Tuesday, September 29, 2026

Everything I Read in September


My goal was to finish 10 books again this month, and by God's grace, I did it. There were some good ones in here (and some not as good). Here's the list!

126. Capture the Moment by Suzanne Woods Fisher—This is a great book, on so many levels! Budding wildlife photographer Kate Cunningham escapes to Grand Teton National Park to try to capture the photo that could change the trajectory of her career. Maisie Mitchell is thrilled to be at the park with her grandfather Tim Rivers, but also follows Kate around like a shadow. Grant Cooper (“Coop”) is working as a seasonal Jenny Lake Park ranger, but also trying to heal from a broken heart. And then there’s Frankie, the NPS Director’s son, Coop’s intern, who is working through his own stuff. A delightful cast of characters, a story arc with a twist that honestly surprised me, and descriptions of beautiful scenery made this book truly a gem. I highly recommend capturing time to read this story!

127. Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun, and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rimes [Audiobook]—Writer of hit shows like Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal, Shonda Rimes had it all—only she didn’t. When her older sister said the six words, “You never say yes to anything” to her on Thanksgiving, Rimes realized that her sister was right. Terrified, Rimes decided on her birthday to say, “Yes” to everything for one year, or until she had a true breakdown. First up, a commencement speech at Dartmouth, then, “Yes” to Jimmy Kimmel, and photo shoots, and her children, and more. She learned to play and to stand up for herself. She even learned to say, “No.” She shed pounds and relationships. She learned to stand in her own beauty. While not my favorite book, I am glad I said, “Yes” to listening to this. I enjoyed the inserted recording of speeches Rimes actually gave. It was helpful to think about identity and how, saying, “Yes,” and “No” play into it. While I don’t stand with Rimes in all of her values and I wouldn’t say things the way she does, I do admire and respect her vulnerability in sharing her story. She is a unique, one-of-a-kind person, and she uses this book not only to celebrate her life, but to encourage others to do the same.

128. Embrace Your Life: How to Find Joy When the Life You Have is Not the Life You Hoped For by Elizabeth Woodson—This book was a helpful read. To me, it was less about joy and more about all the ways we turn from God: distraction, idolatry numbing etc. It is not bad to long for the life we hope for, but it is unhelpful when it clouds our ability to see God and his work in, for, and around us “Rather than seeing longing as blocking our joy,” Woodson writes, “we should see joy as a counterweight to our longing…..Joy is an emotional state of being that is both a gift from God and a mindset we choose to embody.” I am thankful to have read this book and definitely think it helped me gain some needed perspective.

129. Fire Dancer by Colleen Coble—Tess Masterson became a smokejumper after losing her parents in a tragic house fire on their ranch at the Mogollon Rim. What she didn't know was that fire was going to continue to stalk her family. When she returns home to help her sister Stevie and family, along with her foster brother Chase Huston, Tess gets caught up in the reopened investigation into that original fire, and begins to uncover secrets that have long lay buried. This book was definitely not my typical read. It was suspenseful, dramatic, and sad. There was romance, but let's just say, not the typical type. I thought I had the villain pinned, only for it to be someone else. This book had a lot to say about pain, abuse, grief, loss, and forgiveness. I enjoyed the Arizona references and learned a lot, but let's just say I won't be dancing with this type of book too often in my reading logs. Like fire, it's too intense to be near to for too long.

130. The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD [Audiobook]—This is a really approachable book, encapsulating a lot of Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson’s more detailed work in the area of neurobiology and neuroscience. The book focuses on how to help children grow their, “yes” brains through balance, resilience, insight, and empathy. The focus is less on extrinsic results and more on the internal state of the child. With accessible brain science and practical tips, this book could help many parents. I vote, “Yes” to having this book on the shelf as a resource.

131. The Rock That is Higher: Story as Truth by Madeleine L’Engle—This is not a book about theology. It is not a book about literature. It is not a book about writing. It is not a science textbook. It is not a memoir. It is a little bit about all of these, but mostly about God, “the rock that is higher,” and L'Engle's relationship to Him. In this book, L'Engle shares her views about various theological issues (and I must say, I don't agree with where she stands, but she acknowledges her divergence from standard theology in the book). She quotes not only her own works, but those of other writers. She discusses her interest in physics. She shared details of her recovery from a near fatal car accident at age 72. She encourages love and care for self and others. This was not a terrible book, and it definitely had some quotes worth requoting. I found it kind of dull and monotonous to read, however, and for that reason, along with her questionable theology, other Christian living books would definitely be higher on my recommendation list.

