian Dixon [Audiobook]—This was not a bad book, but more a book about business than people (and people are my “business.”) While I appreciate Dixon's focus on serving people, some of his recommendations to serve others feel disingenuous. In sum, this (audio)book wasn't for me, but that's okay. It might be for some people.

117) When We Were Friends by Holly Bourne—This is a terrible book I started after having a terrible day, and I guess from that perspective, it did remind me that my life could be worse. The book is riddled with triggering content, however: self-harm, suicidality, drug use, and more. The explicit content (language, sex, and substance use) is abysmally high. Men use women, and women use men. The end gave me whiplash and felt almost like gaslighting. I guess this book does bring awareness to trauma and mental health, and different experiences of it, but goodness! I wish the author could have gotten to the point of the book about trust and friendship for Fern and Jessica and trying to redeem and maintain that friendship without going into so much terrible detail. The author writes in the acknowledgements that this book was a type of “purging” for her. I can see that, and I believe there is already enough awful true stuff in the world that we don’t need more detailed fiction about it. The author is talented—her past/present writing style definitely pulled me in, and she got my emotions running high. Unfortunately, strong writing skills and an emotional story does not a worthwhile book make. As I reel from finishing this novel, and continue to process, I can only say I absolutely cannot recommend it.

118) Rhythms of Prayer Edited by Sarah Bessey [Audiobook]—This is definitely a more progressive book, from the Evolving Faith community. It contains some language I would rather not hear in prayer, and definitely exposes some political biases. This collection of prayers from women across the spectrum of life (race, creed, color, denomination, etc.), however, is real. It reveals God as accessible through prayer (which He is, because of Jesus). While I would not base my theology of prayer on this book, I did find it a helpful, orientating listen during a very stressful season of life. Prayer is for all seasons. I just have to fit my life into the rhythm of it.

119) Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic by Paul Conti, MD [Audiobook]—Psychiatrist Paul Conti knows trauma, personally, and professionally. He clearly has a passion to help people, and society overcome trauma and its adverse effects. That being said, this book felt more like a memoir than a treatise on therapy and how to treat it. Conti shares more stories than directive explanations. I personally found books like The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Der Kolk and What Happened to You? by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey more helpful.

120) Soul Surfer by Bethany Hamilton [Audiobook]—I watched the Soul Surfer movie in theaters with my cousin way back in 2011. This is the book that inspired it (with additions made about the movie process). It was not too graphic, and more about Hamilton's upbringing, family, faith, and return to surfing that the actual shark attack. It was a fun and easy listen, but also an inspiring one!

121) This Book Won’t Make You Happy: Eight Keys to Finding True Contentment by Niro Feliciano, LCSW—This was really a great book. Licensed social worker Niro Feliciano weaves in her Christian faith beautifully, without being preachy. She provides real, solid tips for finding contentment—not flashy or sensational, just practical and real life. Her storytelling style makes the book relatable and easy to read. I came away with a renewed motivation to practice gratitude. It’s not that I don’t do it, but that I don’t do it enough!

122) Bare Bones by Bobby Bones [Audiobook]—I am a sucker for stories of resilience, and this book is one! In it, Country Radio Host Bobby Bones shares openly and vulnerably about his difficult upbringing, struggles with relationships, and big, big mistakes he made in his career. Honestly, in today's day and age, Bones (not his real last name) might have gotten cancelled, but somehow, he survived. Spoiler alert, he is now married with a child. Although this book did contain some crude humor and a little bit of language, I appreciate Bones' baring his soul, so to speak, so that others might feel less alone in their struggles, and more empowered to overcome them.

123) Authentically Izzy by Pepper Basham —I learned a new word, “Epistolary,” a word used to describe stories written in correspondence form, which this one is (e-mails and texts) until the middle of the book, when narration enters the scene. Small town librarian Isabelle thinks her meddling cousin Josie is impersonating someone on the Heart-to-Heart dating website, but then realizes she has been baring her soul to Brodie, a stranger on a (made-up) Scottish island. I was impressed by the author’s many references to classic literature. The story contained important truths about identity and worth. It was easy to predict parts of the plot, however, and reading all the correspondence got old. Authentically, I am just not sure what to think. I do have a few more books by this author on my reading list, so maybe I will reserve final judgement until after reading them.

