Friday, May 31, 2024

Everything I Read in May

I started this month strong with two very educational books. I ended the month with quite a few fiction flings. I intended to read short, easy books, because well, that is where my attention span is at this point in life. Instead, I found myself in some more intense reads. Oh well. That is how life goes sometimes. With that quick explanation, here's my reading list for the month:

27) The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship by Nate Kemp, PhD and Kaley Kemp—I will start by saying this is NOT a Christian marriage book. For this reason, I initially hesitated to read it, as I believe that God created and designed marriage. Still, the book kept coming to my attention, so I got into it. Let me say that I was pleasantly surprised! Though not believers, the authors make a very positive case for marriage. They even reference several Christian marriage experts without being pejorative. What the authors suggest, a generous, team attitude towards marriage, is not necessarily new, but they present it in a fresh way. They describe this type of generosity as radical, or each giving 80%. The book addresses appreciation, barriers to teamwork, risks of overcontributing, resentment, and more. The practices the authors present to work towards radical generosity are accessible, and the goals attainable. Overall, this was an encouraging, refreshing read, not from professionals, but from a real life couple whose practice of the principles, they claim, both saved and preserves their marriage.

28) I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of their Time by Laura Vanderkam—In this book, Laura Vanderkam, author of the time management book 168 hours, follows the time logs of women making over $100,000 a year, trying to figure out how they do life, and work at the same time. Vanderkam shows how the choices the women make reflect their priorities, and she encourages readers to consider their own time logs and what priorities those show. In the end, she encourages readers to consider time from a perspective of abundance, rather than scarcity. “Work and life are not in opposition,” she concludes. “When you view time from a perspective of abundance, there is space for career, relationship, and self, too,” that is if the person prioritizes. While I did not take specific tips away from this book, it was interesting to read, and it did encourage me to consider my own priorities, so on those notes, it was worth my time.

29) Blessed Bouquets by Lyn Cote, Lenora Worth, and Penny Richards—Jo, Elizabeth, and Hannah make a pact never to marry. Each of them experienced the devastation of their father leaving, and Hannah lost her high school love to an accident. In this triple novella, though, they begin to reconsider. In Wed by a Prayer, Jo falls for a curmudgeonly bachelor, Bram. She learns about the real reason her father left, because of the stigma of mental illness, and out of love. Elizabeth falls for developer Jake Clark in The Dream Man, but not before needing to do some of her own work making peace with her past. The series concludes with Small-Town wedding, which wraps up Hannah's story as she heals from grief and learns to love once more. Though not without flaws in their plot lines, these stories did include a few twists and turns that kept me reading. The tender coverage of topics common to man, but often ill-portrayed in fiction (eg family counseling) refreshed me. I would say this is worth the read!

30) Life in Defiance by Mary E. DeMuth—Ouisie Pepper is a pastor's wife, but a disgraced one at that. She grew up with abuse, and married into it, too, though she hopes that people do not notice. Ouisie bears many secrets: the abuse, her alcoholism, and knowing the killer that is loose in town. Reading this book is an intriguing as it is intense. Told from both Ouisie's perspective and the third-person perspective of the killer, the story is intricate and fascinating. Characters are rich and lessons to be gleaned, many. This book is not for the faint of heart, but for those who enjoy stories heavy in redemption, this is one!

31) Daring to Hope by Katie Davis Majors—From the author of Kisses from Katie comes this expose about hope, about false, idealistic hope, compared with the true, eternal hope found in God. In the book, Katie weaves together stories from her life with the spiritual truth she has learned from them. This is an inspiring, encouraging, and sometimes tear-jerking read. For those who dare to partake, prepare to be convicted by the wisdom of young Katie’s words.

32) Second Chance Summer by Irene Hannon—Looking for a summer beach read? This might be it! Rachel Shaw is visiting her Aunt Eleanor for a break from teaching. Jack Fletcher, aka “Fletch,” is helping is Gram, who broke her wrist. Both are hurting, and their loved ones know it, perhaps even more than they do. When Aunt Eleanor and Gram try to set Rachel and Fletch up, they eventually fight it. As their attraction grows for one another, however, they face major hurdles from their past. This is a sweet story about forgiveness, redemption, and love. With a few subplots and story twists, this is one of the better short Christian romances I have read in a while. Readers who normally eschew the Love Inspired novellas might want to give the series a second chance after reading this one!

33) Saving Gracie by Kristen Ethridge—Gracie Garcia runs an ESL school, and of course she ends up falling for Jake Peoples, the interim CEO of a company trying to rezone the school area to make room for condos. There is more to the story than that, though: themes of family, love, legitimacy, purpose, and more. There are a few twists and turns in this story, and in the end, it is not really just about saving Gracie's school, but about redeeming legacy and focusing on what really matters.