132. Even After This by Deborah Clack—Texas widow Meredith Harper takes a trip to Colorado to get away from her grief. What she does not expect to find is the will to live again. This is a multi-layered story, from Meredith’s complex grief, to the codependency of her sister Molly, to the wrestling with legacy that actor Harlan Harlowe endures. While not overtly Christian, themes of love, redemption, and trust run deeply through the story. Meredith has to decide if she will allow others to love her, if she will love herself. She has to ask if she will dare to dream again, even after so many of her dreams turned to ash. This book is an emotional one, but in the most meaningful ways. While this book is a piece of fiction, it is also a work of art. Be forewarned, reading it will probably result in some real-life soul searching, however.

133. The Fourth Quarter of Your Life: Embracing What Matters Most by Allen Hunt and Matthew Kelley—Somehow when I read the title of this book, I missed the word “quarter,” and thought this book was about the forth decade of life, and since I am almost there, I thought it would be appropriate to read. Well, misread title or not the book was apt for me in this season of life. It encouraged assessment of life, living with intentionality, and leaving a legacy. While I might not be towards the end of my predicted lifespan, these are all things that I need to do. I want to live a life that matters, and I have a long way to get there, and less time than I think until I reach my actual forth quarter.

134. Holy Disruptor: Shattering the Shiny Facade by Getting Louder with the Truth [Audiobook] by Amy Duggar King—“Crazy cousin Amy,” as she was known on the hit show 19 and Counting, might actually be one of the clearest seeing ones of the bunch. In this book, she recounts her years of growing up in a household of domestic violence, her attraction to the “perfect” looking family of her Uncle Jim-Bob Duggar, and how she separated from the Duggars after realizing how un-shiny their lives actually were. She names her own flaws and faults. She talks about the generational curses she is trying to break in her family. She calls out her uncle and family for not getting Josh Duggar or her cousins help when the first of his immoral actions came out. She writes about overcoming trauma, and clinging to Jesus, her perfect Prince of Peace in the storm. This book may be hard to read (or listen to, as in my case), but it is a true testimony. I commend King for her bravery in writing and sharing it.

135. Some Like it Scot by Pepper Basham—This might be a rom-com, but it's got some depth! Travel writer Katie Campbell goes to Mull, Scotland for an “Edwardian experience" at Craigshill House. Attacked by a parrot, she falls, getting caught by Scot Graeme MacKerrow, a grumpy tradesman whose family also happens to own the house. Grumpy though he may be, this is not the only time Graeme rescues Katie from her misadventures. While doing so (and serving as the house butler), he discovers that Katie is kind, caring, and anything by unattractive and unloveable, as she seems to believe. Katie, meanwhile, begins to fall in love with Mull, it's people, and Graeme's family. She starts to face some of the dysfunctions of her own family back “home” and think about what it might look like to have a true home of her own. This is a book about grief and identity and love. It's silly and sweet and apt to produce both chuckles and happy/sad tears from its readers. Some don't like rom-cons, and those some sometimes include me, but count me out on not liking this one. I liked it a lot!

136. The Correspondent by Virginia Evans—This novel is truly a work of art! Written in epistolary style, it tells the life story of retired law clerk Sybil Stone van Antwerp and her many acquaintances and relationships via letters. There are her children Bruce and Fiona, her young pen pal Harry, her neighbor Theodore, her best friend Rosalie and more. Each of her letters to them are different—in tone and in style, but also fully engrossing. The letters see Sybil mourning the too early death of her son Gilbert, the loss of her sight, her discovery of unknown letters, and more. There is a little bit of language and politics some might like, but otherwise this is a soothing, honest, and real look at life—at the things that really matter, as well as the things that don’t. It’s about seeing clearly, even as eyesight fails. This book deserved a mention in The Skimm (where it first came to my attention), and I think it’s definitely worth bringing to the attention of other readers, especially those like me, who like Sybil, have begun asking the existential questions about life and what really matters.