124) Complement:The Surprising Beauty of Choosing Together Over Separate in Marriage by Aaron Ivey and Jamie Ivey—Aaron and Jamie Ivey fell from grace in a public scandal out of Austin Stone Church, but I didn’t know that when I started reading this book, and they wrote it before that event. When I found out, I decided to finish reading anyway. God can use people who sin to impart his truth, and He did through this book. Reading really caused me to assess me heart towards my husband. Yes, I try to serve him, but is it out of love, because Jesus loved me; or out of obligation? Unfortunately, I think it’s often the latter. I don’t really know what’s become of Aaron and Jamie Ivey and their marriage. All I can hope and pray is that they applied what they wrote in this book about seeking Jesus in marriage. Somehow, I hope they find hope and healing again, and at some point, will be able to testify, just as they did in this book, to the greatness of Jesus.

125) Fail Until You Don’t: Fight. Grind. Repeat.
By Bobby Bones [Audiobook]—This was not the book for me. While I enjoyed Bones' first memoir, this one felt more like a masochist treatise based on the “No days off” motto. Sure, perseverance, resilience, and motivation are good, but not without rest, and that is basically what Bones writes about: a life of constant striving with very little to no deviances allowed. Bones does include some stories of other famous people whose failures taught them something, but all in all, I found the book more distressing than motivating. I recommend Bones' actual memoir, Bare Bones, not this motivational one.

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Readers, do you have any great books to share from your reading this month?

Saturday, August 29, 2026

LESS Scarcity


I set out this month with a goal of having LESS of a scarcity mindset. I wanted to focus on enjoying what I have instead of trying to nickel and dime save everything for some unknown date in the future. It's something I have really struggled with, and let me tell you, the Lord really did a work in me this month. It's not that I did not experience the scarcity mindset, but that the Lord opened my eyes to see the piles of blessings that I have. I can see. I can hear. I can taste. I can touch. I can smell. I can walk. And this month, I got to return to running. 

I got to focus this month LESS on scarcity and more on abundance. I noticed that I really had enough time to do special things (not all the things, but the special, priority things). God provided enough money for us to help some others. In the midst of really busy, stressful seasons for both my husband and I, we found margin to get away and enjoy the great outdoors and time with each other. 

It was not a perfect month. That's for sure. We had days we did not feel well. Internet issues interfered with our ability to work from home (as well as do other tasks of life). We found out we once again need to buy a new refrigerator (as well as a new dishwasher). But you know what? God was enough, more than enough. As Niro Feliciano writes in This Book Won't Make You Happy, “What we often miss is that God allows us to be content right now, in this moment, because the presence of God is enough.” This month was a giant lesson in that.

Reference:

Feliciano, N. (2022) This book won't make you happy: Eight keys to finding true contentment. Broadleaf Books.

What We Cooked and Ate (Week 34)


This Week's Eats:

Corn rice salsa chicken soup (365 Days of Slow + Pressure Cooking)

Creamy tomato chicken (Budget Bytes)

Homemade oat milk creamer (Jessica in the Kitchen)

Homemade taco seasoning (Budget Bytes)

Lemon chickpea chicken soup (Simply Recipes)

Sourdough lemon muffins (The Pantry Mama)

Sriracha ranch dipping sauce (Hot Rod's Recipes)

Red, white, and blue fruit salad (Budget Bytes)

Noteworthy Repeats
:

Big-batch Instant Pot white beans (Epicurious)

Egg bake casserole (Food 52)

Sourdough gravy (The Pantry Mama)



Friday, August 28, 2026

The More of Less Report (August)

I wanted to turn a corner this month. I wanted to be my best self. It turns out I am still human and still not meeting all my goals. But I still had a good month. And that’s what I wanted less to be about.