34) A Heart Healed by Jennifer Johnson—Callie Dawson left Tennessee with a broken heart to care for ailing family. She went on to become a hospice nurse, serving dying patients and their families. All the while, she needed healing herself, and when she got the change to go back and work at her surrogate family's bed and breakfast, she jumped at it. What she did not know were the layers of healing that would need to happen for her heart, both to heal from the past, and to move forward into the future. This is a sweet read, one in which the twist of the plot resolves a bit too quickly, but for a quick fiction read when I was tired, this was honestly kind of nice, since the tale did not have to tug on my heartstrings too quickly.

35) Wildflowers from Winter by Katie Ganshert—Katie Ganshert has a way with words, and a way with stories, and this is such a poignant one! Craftily weaving together the past and present of Architect Bethany Quinn, along with subplots about Bethany's friend Robin and Robin's brother-in-law, the farmer Evan Price, this is a gorgeous story of pain, tragedy, loss, and redemption. It is a tale of faith loss and faith regained, of fear and freedom and love. The depth and breadth of the story are truly amazing. I cannot say enough good things about the colors of beauty in this book. Pick it up soon!

36) What the Heart Knows by Margaret Daley—Dr. Jared Matthew’s lost both his brother and his wife in tragic accidents. Kathleen Somers experienced the death of her husband, and now she is trying not to lose her son, Mark. Dr. Matthew is trying to help her, but in the process, both have some healing to do. This book covers some tough stuff, like addiction and mental illness. I honestly did not expect it to land so heavily on my heart, though the author covers them with a lot of knowledge and grace (perhaps because she was a special education teacher.) This is a good book, but if you are looking for a light, beach summer read, this is not it.

Wednesday, May 29, 2024

The "Maybe" Simplified Life


Our schedule has been anything but simple this month. With big celebrations, family visits, and lots of social engagements, there has been a lot of not even being at home. Still, I labor towards the goal of simplification, or at the least, prioritization.

I wanted to be present with family when they visited us, so I simplified food by prepping ahead and freezing. That led to more complexities on the front side (planning, shopping, packaging, etc.), but less in the moment, as I needed only to thaw and reheat to feed our guests.

I have had a lot of random ingredients I ended up overbuying. Since I still want to zero sum budget extraneous grocery items, I have ended up cooking big batches of the same recipe until the ingredient is gone. Sure, it is not the most creative use of ingredients, but it simplifies things. Win.

I still find myself overthinking things, whether menus or meal plans, or daily exercise, or scheduling. I am trying to stick with original decisions as much as possible (eg when it comes to meal choices) and actually listen to my intuition (eg with scheduling) instead of squashing it. That is not exactly a simple process, but it focuses on what matters.

My husband has finished school, which both simplifies and complicates things. He has more time, but that means more choices about what to do. It makes his activities a little more various and hard to predict (not like school and homework were predictable, either). It also makes my duties and responsibilities a little less clear in the home.

As another month passes, do I have a simpler life? Maybe, maybe not. I am learning that life ebbs and flows, and that I constantly need to adjust to focus on what is important. For May, that was family and celebration. What will June bring? We shall see.

Saturday, May 25, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 21)

        

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Lunches:

Beets and cottage cheese
Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot) and salsa

Mexican-style brown rice meal bowls (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)

Red flannel skillet hash (Betty Crocker)

Dinners:

Grilled chicken cordon bleu sandwich (The Cookie Rookie)
No-knead pan pizza (Budget Bytes)
Quick bolognese (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)
Pad kee mao (Lite Cravings)
Spinach, Swiss, and mushroom pizza (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker) on no-yeast pizza dough (Budget Bytes)

Snacks:

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Beets
Deli shaved ham
Quick bolognese (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)
Jalapeno
Parboiled potatoes

Fridge:


Basil
Bag of carrots
Cottage cheese
Package of deli shaved chicken
Old eggs
Green onions
Guacamole cups
Hoisin sauce (finally!)
Head of leaf lettuce

Old half gallon of milk
Old bag of onions
Peanut butter frosting
Package of sliced Swiss cheese
Red pepper
Rice noodles

Pantry:

Can of beets

Can of corned beef
Box of macaroni pasta

Can of mushrooms
Rigatoni pasta

What went bad:

Part of an onion (but I used some and composted the rest, so technically, zero waste)

What I Prepped for Next Week: 

Monday, May 20, 2024

Afghan 80

How have I gotten to 80 afghans? I've been crocheting since sixth grade (and making baby afghans shortly thereafter). That's how!