137. This is Not About Running: A Memoir by Mary Cain [Audiobook]—Wow, this was a rough one! After reading Kara Goucher’s book, I already did not like Nike. This made me more upset with the company as a whole, but really, this book brings light to the whole dark side of not only running, but amateur sports. Cain writes in the introduction that this book is not about running, but about how sports normalizes the abuse of young athletes. To that end, Cain does not shy away from calling out big names in the running world, from her now banned coach Alberto Salazar to teammates like Galen RuppJordan Hasay, Matt Centrowitz, Shannon Rowbury and more. (She refuses to list the names of minor athletes.) She also calls out athletes like Shalene Flanagan for unkindness towards her. Basically, Cain was a phenom as a youth runners and was bullied. Alberto Salazar started coaching her, but he emotionally and mentally abused her (and perhaps sexually, too). Cain became severely depressed, to the point of suicidal thoughts. After a litany of injuries and literally not being able to use her leg anymore, Cain left running. In 2019, she got diagnosed with what is now know as REDS (Relative Energy Deficiency in Sport), further adding to her struggles. After Alberto Salazar got yet another ban, Cain wrote an op ed piece she thought would go nowhere, but that essay exploded. And then she wrote this book. As Cain shares, she maybe started sharing her story too early into her healing journey, and as such, this book is raw and vulnerable. In the audiobook, listeners literally hear her emotion. Cain states that she believes no one has a right to victim’s stories, but that she is telling hers in hopes of saving at least one youth for experiencing the horrors that she did. While this is not the way that I would tell such as story, the point is that this is Cain’s story, and this is the not about running story she wants to share.

138. You’re the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women’s Friendships by Deborah Tannen—This was more qualitative research than anything—stories about friendship and its effects, but relayed in a very academic manner. I guess I expected a little more “how-to” or “what-to-do” about friendships from this book. Oh well. It did normalize, and put words to, some of the dynamics of women’s friendships, and for that I am grateful.

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Has anyone one read any of these books? Please share in the comments below if so!


Monday, September 28, 2026

LESS Complaining



I had to do a few deep dives to get here. I wanted to complain less, but also wanted to be able to express, rather than suppress struggles. As I did some study, I found that the sin the Bible talks about in relation to complaining is grumbling and discontent (Got Questions, n.d.). The healthy, godly way to deal with tough times is to take them to the Lord in prayer for help, to trust God, and to believe that He will take care of things. So with that, I wrote Philippians 2:14-15 on my to-do list every day and sought to find a grateful perspective for a least two "bad" things that happened each day.

“Do everything without complaining and arguing, so that no one can criticize you. Live clean, innocent lives as children of God, shining like bright lights in a world full of crooked and perverse people” (New Living Translation, Philippians 2:14-15).

My husband says I am a pessimist, and I always argued with him that I was a realist. Well, maybe he is right. The more I tried to see the sunny side, the more I realized that as 1 Thessalonians 5;16 commands, there really is a reason to give thanks in all things, even things I don't like. I might not like walking uphill on the treadmill, but it did allow me to read some good books while on it. The commute to work may be long, but at least I was not sidelined with a blown out tire. Work stress might stress me out, but at least I have a job. I might not be running as much as I would like, but I am running again. I had a lot to do before our vacation, but we got to take a two week vacation. What a privilege.

The Lord is really working on my heart, friends. I have a long way to go, but praise the Lord, there is MORE than enough of His grace and mercy and strength to carry me through. 

"Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; he will neither fail you nor abandon you." (Deuteronomy 31:8).

References:

Got Questions. (n.d.). What does the Bible say about complaining? https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-complaining.html

New Living Translation. (2015). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-Living-Translation-NLT-Bible/

Sunday, September 27, 2026

The More of Less Report (September)


This was not a month of less (or was it)? Well, let's just say it was not a month of less when it comes to minimalism. We bought a new fridge, a new dishwasher, a new fridge/freezer, and a ceiling fan. And a suitcase. And a raincoat. And a rolling desk. And... Let's just say our savings budget was not sitting pretty.