To revisit my goals--

January-LESS scrolling: Yes, I am still scrolling. I could cut myself off, but that extreme choice does not necessarily help me practice self-control. So, I continue to try to be aware of my habits (screen time reports help!), get off when it is not serving me, and otherwise enjoy more ways to relax and decompress than simply using the screen.

February-LESS picking:
This is not really better. Here is where I want to be extreme. I want to take great care of my skin and hair and not be bothered by it. It has not happened yet. I did get to share the new face cream I have with my mom, though. That is a win!

March-LESS hunger (judgment): This is still a hard one! I am a little less hungry than I was in the initial stages of healing from my injury, but still hungry, and still seeming to gain weight. I want to get strong and healthy and back to running, but it is hard not to judge and micromanage my body. Let's just say I have not quite re-befriended my body and learned to trust it. Maybe I never well.

April-LESS goals: After seeing Jessica Merchant (2006) reference the monthly 10 list (Chinyoka, 2026), I new that was my ticket to having less goals this month! And it worked! Praise God, I was able to achieve my ten goals, as well as have motivation to say, "No," to temptations like a new workout plan that came into my inbox, or overthinking and reworking my current goals. I just said, "No!" It was so relieving.

May-LESS no: I did say, "No," but I also said, "Yes." That dovetailed right with my monthly less goal, which I will write about soon. Really, I have a rich life. I don't need to say, "Yes" to everything, but I can do a lot better to enjoy my life more.

June-LESS lying to myself: I think I am learning here that I need to lower my expectations for myself. Thereby, I lie less to myself. I also need to keep learning to both prioritize, and let things go. As the saying goes, I can do anything (well, almost anything), but not everything.

July-LESS fear: Admittedly, I am struggling here. I am so thankful to be running again, and also quite afraid I will get hurt again. Failing to run won't prevent that possibility. Anything is possible (both bad and good). All I can do is try to be wise, follow the advice of my PT, and trust the Lord for the outcome, whatever it is.

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And so, that is a wrap on August. Praise the Lord for His faithfulness in and through it!

References:

Chinyoka, L. (2026, July 1). Why a monthly "10 list" is the key to unlocking your summer. The everygirl. https://theeverygirl.com/monthly-10-list/

Merchant, J. (2026, July 14). Tuesday things. How sweet eats. https://www.howsweeteats.com/2026/07/tuesday-things-777/

Thursday, August 27, 2026

Why Are Thursdays So Bad?


I have always had a "crash day" during my work week, a day when I come home and can do little to nothing else. A day when I will literally cry over spilled milk. A night when I can't make simple decisions. A night when I get in a spat with my husband over ridiculously minor things. For a while, that day was Wednesday, and then it moved to Thursday, as Thursdays became the actual end of my work week. (I currently work a four-ten-ish schedule.) Thursday mornings, I found myself lacking motivation. Thursday nights I found myself walking through life like a zombie. Why? From observing myself and others, I have a few theories about why Thursdays (or whatever the crash day is) are so bad:

The end of the week is like a ticking time bomb. Whatever is on the list has to be done, and the time to do it is decreasing. This creates pressure, and pressure creates stress. Stress fills up the window of tolerance* making it hard to tolerate, well, anything.

I start to process the hard stuff. When the stress finally goes down towards the end of the week, the hard stuff fills up my window of tolerance, living me little room to well, tolerate anything else. Therefore, I melt down more easily.

I am often hungry at the beginning or end of the day. This complicates everything. I am either hanxious (hungry-anxious) or hangry (hungry-angry(Cleveland Clinic, 2021; Folk, 2022). This makes things worse.

Thursdays (or whatever the end of the week is) are hard days. Maybe they don't have to be bad, though. Maybe if I change my self-care practices, and change my expectations, they'll be better.

I can attack the tasks that I can do earlier in the week, earlier. I can try to discharge early week stress sooner (eg through exercise, yoga, prayer, meditation, going to bed sooner, or what have you). I can ask my husband for extra tolerance and grace. (I am blessed in that my husband notices patterns and now gives me extra time and space on crash days.) I can make sure to feed myself before trying to do much of anything else. I can lower expectations and stop scheduling so many to-dos, social events, etc. on my crash days. 
I can put off non-urgent decisions that need to be made until later. I can give myself grace (though this last one is a hard one).