This blanket was of medium difficulty. It combined double crochet and single crochet stitches, as well as some front and back post work. I had a little trouble keeping the edges even. (In the end, though, who notices?) The blanket also curled some, which I see now in the pattern, I could have taken some steps to fix, but I will attempt to correct via blocking. I changed colors at alternate times, making color chunks of various size, which I quite like. All in all, I liked the way this turned out: thick, and dense, with some texture that hopefully baby will love!

Hook: size J Boye ergonomic crochet hook

Yarn:

I Love This Yarn! turquoise

Red Heart soft white

Red Heart light gray

Pattern: Alpine blanket (Yarn Hook Needle)

Finished size: 32 x 53 inches (larger than the pattern, but partially due to the fact that I extended my rows to make the last gray and white chunks of color match in size).

Saturday, May 18, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 20)

 


What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Lunches:

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot) and salsa

Egg salad and turkey and Swiss cheese andwiches on sandwich bread (Sally's Baking Addiction)
Shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot)
Baby Swiss and turkey sandwiches on sandwich bread (Sally's Baking Addiction)

Dinners:

Broccoli, corn on the cob, and grilled chicken
Orecchiette shells with hamburger bolognese (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)

Snacks:

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Dried pears
Sandwich bread (Sally's Baking Addiction)

Fridge:

Broccoli
Cauliflower
Celery
Corn on the cob
Fresh broccoli
Mayonnaise

Head of Romaine lettucez

Salsa
Sriracha
Strawberries


Pantry:


All the ripe bananas
Potatoes
Saltine crackers

What went bad:

A little bit of the lettuce (fortunately I saved the rest)

What I Prepped for Next Week: 

What I Froze for Future Me:


Sliced celery


One serving of orechiette

Parboiled potatoes for hash

Sliced strawberries for a smoothie

Sunday, May 12, 2024

Dearest Momma

Dearest Momma,

Though I may not be exactly like you, I like you! I know I blew you off more than a few times when I was a teenager (especially on that one college visit), and it hurt you deeply. That was more about me and my identity development than you, but I am sorry. You have done many great things in life. You are great, and I love and respect you!

I can barely keep up my household of two. I will never know how you kept a family of five going. I know I saw you tired, but you never gave up, even when you went through bouts of illness.

You are still sharp as a tack when it comes to medical stuff. I got so, so annoyed when we would go to the doctor as kids, only to have them diagnose us with what you already knew we had. I 100% believe you could have gone farther in your medical career, but you chose to mother us instead. Thank you for making that sacrifice!

I learned so much about budgeting and efficiency and saving money from you. I may do it in different ways than you, but the savvy, as well as the celebration for it definitely come from you. Thank you!

You have hung on through many difficult things in life: caring for dying patients, caretaking for family, taking flack for lots of things that are not your fault. Again, I have seen you tired, but turning to the Lord for strength and patiently enduring life's trials.

I know I hated hiking as a kid, but I treasure our hikes together now. I did not always want to look like you, but now I will be very glad if I age as well as you have. While I once questioned your classic style, now I get it. Yes to simplicity! I made fun of your floor rags and masking tape labels, but now I do the same. I am sure there are many other things I will start to do like you as I age. That's what happens when you have a good example of a mother.

Dearest Momma, I may not be just like you, but I am becoming like you, and I'm not at all upset about it. I am proud that you are my mother, and thankful and grateful to God to call myself your daughter. I love you!

Happy Mother's Day!

Saturday, May 11, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 19)


What I Used of My Meal Plan-

No-knead pan pizza (Budget Bytes)

Orecchiette shells with hamburger bolognese (Good Housekeeping Family Italian Cookbook)

Pizza stuffed potatoes (Twice baked) (Food.com)
Thin and crispy pizza (Budget Bytes)

Snacks:

Apples
Bananas
The best homemade granola (Garnish and Glaze)
Carrots
Cheese sticks
Celery sticks
Chili caramel Chex mix (How Sweet Eats)
Leftover pancakes
Oatmeal in various forms
Peanuts
Reese's peanut butter cupcakes (Your Cup of Cake)
Saltine crackers

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Big bag of broccoli
Hamburger

Fridge:

Eggplant

Carton of eggs
Half gallon of milk (finally a half gallon I used before it soured!)
One head of romaine lettuce
Red pepper
Rutabaga
Big bag of shredded cheese

Pantry:

Can of beets
Chili caramel Chex mix (How Sweet Eats)
Dried, shredded coconut
Nutritional yeast
Seasoning rub
Wheat germ

What went bad:

A little bit of an onion molded, but I was able to use the rest.