Did we need the fridge and dishwasher and ceiling fan? Yes. All of those items broke. Did we need the other things? Yes, and no. We could have made do without, but we decided they would enhance our lives. And so we bought more.

I also bought shower poufs, and soap bags (things we only buy periodically, but happen to be needed now). I bought nail wraps (just because I wanted to try them). I bought, bought, bought....

And then we went on vacation, and we bought, bought, bought....

But my LESS word wasn't just about minimalism. It was about finding MORE life. And a lot of these purchases were about life, and enjoying life. I've heard it said that balance is elusive, but there are seasons. This latter half of the year seems to be turning into a MORE season, which praise the Lord, is what I hoped for in the first place.

January-LESS scrolling: I have been on social media MORE, but in part to watch new content from my friend. She is doing a lot of work about biblical apologetics and living by the word. You can follow her @NuNuChand_Perspective and @DailyHis_.

February-LESS picking:
Maybe this is better? I have been MORE busy with life, so at least noticing it less.

March-LESS hunger (judgment): I did kind of go through a few weeks where I was concerned about how much I was eating and trying to cut back a little, but then I got to running MORE and was MORE hungry, so increased my intake again. I am still not confident in how much I am eating, or in my body, but I am trying to focus MORE on other things.

April-LESS goals: I did have MORE goals for this month, but by God's grace, they were kind of manageable? Completing my pumpkin baking bucket list before we left for vacation resulted in some stress, but again, by God's grace, I got it done!

May-LESS no: I did say, "No," a little MORE. Sometimes, I think I should have said, "Yes," but other times, "No" felt right. I need the Spirit's help to say, "Yes" and "No" to the right things. I am so fallen and fickle and yes, I want to tune in MORE to my intuition, but if not guided by the Spirit, I am going to fall more prey to the sinful nature.

June-LESS lying to myself: I started a new habit this month of making a priority list for the day. While I have my daily to-do lists, they are long, and sometimes I forget things. So, I started making a priority list and making sure to get it done. That I did MORE days than not, but it also caused stress and a sprint to the finish before bed on some nights, not the best.

July-LESS fear: Several things sparked fear this month, specifically in regards to running-seeing others injured, small pricks of pain, soreness, etc. I don't want to stop running just because I am afraid, though, so with the help of my physical therapist, I slowly kept moving through my return to run program. Twice, I got to run for 40 minutes-not near what I used to do, but definitely far MORE than I was doing!

August-LESS scarcity: The crazy-amazing part of this LESS journey is how much the mindset challenges have worked. That is totally a work of the Lord! I went through so much scarcity mindset for most of this year, and then when we needed (and wanted) to buy all this stuff, I was like, "Okay." Maybe it was partly due to being close to our trip and seeing that we might have what we needed saved for it. Maybe it was the daily practice of gratitude that started getting engrained in my brain. I don't know. But praise the Lord for MORE freedom in this area.

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Three more months to go. What will the Lord do? Praise Him for whatever MORE He has in store!

Friday, September 18, 2026

Test the Spirits

We live in the age of information. It comes at us from left and right, top and bottom. Family, friends, news, and social media all deliver information to us. It is important to filter this information. For believers, I think it is important to not only filter, but to "test the spirits" to see if they come from God (New International Version, 2011, 1 John 4:1). Here are a few questions to consider-

When filtering information, ask:

Is this true? (If it is not true, why are we even entertaining it?)

If it is true, what is the evidence? (Not just anecdotal evidence, but real, empirical, documented evidence)

Is this helpful? (It might be true, but if it is not helpful, can we put it aside? We could save the information for later, or just decide the information is not for us.)

When testing the spirits, ask:

Does this align with the truth of the Bible? (Some truth is values neutral, neither aligning with truth, or with untruth. This takes us back to the question, "Is it helpful?")

Is this worth thinking about? [Philippians 4:8 says to think about "whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (New International Version, 2011).]

Does it align with hope? (Goff, 2019) If it's not hopeful information, is it from God? God certainly gives warnings, but are not even those to point us to Him?

I am sure there are more questions that could (and probably should be) asked, but the point is that I think we need to question the onslaught of information coming at us each day, not cynically, but wisely, and prayerfully. I don't want to be duped, and I also don't want to be "blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming" (Ephesians 4:14). Let's stand on (and in) truth, friends!