While I do often need to go to bed earlier as an act of self-care, I don't want to always end up in a puddle of tears in bed at the end of Thursday (or whatever my crash day is). I want to be functional to the extent that I can be. I want to be nice to my husband.

I am noticing my patterns. Thursdays have been bad, but they don't have to be. Here's to acting on what I know and having better, even if less expectant, ends of the work week.

*For an explanation of the window of tolerance, read "How to Help Your Clients Understand Their Window of Tolerance (
National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine, n.d.)."

References:

Cleveland Clinic. (2021, June 7) . Is being 'hangry' really a thing -- or just an excuse? https://health.clevelandclinic.org/is-being-hangry-really-a-thing-or-just-an-excuse

Folk, J. (2022, February 17). Anxiety symptoms when hungry. Anxiety Centre. https://www.anxietycentre.com/faq/anxiety-symptoms-when-hungry/

National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine. (n.d). How to help your clients understand their window of tolerance. https://www.nicabm.com/trauma-how-to-help-your-clients-understand-their-window-of-tolerance/

Monday, August 24, 2026

Contentment and Work


I have a good job. Really, I do. I work at a place with whose mission I align. I have great, supportive, believing supervisors. I like my coworkers. I am honored that people let me do what I do. And still, work does not complete me. Maybe it never will.

I have been on the hunt for purposeful work ever since college. I found purpose and mission in my undergraduate and graduate degrees, but in between, I had a job that was good, but a job that I wasn't invested in long-term. Then I had a job that was good, but didn't feel right. Then I had a job that was "too much," with 24 hour on-call and regularly required overtime. And now I have this job, the longest job I have had since graduate school.

I don't know what I want to do. I don't want to not work. I don't want to leave my job. I think I just need to learn that work is not my be-all end-all. I am complete in Christ, and in Him alone. I can be content with, and grateful for my work, because really, it shouldn't complete me. So I guess in that way, work discontent is good. It points me to the Savior. It points me to my need. It reminds me that my home is in heaven, and I "eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ" (New International Version, 2011, Phil. 3:20). Amen to that!

Reference:

New International Version. (2011). BibleGateway.com. http://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-International-Version-NIV-Bible/#booklist


Wednesday, August 19, 2026

Using Dopamine to One's Advantage

Dopamine is a powerful hormone. Some argue it's too powerful and we need to detox. Others suggest manipulating it to one's advantage. I think it's a God give receptor that we can use to motivate healthy habits and enhance life.

What is dopamine exactly? Dopamine is a neurotransmitter located in the brain, and involved in many bodily processes (Cleveland Clinic, 2022). Not only is it involved in memory, mood, movement, and sleep, but also in motivation and pleasure and reward. It is dopamine's engagement in these latter processes that get the most attention. Dopamine increases goal-directed behavior and rewards with feelings of pleasure (Ma, 2025). It enhances mood (Baron, 2024). Dopamine is going to drive people to some extent, irregardless of circumstance. So why not use it to one's advantage?

Use the reward of dopamine to reward (healthy) habits. "Dopamine is the brain's anticipation and reward chemical. It makes people want do stuff. It makes it easier to start things" says Gabriel Villarreal (Mahan, 2021). This can motivate the start of new habits like exercise, or adding new foods to one's diet. It can encourage the development of other healthy habits like mindfulness, scripture reading, or spending time with loved ones (Daugherty, 2022). Dopamine is not everything, but it is powerful, and people can use it to push themselves towards the life they want to live.

Use dopamine to increase enjoyment. "Introducing new and novel experiences can alter our perception of time, making life feel richer and longer" states Liz Moody (2024). It can increase happiness and deepen relationships. People can use the benefits of dopamine to promote memory-making and motivate intentional interactions (Chinyoka, 2026). It can help people slow down time, and relish living.