What I Prepped for Next Week: 

Eggplant and roasted red pepper dip (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)


What I Froze for Future Me:



Chopped carrots, garlic, and rutabaga for Biscuit-topped stew (Oatrageous Oatmeals)

Mexican-style brown rice meal bowls (The Instant Pot Electric Pressure Cooker Cookbook)

Red flannel skillet hash (Betty Crocker)

Virtuous carrot-herb oatmeal soup (Oatrageous Oatmeals)

Friday, May 10, 2024

Real Life Marriage: We Believed He Could, and He Did!


Five years ago, we were one month from our wedding. Today, we are six days past his graduation. Yes, graduation! We talked about the idea of him going back to school on our honeymoon. It was his idea first, and I seconded it. I wanted to give him every opportunity I'd had (and I'd gone to college and graduate school). I wanted him to have career opportunities. I wanted him to explore his interests. I loved him!

While we intended to change nothing our first year of marriage, we changed almost everything to pursue that dream. We quit our jobs and got new ones. We moved out of our first place and bought a condo. We moved to a new church and started making new friends. We learned to use public transit and navigate the city.

The four year journey to a bachelor's degree was anything but what we thought. In the end, it took four and a half years as he started working not just part-time, but 30 hours or more a week, all while taking full-time classes. We endured the COVID years and getting COVID, years of tiredness, at times living like roommates, and plenty of conflict. We experiences injuries and sadly, injured one another with some of our words and deeds. We scrimped and saved and sometimes indulged just to escape the grind. We almost missed graduation ceremonies because our heads were so far under the water that we didn't know the right date and time. But we did it. He did it!

He graduated. He has a job. I have a job. We are still married. By God's grace and provision, we managed for him to graduate college debt free. Hallelujah!

I am grateful. We are grateful. This journey has not just been about me, or him, or us. It's been about all our families, our community, our village. We all saw in Him the potential to get this done. We believed in him, and he did it. Praise Jesus!

Sunday, May 5, 2024

36.

Last year, I wanted to aim for acceptance. Little did I know all the year would throw at me, at us. While I did my share of kicking against the goads, most of the time I had no choice but to try to gulp down what life gave me and keep on going (Acts 26:14).

I have received lots of support this year. My family has received lots of support. I went back to counseling. I ran a lot. I started a writing project to try to help make sense of my life.

There's been a lot of grief, some over actual life lost, a lot over lost expectations, some expectations I did not even know I had.  There have been celebrations and victories, though I wish we would had celebrated more, because there were certainly moments we failed to celebrate, or could have celebrated bigger. After all, isn't life itself worth celebrating?

I'd like to say my goal is to celebrate more this next year, but from where I sit, that seems too much. Just living seems like a lot, so maybe that will be my phrase for this next year: Just live. Live for the Lord. Live for those I love. Live to leave a legacy. The older I get, the more my yearly goals are my life goals, and maybe that is the way it should be. After all, we only get one life to live, and no one but the Lord knows the number of our days.



Saturday, May 4, 2024

What I Used/What I Used Up (Week 18)

 

   

What I Used of My Meal Plan-

Breakfasts:

Lunches:

Best breakfast sandwiches on cheddar and green onion biscuits (The Kittchen)
Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot) and salsa
Sandwiches on 
sandwich bread (Sally's Baking Addiction) or whole wheat bread (Sally’s Baking Addiction)

St. Louis horseradish salad (Mr. Food)
Virtuous carrot-herb oatmeal soup (Oatrageous Oatmeals)

Dinners:

Breakfast for dinner [Scrambled eggs with cheese, green beans, and cheddar and green onion biscuits (The Kittchen]
No-knead pan pizza (Budget Bytes)
Red wine pasta with ham and Parmesan (How Sweet Eats)
Smoky farro with peas (Easy Vegetarian Slow Cooker)
Thin and crispy pizza (Budget Bytes)

Snacks:

What I Used Up--

Freezer:

Big bag of mozzarella cheese
Cooked sausage
Three packages of green beans
Shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot)
St. Louis horseradish salad (Mr. Food)
Red wine pasta with ham and Parmesan (How Sweet Eats)
Unsalted butter
Whole bean coffee

Fridge:


Egg yolk
Two old bags of carrots
Greek yogurt
Head of romaine lettuce
Sour milk


Pantry:


Pretzels

What went bad:

Nothing that I know of

What I Prepped for Next Week: 

Carrot and romaine salads with shredded chicken (365 Days of Crockpot) and salsa


What I Froze for Future Me:

Nothing! This is the week to use from the freezer!