References: 

Goff, B. (2019). Live in grace. Walk in love. A 365 day journey. Nelson Books.

New International Version. (2011). BibleGateway.com. http://www.biblegateway.com/versions/New-International-Version-NIV-Bible/


Wednesday, September 16, 2026

Divine Design


Divine Design

By Sarah Earles


In others I see

a reflection 

of God’s divine design:

His work,

His handiwork,

details marvelous and fine.


But do I see 

in me that same

reflecting of glory?

Or do I see 

only my sin

its destruction so gory?


Yes, sin is real.

We all need to repent.

But even sin can’t steal 

God image 

and God-reflection.

It just mars and tarnishes.


So, God help me see

Your reflection 

in others and in me:

Not the sin,

but the glory,

Of what in you I can be.


Help me to reflect

not the ill

but the good,

to a world in need

of more God-image

and Christ-directed work.


References: 


Crabb, L. (2005). Connecting: Healing ourselves and our relationships. Thomas Nelson.


Tollet, S. (Host). (2025, February). When you feel insecure (faith-based & practical guide). [Audio podcast episode]. Fit to live. https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/sydneytollett/episodes/when-you-feel-insecure-faith-based--practical-guide-e2uph5i

Monday, September 14, 2026

A Different Take on the "Let Them" Theory


Mel Robbin's "Let Them" theory was really big for a while. She even wrote a 2024 book about it. I have a different take on the idea.

"Let them" for Mel Robbins is mostly about releasing control. Let other people have their opinions. Let them do things their own way. Stop trying to manage them and what they think of you (Robbins, 2023). Stay in your own lane. Do your own thing. This is probably a gross oversimplification, but having not read the book, this is my understanding of the theory.

So what is my take on the theory? I apply it to expectations and FOMO (fear of missing out). "Let them" do all the things. I release the expectation that I can, should, or have to do all the things. I personality don't even want to do all the things!

So "let them" go on that trip, spend all their money, work extra hours at the office, stay out late at night. I am not missing out. I am living within my values. (And maybe they are too, but that doesn't mean I need to compare myself to them.) I don't need to catch up or keep up. Rather, I want to live within my limits and be faithful in the small things (Comer, 2019). Maybe this area of personal responsibility is where I actually agree with Robbins. Let me do me and whatever God is calling me to do. For me, that is what counts, and for me, what counts is all that matters.

References:

Comer, J.M. (2019). The ruthless elimination of hurry: How to stay emotionally healthy and spiritually alive in the chaos of the modern world. WaterBrook.

Robbins, M. (Host). (2023, May 28). The “Let them theory”: A life changing mindset hack that 15 million people can’t stop talking about. (no. 70) [Audio podcast episode]. In The Mel Robbins show. https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-70/

Robbins, M. (2024). The let them theory: A life-changing tool that millions of people can't stop talking about. Hay House.


Thursday, September 10, 2026

Real Life Marriage: Behind Every Standing Woman



"Behind every good man is a good woman," or so the saying goes. Maybe, but I am here to say that I think behind every standing woman, there is someone propping them up. For me, that is my husband.

These past few months have been quite the roller coaster, physically, emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. Pain limited my capabilities and capacities. I grieved lost opportunities, as well as the (hopefully temporary) loss of my sport. I had many, many days, where I just wanted to throw in the towel, quit my physical therapy program, and either sit in a heap and cry, or just go out for a long, long, run knowing I'd break myself again.

Thankfully, my husband talked me out of all of my extreme ideas. I did cry, but he also took me to places like the rose garden and the Mogollon Rim to get my mind of what I couldn't do and onto what I could. He told me he still found me beautiful on days when my clothes didn't fit like they used to and I just felt awful in my body. He reminded me that I had hired experts to help them, and I needed to follow their advice.

It hasn't just been through this injury that my husband has supported me, though. I have an emotionally and mentally taxing job, and he's the one putting dinner on the table most nights. He's often getting our groceries when I feel too spent to retrieve them. He's the one telling me my value after I've been chewed out or berated by yet another person who is dsyregulated. He's the one giving me an out if/when I need to take a break from this line of work.