Recognize sources of "cheap" dopamine. Screen time and audio stimulation, on the other hand, can speed up time, making the brain like a hamster on a wheel (Singer, 2026). Sure, these give "quick fix" dopamine, but they don't last. When I get to the end of my life, I want my life to matter. And that requires some quite time to think, get creative, and think up some better ways to get dopamine (Daugherty, 2022). This is not necessarily about eliminating, but about adding and prioritizing.

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After a pretty tough season this summer where I lost a lot of my exercise-induced dopamine due to my running injury, I experimented with adding some novelty. I surprised my husband with special snacks in his lunchbox and a few dinners out. We went on a few special outings and trips. We explored more of the parks in our town. Yes, I also sought out cheap dopamine WAY too much via social media, sweets, etc., but I also learned the value of slower dopamine. I learned that my brain craves it, and it's up to me to get in front of that craving. Self-control wanes the longer I wait to do things, and the more tired I get, so I've started planning more novelty into my life to hopefully reduce less of that "quick hit" dopamine seeking. I hope this drives me more towards the life of joy and purpose I want to live, for my good, and God's glory.

References:

Baron, J. (2024, January 26). Friday favorites! Hungry runner girl. https://hungryrunnergirl.com/2024/01/friday-favorites-259.html#

Chinyoka, L. (2026, July 1). Why a monthly "10 list" is the key to unlocking your summer. The everygirl. https://theeverygirl.com/monthly-10-list/

Cleveland Clinic. (2022, March 23). Dopamine. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22581-dopamine

Daugherty, A.K. (2022, January 21) Psychology today. The science of novlety. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/healing-stress-from-the-inside-out/

Ma, L. (2025, November 5). Dopamine. Psychology today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dopamine

Mahan, B. [Host]. (2021, January 30). Exercise as part of the ADHD treatment plan with Gabriel Villarreal, LMHC [Audio podcast episode]. In ADHD essentials. 

Moody, L. (Host). (2024, August 26). The novelty rule: How to use my neuroscience hack that's changing millions of live. (no. 258) [Audio podcast episode]. In The Liz Moody podcast. https://www.lizmoody.com/thelizmoodypodcast-novelty-rule/

Singer, J. (2026, April 19). Why we can't sit alone with our thoughts anymore. Washington post. https://www.washingtonpost.com/home/2026/04/19/excessive-audio-use-addictive-screen-time/


Monday, August 17, 2026

The Importance of Play for Adults

How often do adults tell kids to, "Go play?" And yet, adults struggle to find time to do so themselves. Play is important, for adults, too!

Play is important for an adult's identity. So much of an adult's life focuses around work and productivity. Play is time for fun, and for the sake of fun. "Play is apparently purposeless," writes Brene Brown (2010), and maybe that is part of how it serves its purpose, to help people become more sure and certain of themselves without productivity metrics. “But play is serious. Play is absolute. Play is the complete absorption of something that doesn’t matter to the external world, but which matters completely to you," writes Katherine May (2023). And maybe play is part of the exploration involved in finding the things that really matters.

Play is important for teaching social skills. This holds true for kids and for adults. "Play shapes our brain, helps us foster empathy, helps us navigate complex social groups, and is at the core of creativity and innovation" (Brown, 2010, p. 100). How many friendships form around play, or some type of recreational activity? And how many of us subconsciously learn while engaging in this time of play? Sometimes hard things happen in play, but that teaches us to love, and to love better (Goff). It teaches us humility (Jacobson & Masonheimer, 2021). The world could use of both, I think!

Play relieves stress. The lives of both adults and kids are full of stress. Adults have just lived in the stress longer. Play helps relieve that stress because it requires giving up control. "Play and control cannot coexist," writes author Rebekah Lyons (2019). "Play...breaks us out of our stressful routines and rejuvenates us." It encourages relaxation to kick in (Richo, 2011). And we need play not just some of the time, but at expected times so as to break up our schedules. "While the stressors may not go away, we can develop a rhythm that helps us become more resilient to deal with them."  We need to organize our time such that we make time for play (Levitin, 2015). While we often see play as optional, we really shouldn't.