Women tend me to more emotional than men, and hi, I am that woman. I need my husband's steadiness to keep me grounded. I need his savings on days when the waves of life threaten to undo me. Behind this standing woman is one very strong man. I wouldn't be who I am today without him, and after this summer especially, I'm not sure I'd be standing without him. 

Wednesday, September 9, 2026

Life is All About Change



I always think that the next change will "fix" things: the move to college, graduation, my first job, finishing my master's, moving back to Arizona, getting back into my field, marriage, husband's graduation, a seasonal change. But none of it ever does. It just...changes things.

And even if/when I am comfortable with the changes happening in my life, there are the changes of others. Friends moving and changing seasons. Friends having babies. Friends getting married, and unfortunately divorced. Siblings changing. Parents changing. Family moving closer or further away. It just keeps happening.

Life is all about change. I don't think I will ever get used to it. I am not sure I will ever completely make peace with it, but I need to work on it, until heaven when there is no more change. Praise Jesus for that hope!

Monday, September 7, 2026

Stages of Waiting

People talk about stages of grief, but what about stages of waiting? (Maybe there is some grief in there, too?). The anxiety, the prayer, the trying to make peace, the tiredness, and then maybe an answer, or not. As I endured yet another period of waiting, I was thinking more about all of these periods.

Scripture says not to be anxious, but I struggle with that. When I am waiting, my first response is to feel to feel on edge, to feel as if I cannot stand to wait for an answer. "Do not be anxious about anything," God's Word says, but I feel tense, impatient, and frustrated (English Standard Version, 2019, Philippians 4:6). Then I realize I missed what should be the first step on waiting.

So, I revert to what I should have done. I pray, fervently, often, sometimes begging, pleading, and demanding. I "by prayer and supplication...let [my] requests be made known to God (Phil 4:6). It is good to go to God with my requests, to be like the persistent widow (Luke 18). Demanding, however, is not a positive behavior. It is thinking I know better than God, and I certainly do not.

Then there is the praying to wait well. I have prayed for the thing. God knows. Then I need to wait, to learn, to watch.

As I watch, I wonder if God will surprise us, me. I begin to hope, maybe expect. But still no answer comes.

I try to start making peace with the process. I pray to accept whatever God has for us. I try to start finding contentedness in the here and now, even if nothing changes. "With thanksgiving" I try to make my requests known to God (Phil 4:6). It is hard, but all I can do at the moment.

Eventually, in my humanity, I grow weary. I just want an answer. But the Word says not to grow weary in doing good, and I need to wait well, for God's good, and my glory (Galatians 6:9). And that pretty much resets the cycle all over again.

Oh, the struggle it is to wait, and to wait well. So many stages. So many phases. How I need the Lord's help.

Reference:

English Standard Version. (2019). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com/versions/English-Standard-Version-ESV-Bible/#copy

Friday, September 4, 2026

Pressing Reset

I am a pretty emotional person, and as such, I get bent out of shape easily. I would like to say I bend, but don't break, but that is not really true either. I bend, and I break...down. I am learning to accept this about myself, even if I don't like it, because try as I might, it just always seems to happen. What I can control (as my husband always reminds me) is what I do with my emotions. Thankfully, with the Lord's help (and a lot of therapy and a lot of support from others), I am learning what it looks like to reset.

1. I cry. Crying releases some chemicals from the body, which might help re-regulate afterward (Murube, 2009). Sometimes I just need to let things out. 

2. I release my emotions through some kind of physical movement. Most often, this looks like a walk, but sometimes it is push-ups or stair climbing. This releases stress and increases endorphins (Hanley-Defoe, 2025). Moving my body outside has the benefit of resetting my setting, which can also help my brain.

3. I read my Bible or a devotional. Sometimes I just need a shift in perspective (Shannon, n.d.). I need to reset in the Word.

4. I pray. Sometimes I can do this, and sometimes I can't. Sometimes, it looks like a breath prayer, or as in one recent instance, saying "Lord, I'm so angry" over and over again (Tucker, 2025). The Lord knows. The Lord hears.

5. I actually reset and tell myself to restart the day (even late in the day). Self-talk does have an effect (Goldsmith, 2022). I try to redeem the time I have left. 