Play strengthens relationships. Who has heard that men make friends by doing activities side by side? Well this is true, not just for men, but for women, and for partnered individuals. “Play isn’t a luxury or an indulgence, but a necessity for a successful, happy relationship," write marriage researchers (Gottman et al., 2019). “Play don’t just about being with each other, it’s about connecting with each other. When we play together as couples, we’re developing our trust and intimacy.” We attune and connect (van der Kolk, 2015, p. 217). Who doesn't want greater trust, intimacy, and connection in relationships? That is the type of stuff that sustains!

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And how do kids learn to play? From adults! In an age that increasingly has our faces fixed to our screens, I think we could all do better to play a little more, stress a little less, and maybe face each other a little more. Who knows how future generations might benefit?

References:

Brown, B. (2010). The gifts of imperfection: Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are. Hazelden Books.

Gottman, J., Schwartz Gottman, J., Abrams, D., & Abrams, C. (2019). Eight dates: Essential conversations for a liftetime of love. Workman Publishing Company.

Jacobson, L., & Masonheimer, P. (2021). The flirtation experiment: Putting magic, mystery, and spark back into your everyday marriage. Thomas Nelson.

Levitin, D. J. (2015). The organized mind: Thinking straight in the age of information overload. Dutton.

Lyons, R. (2019). Rhythms of renewal: Trading stress and anxiety for a life of peace and purpose. Zondervan.

May, K. (2023). Enchantment: Awakening wonder in an anxious age. Riverhead Books.

Richo, D. (2011). Daring to trust: Opening ourselves to real love & intimacy. Shambhala.

van der Kolk, B. (2015). The body keeps the score: Brain, mind, and body in the healing of trauma. Penguin Books.

Sunday, August 16, 2026

Wide Open Spaces Adventure

Back to the Mogollon Rim for us this weekend! This time it was to the town of Heber/Overgaard, with a side quest to look at some property for sale. (No, we’re not in the market to buy land, but we can dream, right?)




We stopped at the Mogollon Rim Visitor Center



This time, we could see the views.


And yes, I found my husband out on a rock outcropping again!



We checked out the property (but not too much since we didn’t want to take the car too far down the gravel road). Lots of scrub brush, some free range cattle, and not too many bigger trees. There were wide open spaces, however. It was quiet, and cool (74 when it was going to be over 100 at home).



We passed through the boardwalk at Heber/Overgaard, but it wasn’t like my husband remembered, more hair salons than cool shops. It was too early for lunch, so we headed back down the hill, narrowly missing all the traffic headed back down the hill from the ASU football scrimmage at Camp T. (We didn’t know that as today, but had both worn maroon ASU shirts. Go figure!)


Maybe this wasn’t our greatest adventure, but it gave us some space. (The drive was about two and a half hours each way.) And sometimes we just need that.


*Spoiler alert: After all that driving, we found out the land we were on was actually US forest land, and not for sale. The maps just didn't take us to the right place!


The Sourdough Report:


Originally, I planned to pack breakfast and lunch for us. Then we decided to eat breakfast at home and get lunch out. In the end, we ended up back home with food I’d prepped: 


Sourdough gozleme and red peppers, cheese sticks, chocolate sourdough brownie bites and ginger soda 



And that’s it! Another Arizona adventure in the books!

Friday, August 14, 2026

Mesa Parks Adventure


We visited (almost) all the parks in mesa! It started in January 2025 as an excuse to drive our new car around. Then it became a good low cost (but fun!) date activity. And then it became an adventure to get to all 90 parks in our city. As we went along, we changed the confines of our quest, eliminating some of the aquatic and recreation centers, as well as all of the basins. Last week, we concluded our exploration with park number 80. We got to see a great bit of our city, and we learned some things along the way.


Despite being in the desert, our city has done a pretty good job of preserving land. I am not sure how the city manages to keep all the grass mowed, but I didn't see any park that was completely unkempt. (Based on what I see at the park near us, I hypothesize that the city contracts out for park care, but I cannot be sure.) Yes, some of the parks shelter some houseless people, but for the most part, they remain useable to the public. Props to the city for that.


It is easy to see which parks are older and newer, based on the park signs. Some parks still have the ancient Mesa signs. Some have the newer signs. I wonder if they will ever change all of them.


We don't think that aquatic centers and recreation centers should count as parks. Resources, yes. Parks, no. But when the summer relegates us inside, maybe these centers become the equivalent of parks? We did see people out at the parks at many hours of the day and evening.



Many parks do not have restrooms. This probably helps with upkeep. It is good to know when planning things like a picnic, though.


All in all, we enjoyed this pursuit. While the parks were our goal, we benefitted from the time spent together and learning more about our city. And as an aside a little bit of a house snob, I think I enjoyed seeing the homes around the parks almost as much as, or more than, the parks themselves.

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Readers, what quests have you taken on? Have you completed them yet? Please share in the comments!

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And if anyone cares, yes, our final park run was fueled by sourdough:


Sourdough zucchini bread (The Pantry Mama) and sourdough zucchini muffins [with cheese + chives] (The Pantry Mama) for breakfast, and a refreshing dinner of sourdough zucchini slice (The Pantry Mama) and a riff on this skinny chicken salad from The Savvy Spoon made with green pepper and onion for the veggies.



Monday, August 10, 2026

Real Life Marriage: What If?


"What if we met sooner?" I grew up hearing my dad ask my mom this question. After my husband and I got married, we started asking it, too.

"What if we had met in high school?" Would we have liked each other? "What if we met in our twenties?" Would it have worked?

Then there are the other, "What if's?" "What if my husband had gone to college in Washington?" Would he have ever moved back to Arizona? "What if I had stayed in Arkansas?" Would we have ever met?

We could, "What if?" all day long, but I am convinced that everything happened as it should. I was very caught up with myself in high school, and was definitely not emotionally, mentally, or spiritually healthy enough to get into a serious relationship. Saving faith in Jesus was a must-have for me, and my husband did not find that until later in life (but before we met, because we met at church!) My husband was not ready to go to college right after high school, and learned a lot of other skills by going straight into the workforce. I wanted and needed to move back to Arizona for some healing in my family relationships, things that needed to heal so I could be in a better position to get married. "Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end," the author of Ecclesiastes writes (New Living Bible, 2015, Ecclesiastes 3:11). I could not agree more.

I really and truly believe that God brought my husband I together at the right time. We had pretty much stopped looking for people to date, after all. But God knew. He was preparing us. He was ordered all our steps aright. We trust Him to continue to work, even as we walk forward together into a life full of future, "What if's?"

Reference:

New Living Bible. (2015). Bible gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-Living-Translation-NLT-Bible/

Sunday, August 9, 2026

Evening Roosevelt Lake Adventure

What do you do when it's nearly 110 degrees outside? Go to the lake! And not just any lake, the largest lake that exists solely within the Arizona state borders: Roosevelt Lake. I truly had no idea how big this lake was, until we drove, and drove, and drove, and still found more water (and that even with water levels being way down).


We set out from home about 3:30 PM and arrived at the lake around 5:00 PM. First, we went to the Roosevelt Bridge overlook. From the overlook, we saw the bridge (the longest of its kind in North America), a wide view of the lake, and plenty of boats! 


From there, we worked our way around to the dam overlook. (Beware, the road is barely wide enough for two cars). The dam is truly immense, and the buildings beneath it sparked our curiosity. We saw what we are pretty sure was a bald eagle land on one of the sandbars behind the dam.


After driving a bit more, we settled on one of the many recreational sites, Cottonwood Cove Picnic Area, for dinner. We looked out over the water, watched a storm roll in, and even spotted a javelina! On the way home, we drove through Miami, Superior, and Gold Canyon, and even caught up to rain storm (or it caught us)!


Could we have done other things with our evening? Sure! But this was a great way to get away, see some new scenery, and reset and refresh before the week starts again.


Curious about the sourdough? Dinner was elevated PBJs (elevated because I made the raspberry chia seed jam, upped the nutrition with Creamy protein peanut butter and put in all on sourdough sandwich bread).