I am far from perfect. I still need a lot of work, but thankfully with the Lord's help, I am learning. Pressing reset works a little better, a little more often, and a little faster.

References:

Goldsmith, B. (2022). The benefits of positive self-talk. Psychology today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/202205/the-benefits-of-positive-self-talk

Hanley-Defoe. (2025, March 26). 7 small ways to regulate and reset your nervous system. Psychology today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/everyday-resilience/202503/7-small-ways-to-reset-and-regulate-your-nervous-system

Murube, J. (2009). Hypotheses on the development of psychoemotional tearing. The ocular surface 7(4), 171-175. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1542-0124(12)70184-2.

Shannon, S. A. (n.d.). What does a reset in the Bible look like? Families with grace. https://familieswithgrace.com/what-does-a-reset-in-the-bible-look-like/.

Tucker, J. (2025, August 21). Breath prayer: An ancient practice to calm anxiety and strengthen your faith. Best self media holistic health & conscious living. https://bestselfmedia.com/breath-prayer/

Wednesday, September 2, 2026

The Power of the Shower

"I do my best thinking in the shower." Someone said to me recently. I could not agree more. There is just something about a shower that is relaxing, resetting, and reinvigorating.

Showers help promote relaxation. Warm water can help relieve muscle soreness (USA Sunny Showers, 2023).  Cold water, on the other hand can help reduce inflammation and improve mood (UCLA Health, 2023). The sound of water itself is thought to be soothing (Thoma et al., 2018). Many people use pleasantly scented bath products in the shower. Showering is often a time for practicing self-care and self-compassion (Connolly, ). In all of these ways, showering is kind of an all-in-one relaxation package.

Showers can help reset as well. With novel sensory stimuli, they can help to reset the sensory system and reduce stress (Moody, 2026). Changing location changes stressors, so just moving the body to get to the shower helps reset (Neff, 2022). Being in the shower also refreshes and helps provide perspective.

Sometimes insights come in the shower. Maybe it is because of the relaxation. Maybe it is the rest. Or maybe it is simply being away from all the noise and stimuli of everyday life. Besides the water (unless people listen to music during a shower), the shower is a place of quiet, something rare to find these days (Calm, n.d.). Maybe, as Emily Solberg (n.d.) states, this is why "best ideas come...in the shower." There's just something about it.

Obviously, showers do not fix everything, but there is something about them. Maybe try one today? (But if you have sensory struggles and hate showering, maybe find another way to relax, reset, and reinvigorate?)

References:


Calm. (n.d.). The benefits of silence and how to create a quiet time ritual. https://www.calm.com/blog/benefits-of-silence. 


Connolly, J. (Host). (2024, January 28). 10 ways to chase down joy. (no. 240 [Audio podcast episode]. In The Jess Connolly podcast. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-24-10-ways-to-chase-down-joy/id1437912225?i=1000643319406


Moody, L. (Host). (2026, February 16). How to instantly reset your brain (when everything feels like too much) (n. 401) [Audio podcast episode]. In The Liz Moody podcast. https://www.lizmoody.com/thelizmoodypodcast-reset/


Neff, A. (2022, August 1). Nervous system reset: 13 effective ways to reset your nervous system. Neurodivergent insights. https://neurodivergentinsights.com/13-ways-to-reset-your-nervous-system/?srsltid=AfmBOop_jar3YfqqX5u2cfdeTL97v2dj5sk9wvYm7ilmlfY5MGpyO1wQ


Solberg, E. (n.d.). About. Shower arguments with Emily Solberg. https://showerarguments.substack.com/about


Thoma, M. V., Mewes, R., & Nater, U. M. (2018). Preliminary evidence: the stress-reducing effect of listening to water sounds depends on somatic complaints: A randomized trial. Medicine, 97(8), e9851. https://doi.org/10.1097/MD.0000000000009851


UCLA Health. (2023, January 25). 6 cold shower benefits to consider. https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/6-cold-shower-benefits-consider

USA Sunny Showers. (2023, October 25). The healing benefits of water: How showering benefits your health. Sunny showers USA. 
https://sunnyshowerusainc.com/blogs/sunny-shower/the-healing-power-of-water-how-showering-benefits-your-health